Me and my boyfriend have been together for over a year he is a great guy.and cant wait to be a daddy to his little girl witch will be born next month but he never had a mom his mom was 13 when he was born she did not have him long till he was tooking away and given to his dad. his dad was a druge and would hit him even broke his arm when he was little I show him I will never leave and that I will always love him but me only being 16 and him 19 could all this stuff that happend to him affect us and are new baby. How do you show somone that has been through all this that there are people that love him and wont hurt him please help..
2006-10-27 12:06:13 · 9 answers · asked by Heather marie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Whew, you asked a big question. First of all, you must realize that God is love. He needs to have Jesus in his life in order to know love and give love. Second, he needs to learn how to let go of his past and love himself. I always say that you should profit from your pain. Even though he had a rough upbringing, it does not mean that he is not capable of bouncing back. The child will help him to see things in a different way, but first he needs to open his heart to see.
2006-10-27 12:15:50 · answer #1 · answered by ShacklesOff.com 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He has to be the one to let go of his past, first off. The only way you can prove to him that you are going to be there for him is to do just that. It's only been a year, you cannot undo his life in that time. If you are serious about him and this relationship it is going to take alot of time and patience. He first has to trust you, then and only then will he open his heart to you. Just know that if you ever hurt him or give him any doubt as to your relationship he will not trust you. Love him, that's the only thing you can do.
2006-10-27 19:12:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, instead of you writing this, it should be him.. He should be wanting to show you that because of what happend he will be a great father and wonderful to you too. He actually experienced the downside so the only way he should want to look is up.. Just stand behand him and work on this together... It will be ok..
2006-10-27 19:11:35 · answer #3 · answered by mizz_toree 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he knows it already. Having a new baby changes a person for the better because you try not to make the same mistakes our parents made with us. Theres nothing you can really do to prove this to him. Just keep telling him how much you love and appreciate him. Good luck
2006-10-27 19:13:10 · answer #4 · answered by teena 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, your ages and past will greatly impact the baby. You should give the baby up for adoption and wait 10 years + get married before bringing another life into this world.
http://www.adoption.org/
2006-10-27 19:11:30 · answer #5 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It will take a lot of time and patience.
Affection, conversation, attention. Everyday and everytime.
Only with a true heart and feelings you can assure a person that he has someone who really loves and care for him.
2006-10-27 19:09:11 · answer #6 · answered by Carlos A 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you love him and you would never hurt him. Just talk to him I am positive he will understand. What ever you do be there for him.
2006-10-27 19:11:21 · answer #7 · answered by Tina D 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just be a little nicer and you will see.
2006-10-27 19:21:33 · answer #8 · answered by Lala H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should have that about all that before you got pregnant.
2006-10-27 19:09:22 · answer #9 · answered by fajita 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋