I have a girlfriend who admitted that she never had an orgasm with me, but she said she is ok and she felt great when having sex with me. She liked the warmth and lovingly atmosphere and she moans quite heavily during sex because she said the stimulation iwas always very good but still she couldn't reach orgasm and we have been doing this for months now and we did it very often.
She said herself that she is quite "difficult" and with her previous boyfriend, she can get orgasm because that guy was really "powerful" (can go for hours and get through 6 times in a row!!), however she said reaching orgasm does not mean that she was happier with him. She dumped the guy later because she realized he was a complete jerk.
Our relationship is wonderful, but just sometimes I think about this.
2006-10-27 11:47:25 · 11 answers · asked by Whatta 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think it's more about how much fun you have during it... 6 times is just ridiculous to me. Who would want to do it that many times?! It's not all about orgasm, it's more about closeness and trust. I dont she'd leave you over that, most girls are too insecure to go leaving a guy just because they dont get off every time.
However, why doesnt she get off with you? Maybe you should look into it... not saying you do anything wrong, but maybe she's nervous? Or you do something to make her uncomfortable in normal life? You never know, they've found that everyday stuff in relationships can affect your sex life so, talk to her. And try a little harder ;-) oh, and work together, lol.
2006-10-27 11:55:12 · answer #1 · answered by guitarsoloist07 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A guy that is willing to go for HOURS for her....and comes SIX times in a row....but she leaves him cuz he's a jerk. Why would a guy willing to put ALL of that effort into her happiness in bed be a jerk the rest of the time? Analyze it. Sounds like she is trying to lower your self-esteem if you ask me. I knew a girl in high-school that told a guy this (a girlfriend of mines friend) and it turned out she told my gf she thought the guy was great in bed! (So why tell him differently?) Tell your GF that you feel a couple should be compatible in all ways, and that you two should part ways, then tell your friends that you couldn't make her orgasm, which is why you broke up. Plus, why would she have sex with you so often if she really wasn't getting anything out of it? I would think she would at least TAPER it. She sounds like a control freak-watch-she is.
2006-10-27 12:21:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You mean the Sharon Stone-backarching-orgasm in Basic Instinct?
2006-10-27 11:54:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I obtained a book called "The Joy of Sex" and I'm sure that there are other books that help couples learn how to satisfy each other.
Sex isn't just about the intercourse; it's about foreplay and after play.
Listen to each other; touch yourselves and find out what you really like and then explore on each other.
It helps make a relationship grow!
2006-10-27 11:51:09 · answer #4 · answered by carrie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i honestly wouldn't leave a guy becuz of an orgasm issue. i mean if he can do it than thats def. a bonus. but lik she sed.. it doesn't reali bother her, so i guess its ok. she loves u for many other reasons. i mean its better to have an amazing guy who's not 'powerful' in bed than one that is that can't do any other **** to make me happy. and u can always spice up the sex even more with new techniques, sex toys, etc.
2006-10-27 11:50:23 · answer #5 · answered by ursosexxii 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she ling man how would you feel if you couldn't bust a n u t h o e s feel the same way she play the happy role but shes not try extend for play don't attack the clitoris but lick around it in a figure 8 motion play with her t i t s all that **** after about 30 to 45 min of that s h i t hit it missionary style body to body grind the p u s s y
2006-10-27 12:03:47 · answer #6 · answered by Dr shiznet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't orgasm either through just sex... try clit stimulation. That is GREAT during sex. but even then, its not a guarantee to get her off. If she says she is happy with it, don't sweat it... she likes you for who you are and how you make her feel... not her orgasm
2006-10-27 11:54:38 · answer #7 · answered by Karena C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i left my ex because of this. well not soley because of this. more because he didn't try or even cared if i had an orgasm. in fact he was annoyed anytime i wanted to have sex with him.
and shame on her for even telling you about the ex b/f. she shouldn't have told you that.
try toys. maybe she needs additional stimulation. try a stop and go method to help you maintain a longer time.
2006-10-27 11:55:29 · answer #8 · answered by Bella 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are wonderful for asking and I wouldn't leave you
Sounds like she is happy so who cares what we or you think, lol
A trick to try if she is willing is to blindfold her-then touch her all over and get her in a tizzy. i guarantee that the blindfold will heighten her awareness (along with KY's warming massage gel, maybe) and she will blow a gasket, figuratively :-)
Have a great life!
2006-10-27 11:54:33 · answer #9 · answered by msijg 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she should try taking the pressure off of you to "perform". Sounds like she needs to figure out what works for herself and then teach you. I don't think this should threaten your relationship, you two can work this out!
2006-10-27 11:57:17 · answer #10 · answered by Janelle 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋