yes or no, why is okay but not needed.
if you are adopted and have found your birth parents you'r welcom to share yur story
2006-10-27 12:40:52 · 15 answers · asked by Why Does It Do That? 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I was adopted when I was 5 days old and my whole life I wanted to find my birth parents. I would watch talk shows like Montel Williams and I would cry watching all the happy reunions. Then I got a major wake up call. The agency I hired found my biological mother 3 years ago (I was 24), and the reunion was anything like I imagined. It was very awkward. She's an alcoholic, and she expects me to forget about my adoptive parents, whom I love very much, she calls me often to tell me how much she loves me (we've only met once). She wants us to be "mom and daughter", really close, even though we don't know each other. I'm not saying it's bad for everyone, but anyone wanting to find their birth parents should be fully ready for anything, good or bad. It's not always a fairytale ending. I feel like I opened a can of worms. The one reason I'm happy I did it is that I realize how lucky I was to be adopted into such a great family and to have lived a very happy childhood.
2006-10-27 12:52:31 · answer #1 · answered by Nick's mom 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My daughter found me through the birth mother, no longer do I worry, wonder or pray for her, she is alive and doing great. She just finished 4 years of college and well on her way to whatever awaits her. We met and talked about her adoption, and she's very happy with her family. I can now let her go for I have seen this happiness to be true and a fact. Meeting her was clouser for me for I never once forgot her and I'll always love her.
2006-10-28 08:23:57 · answer #2 · answered by bprice215 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband was adopted and he met his birth mother, and biological brothers and sisters. His reason for wanting to meet his biological mother was to see if there were any medical conditions he should know of prior to us having our child and for his own medical history. His mom turned out to be a drug using alcoholic. Both his brothers and sisters are also alcoholics. He knows his biological fathers' name however the man does not wish to meet my husband. When my husband called him and mentioned the woman's name he hung the phone up. Did he get what he wanted out of this meeting? I'm not sure I think he wanted to know where he came from and have a good relationship with his biological family but after meeting them he changed his mind. The only funny thing to come out of this is one of his sisters use to hang out in a club he use to go to and he had hit on her several times luckly she always rejected him..lol
2006-10-27 22:37:06 · answer #3 · answered by texas_angel_wattitude 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My parents divorced when I was a baby and he moved off and didn't come back and signed away his parental rights. My mom remarried and he adopted me. He raised me and I call him dad, but when I had the chance, I wanted to meet my real dad. I'm glad I did so that I wouldn't wonder what he was like and stuff. Mow that I know him, we get along, but i'm very glad I wa snot raised by him! I actually was pretty lucky and I'm happy with the decision I made to meet him.
2006-10-27 20:14:52 · answer #4 · answered by #3ontheway! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would want to know things that had happened that would cause them to put me up for adoption as well.I would want to meet them and I definitely would try to find them. I would first tell my birth mother thank you for not having an abortion. It takes a strong, unselfish person to put their child up for adoption. I would want my birth parents to know that I was okay and let them know about the life I was able to have since they weren't selfish. I would also want to know the reasons I was placed for adoption.
2006-10-27 19:44:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the situation. If my parents were given the medical information that's all I would need to know. I would not want to try to find them because they may have had traumatic circumstances in which they had to give the baby up and I would not want to drudge up old memories. My brother-in-law was adopted and he said that he has no desire to find his birth mother as it was her choice to give him up.
2006-10-27 19:44:59 · answer #6 · answered by Ryan's mom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's 2 sides to every story and I would like to hear or atleast know why my biological parents gave me up for adoption.
2006-10-27 19:46:58 · answer #7 · answered by kiss4virgo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i wanted to find both my birth parents but was only able to locate one and she wouldnt meet me.i was told later that she had asked all her friends and some family members if she should and all said not to accept for one..her own mother...but i never heard from her.it was upsetting but in the end she is the one missing out.i wasnt looking for a new mommy...at that time i had started my own family and was wanting to know medical problmes,if any that were in the family lines...i guess i will never know.
2006-10-27 21:28:08 · answer #8 · answered by lovedove662000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I would want to know of any health problems they had, so that I could take precautions or at least just be aware of what may come.
2006-10-27 21:33:42 · answer #9 · answered by Stacy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
most definently... i would like to see the people who put me up for adoption b/c they couldn't take care of me.. but i would also like to thank em for not getting an abortion
2006-10-27 19:44:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋