ok, first of all, i am VERY VERY shy and am 15 and never had a GF before...
ok, so it's nearing the end of the first quearter and theirs this girl i like, now first a few times at the start of the year she looked at me, then my frein dgaver her a note, she smiled he siad, but i still didn't aproch her, i ran out of the room when i panicked, now over time all my freinds that sit near me found out, and started saying it outloud and she heard, proboly, after all this my heart was beating and i hid myself so she couldn't see me, then my freind 2 days later.... walked over and told her, then while i still panicked and not thinking clearly, she told her freind to give me a note, and she tried, but i siad no and ran out of the room, and dropped the note, the as i have seen her in the morning walking with a boy from her bus and i think thats her boyfreind and i would rather never know then find out. now today she looked at me, and waved to my freind near me who i was talkin to.
HELP...
2006-10-27 11:45:39 · 6 answers · asked by ThemusicalArtist 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i dont know what to do..and i am regetting loosing the note..
please help....
2006-10-27 11:46:17 · update #1
well, today she kinda looked at me but...i just got and idea....i'm very shy ok..thats like asking to walk off a bridge to talk to her...
so who thinks writeing her a note about it would help?
im still kicking myself mentally in the head for not taking it....
i need some ideas..=(
2006-10-27 12:00:10 · update #2
i'ts called being extremly shy.....
2006-10-27 12:01:00 · update #3
ggrreeaaattt. now i feel worse....
looks like im gonna go back to the enjoyment of being alone.
thats better in some ways...
2006-10-27 12:11:05 · update #4
Well you do not have near the problem you think you do. However your actions speck far louder than words.
It is quite possible this girl might have liked you if she could have gotten to know you. Being shy.....and you are right you are over the top on this...is very hard to get around, especially at your age.
I was shy when your age, quite a bit like yourself. I never had a girlfriend because I was too afraid of the possible rejection. I had a chance with a girl once as she kept smiling at me as I left study hall. But I could not believe it and kept on going. Before long another, not so shy boy, took her out. There was no more smiling after that.
At your age getting around being shy is almost impossible. But as you get older it will get better.
But you will have to work at it.
The fear of rejection, fear that we will be laughed at, fear that we won't ever measure up to her expectations keep us from even just saying hi.
A girl may even trip you and fall under you but there is no way a shy person would think it anything more than an accident.
You have a very bad self esteem. The only way to help here is for you to realize that you are just as good, or even better, than every one else. That is called confidence and unless you develop that you will always have problems with girls.
However it is not all bad. This usually means you are a really good guy who cares a lot about other people. This you never want to loose.
As for me I met my first wife at age 23. In fact the first girl I ever went out with. Married for 37 years. We divorced, in part because of my inability to open up and talk. I am married again.
There are lots of girls out there. Practice on your confidence. You develop that and you will have no more problems.
The difference between a shy person and a confident person is as follows:
A shy person will meet someone and just know they will not like them.....so they say nothing.
A confident person will meet someone and just know they will like then....and will walk up and say HI!
It is as simple....and as hard.... as that.
2006-10-27 12:18:15 · answer #1 · answered by John B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all: What are you thinking?
A girl that you likes send you a note and you dont take it.
Sorry to tell you, but the signs you are showing is that you do not deserve her attention.
Even though, you might have one more chance.
Just ask for her phone number and after one long conversation, aks her out. JUST DO IT!!!!!
2006-10-27 18:58:27 · answer #2 · answered by Carlos A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Man, welcome to the world of girls! first of all. stay calm. you do that, she'll respect that. stay calm stay calm dont panic! just let her know whats up! and dont be nervous (well try your best) communication helps alot. let her know. somehing like... "hey, i lost that note or whatever. so i dont know what was in that, you know i like you. the next step is up to you." something like that... just be calm, and if you go up to her and tell her yourself, as opposed to having other people go up to her and say "oooh that guy over there likes you"... thing will work out better.
2006-10-27 18:54:52 · answer #3 · answered by Uncle Dan 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know its hard as you are really shy but you need to be brave and strong and just go and talk to her about if she is intersted then you done the right thing and even if she isn't interested at least you know you can approach girls you like now!!
So go for it!!!
2006-10-27 18:51:06 · answer #4 · answered by nealeyus 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Set her straight.Tell her how u feel and ask her out> U'll regret it if u dont..Doit b4 its too late.
2006-10-27 21:35:31 · answer #5 · answered by *~Love?~* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ur screwd man...im sorry but itz true!!
2006-10-27 18:49:23 · answer #6 · answered by Darrick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋