he is acting really off. like everything is happy and nice and then all of a sudden doom and gloom and i've done something wrong again. i didn't tell him what was up one time because HE had upset me and i thought he'd know why, 5 minutes later i was gonna tell him and he said it was too late, he didn't wanna know. cut to three days later and he's still pissed, he says that i always do this, that i never get better. tonight he's pissed at me over me being online because i hardly go to see him online, but i wanted to talk to him, but he's like 'talk to you later. bye'. if i dont call one day, the next day is hell like 'i cant believe i put up with your ****'. then two days are bad, and he's ok and happy again. he doesn't even listen to what i say, he just gets pissed at what he thinks i'm gonna do. not even things that i have done. if the phone is engaged at 10pm he thinks that i had an affair.
2006-10-27 12:16:41 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he's a control freak. get away from him fast. He is blaming you for his own inability to express or manage his own feelings. He's a loser.
2006-10-27 12:18:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Um, since you two aren't married or otherwise under any contractual obligation other than a verbal pronouncement, all you have to do to stop the confusing torture is say: "I'm breaking up with you. Don't talk to me anymore." That's really all there is to it. You don't have to worry about explaining yourself, or telling him what he did wrong, or anything like that. It's up to him to worry about himself and you to worry about yourself.
The worst thing you could do is string him along, nag him, or put up with his anger, hostility, moods, or whatever. Relationships are not self-sacrifice, they're a meeting of two minds, moving toward similar goals in life, together finding happiness. If you're suffering at all, then look out for yourself, and move on.
2006-10-27 12:43:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
That sounds like what they call "passive - agressive" behavior. So, yeah, I think he is punishing you. If he tells you it's "too late" to talk about something, that's not good for the relationship. It should never be "too late" to discuss something if it is important to you. Does he act like he cares about your feelings? Is he willing to work on these things, to compromise? Maybe you can offer to talk to him online more often if that is important to him, but he needs to back off and not accuse you of "an affair" when your phone is busy. If he's not willing to talk about and try to clear up some of these problems, I suggest you look for someone who is interested in a *good* relationship.
2006-10-27 12:21:26 · answer #3 · answered by pamgissa 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Uh this guy has some serious problems, you need to break it off as soon as possible.
This could turn into a very bad situation very quickly.
He is a control freak and might turn abusive later down the line.
BREAK IT OFF!
2006-10-27 12:26:59 · answer #4 · answered by Engel 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
SOunds like this guy is trying to control you. I wouldn't put up with this kind of behavior. He will be happy when you lose all your independence and want to be with him, talk to him and do everything with him. I'd cut him loose now before things get even worse for you.
2006-10-27 12:20:39 · answer #5 · answered by Scott T 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i think of what you're doing is authentic. merely ignoring the sound will artwork from time to time, yet your baby is doing it consistently. i might definitley no longer bribe your baby, which will initiate different undesirable behaviors (ex., screaming till you tell him if he stops you will purchase him something, then combating, just to get the article). the sole actual punishment is an afternoon holiday, precisely what you're doing. putting him in his room for 2 min. will help calm him down, and then think of approximately attempting to talk to him. tell him what he's completed incorrect. i might additionally propose staring at a number of those television shows alongside with Nanny 911. they might seem stupid, despite the fact that it may help coping with situations, alongside with this. a super form of those infants could be way uncontrolled, however the way she deals with issues, ought to enable you to.
2016-11-25 23:58:04 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont let this idiot mess with your head, dump him and get on with your life.
Hes an immature moron. I have been there and even iof the break is hard to do you will feel much better in a few weeks.
2006-10-27 12:19:35 · answer #7 · answered by huggz 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I answered this 2 questions ago -it would have saved all this mess-and he is trying to control you now-david in Jesus amazing grace
2006-10-30 01:36:29 · answer #8 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he's punishing you definitely
i think that he wants a way out of the relationship and cant find a clear way of telling you
so he's hoping that you get tired of his sh*t and let him go
2006-10-27 12:29:58 · answer #9 · answered by annie 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is there a reason why you are still with him?? It only gets worse once you are married!!
2006-10-27 12:20:13 · answer #10 · answered by mustanglady 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋