My man and I were together for a year and a half....we live together for a year.....we had a blow up argument a little over a month ago, and I asked him to leave the house for a while so I could have some space....all of this 2 weeks before we were supposed to move (I bought a house). He got so mad when I asked him to take a walk for a while, he insisted I could not make him go anywhere unless I planned on calling someone to escort him out. Needless to say, I got very angry...and told him to get out for good and he did. Now I am sorry for what happened, and we both over-reacted. I have emailed him a few times, no response. I miss him so much, he is my soul mate and I love him, and always will. I need ideas on how to get him to respond to me...I cannot live without him anymore. Today is my birthday, and I so was wishing I would hear from him, no such luck. What a depressing birthday. HELP!!!!
2006-10-27 11:54:49 · 13 answers · asked by Sparkle 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
First of all you have to find out if he is still alive and if he is you need to have a serious talk with him about your future..his behaviour was totally wrong he sounds very immature.
2006-10-27 11:57:48 · answer #1 · answered by fajita 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some things can't be fixed. You said you wanted him gone for good and that's what you got.
It's possible he'll wander back into your life after he's made you suffer alone on your birthday. I'm really surprised that you'd have such a bad argument with your so-called soul mate. I suppose when you told him to leave forever you didn't consider him the soul mate you loved and couldn't love without.
You can't beg or force or guilt someone into loving you again.
2006-10-27 19:01:52 · answer #2 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to determine whether it is your loneliness that is bothering you or if your man leaving you is what's bothering you.
I find that people overuse the term "soul mate". Remember, it takes two people to have a soul mate. If a person considers you a soul mate but you don't like them, are they your soul mate?
The fact is that your Ex seems like the kind of person that'll will not add to your life (on the whole). What you need to do is go out with your girlfriends for your birthday and have some fun. Remind yourself that being single isn't bad. In fact, sometimes it's great!
2006-10-27 19:01:46 · answer #3 · answered by bmusementpark 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Happy Birthday! Let him know how you feel but give him the space to get over it. Some people don't handle an argument very well. He could be feeling ashamed and does not know how to approach the subject. Let him feel comfortable coming to you and tell him that you're not judging him, it's just something stupid that happened between the both of you. We all go through that, and I for one can relate to the fact that it's hard for me to communicate my feelings. I tend to bottle things up, so even though he's not showing it, doesn't mean that he doesn't feel hurt.
2006-10-27 19:08:55 · answer #4 · answered by topogigio 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't even bother! What you need to do is take up skydiving! You'll have more fun than you could ever have with a boyfriend. Once you leave the plane, you'll forget all about him!
And there are lots of cute skydiving guys at every dropzone in the country. Skydivers know how to have fun! Trust me!
2006-10-27 19:02:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If e-mail is your only means of communication with him, try sending him an e-card that has an apology theme. I would certainly be moved by one. Maybe your husband is afraid to e-mail you or he is afraid of what he may come home to. Let him know that he is not coming home to an angry wife who will kill him but a gentle wife that just wants to be with her sweetheart. I think an e-card does a pretty good job of that.
Make sure you don't have any spelling errors.
2006-10-27 19:11:18 · answer #6 · answered by ravensfan172003 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first off, HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!! secondly, do you have a phone number to call him at? maybe he'd be more likly to answer the phone or if you know where he is at all maybe you should go to see him, i hope you know where he is because odds are just seeing you again will help your case so much more than anything you can say on an email. i hope things get better for you.
2006-10-27 18:58:38 · answer #7 · answered by n4il_p0lish2000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all....Happy Birthday!!!! Get out and do something fun on your birthday and enjoy yourself. I don't think he deserves you. I would give him the space....if he decides to come back, he will. In the meantime, do whatever you need to do in order to get your mind off of him.
2006-10-27 18:58:59 · answer #8 · answered by Christy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
back off give him a while if he loves you for real he will be back.before i got married 29 years ago ,,,,,we split up almost a year. i could not forget her, i tried. i really love her . so i made the first move. that was29 years ago. we are still together.......
2006-10-27 19:09:21 · answer #9 · answered by florida boy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Happy BIrthday! Call him and ask him to meet you someplace so you can seriously talk about where ya'll stand.
2006-10-27 19:00:35 · answer #10 · answered by Steel Magnolia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋