i am a very very jealous girlfriend. i know my boyfiend isnt the cheating type and i know i should trust him, but involuntarily i get raging jealosu every time he talks with any other woman!! i dont want to be like this and i feel it will harm our relationship. i have talked to him about it but we dont know what to do. please help!! i hope he doesnt leave me for my stupid jealosy
2006-10-27 12:29:55 · 17 answers · asked by confundida 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just ask yourself "do you trust him?" each time you have these thoughts.
2006-10-27 12:32:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ok darling take a serious reality check here.
He's not cheating but yet you have a deal with him talking to other women.
Your jealous but he's doing nothing to provoke it.
Honestly?? you have trust issues
If the situation was in reverse I am sure you would not be happy being constantly scrutinised everytime you looked or talked to another male.
Take a serious think to why your acting like this maybe meditate or put some chill out music on and seriously relax and then an answer to why your being like this will come up (the inner voice)
Good luck
2006-10-27 12:49:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your jealousy will eventually drive him away, I know I had a jealous boyfriend, in the end I just couldn't live with his insecurity any more and we have now parted. I loved him but I did not love the green eyed monster that lived within him. Seek help if you can, as you may find that you will continue to carry this on into other relationships.
2006-10-27 12:48:02 · answer #3 · answered by XhappytalkX 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I went out with my boyfriend for 2 1/2 years and ended up leaving him because of his jealousy. Even though i never cheated on him (or even thought about it!) he was always suspicious of me talking to any other male be it my friends, his friends or randoms!
I saw his lack of trust in me as a sign that he didnt trust himself in similar situations and that he was trying to control me.
Try to calm it down sweetie! It's ok to be a little jealous- your boyfriend may actually like it but too much will drive him away. Try to laugh about it more e.g. if he's been talking to a girl and the green eyed monster kicks in, be more along the lines of 'oooooh she fancies you!' rather than kicking off a jealous fit!
Good luck!
2006-10-27 12:47:47 · answer #4 · answered by loopyfreckles 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Eventually he will leave you because that would make a person crazy. You need to go get counseling to examine why you are so jealous. It sounds like you may have some insecurity issues and you are taking it out on your boyfriend. No one like to feel that they cannot be trusted and you are doing that to him each and every time you act out. How would you feel if he did that to you? So you have to be responsible for your actions unless you want to take the chance and lose him.
2006-10-27 12:34:06 · answer #5 · answered by Marie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jealousy will get you nowhere you know you must try to control it. When you see your boyfriend talking to another woman just remain calm and think that he has chosen you to go out with and not her. If he wants to stray he will do so whether you are watching him or not. Think about all your good points that is why he wants to be with you.
2006-10-27 12:56:18 · answer #6 · answered by Kirks Folley 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to try and control it, i know it's hard, trust me i nearly lost my husband because of it. I hated hI'm talking to 1 certain woman (i still do) so i invited her to our wedding to show her he's mine! now im married i feel so much better, i dont get insecure like i did.
let him talk to other women, try to join in the conversation too if your in the same place of him. no matter what anyone says to you, you'll still get jealous, but try to control it around your boyfriend, just bite your lip if you have to or leave the room so he can't see you getting jealous
2006-10-27 12:37:36 · answer #7 · answered by zeldieuk2002 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to keep reminding yourself that jealousy is a wasted emotion and that it is extremely destructive, I am not and never have been jealous because I was taught this from a very young age.
2006-10-27 12:36:01 · answer #8 · answered by Lupee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him now that you might get stupid over it, that it's because you love him so much, that he is wonderful and you are crazy about him. Tell him to ignore it when you get like that, or that you just need some reasurance from him. also, try stepping away from it when it happens. make yourself get up and go get a drink or something. take yourself out of it. remind yourself that your the one he's gonna go home to. and make sure he has a good time when you both go home and he's not gonna wanna go anywhere :)
2006-10-27 12:34:01 · answer #9 · answered by purple_butterflyuk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless you control the jealousy you will lose him eventually.
Is it that your scared of him leaving you? i used to be like that too but i found that if i just swallowed those feelings down not even allowing myself to think of them then i enjoyed my relationship sooo much more.
Just remember he is with you because he wants you, why worry and push him away.
2006-10-27 12:36:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The Green monster is not easy to overcome, I know from experience. If I would be you I would take up Janella on her generous offer!
2006-10-27 12:38:34 · answer #11 · answered by Bo V 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋