I am hosting my 4 year old birthday party at a tea room. I am paying for all the girls' lunches but not the parents. How do I let them know that if they choose to stay they must 1) let me know (per the tea room staff request) and 2) they must pay for their own lunch?
2006-10-27 12:24:41 · 9 answers · asked by Melanie B 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Just tell them they wont be expecting you to pay for theirs as well
2006-10-27 12:26:52 · answer #1 · answered by woody 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think this is going to be a popular answer, but think of it this way.
If you had decided to have the party at home would you have asked the parents that wanted to stay to bring their own sack lunch?
It sucks, but the right thing would be to volunteer to pay for the adults and appreciate any one of them that offered to pay for themselves. It is tacky to ask them to pay.
But do call them and find out if they plan on attending the whole party for the reason that you expressed, the staff would like a head count so they can do their part for the party.
2006-10-27 14:11:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try something like this on the invitation:
"Party children will be having lunch and be ready for pickup at ____ o'clock.
Parents & siblings may wait for children ____(insert acceptable location at restaurant)."
PS. This sounds too complicated for a 4 yr old - and little kids really don't enjoy sit down meals - how about shifting it to an ice cream parlour, or something much less fussy?
2006-10-27 12:37:07 · answer #3 · answered by Patricia H 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Put it on the invitation.
"Lunch is provided for the children attending. If you wish to attend, there will be a charge of $$ to reserve your place. Please RSVP. The tea room must set up seating for all in attendance. Thank you"
I think this should explain.
2006-10-27 12:47:38 · answer #4 · answered by Rea 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can call each parent and tell them so they will already know what the invitation will say. You can also stick a small piece of paper inside each invitation with exactly what you want to say, along with an RSVP and phone number.
2006-10-31 06:24:58 · answer #5 · answered by babidoozer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell them your paying for the children, but it's not in your budget to pay for anyone else.
2006-10-27 16:42:56 · answer #6 · answered by Classy Granny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them. The children's lunches are paid for, but if you care to order something, you will be responsible for that payment.
2006-10-27 12:27:36 · answer #7 · answered by chattanoogamollyblue 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just put in the invitation:
"RSVP with number that will be attending."
"Lunch provided for all children."
2006-10-27 12:28:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
You can't. Pay it.
2006-10-27 12:26:54 · answer #9 · answered by BILL 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋