I just had a baby about a month ago and yesterday I found out my mother is pregnant again and this will be her fifth child she asked me did I want her to have it or get an abortion I don't know what to say because I don't think its alright to kill a child and then again I really don't want another brother/sister WHAT SHOULD I TELL HER?
2006-10-27 11:31:14 · 21 answers · asked by A'Kerriah Momma 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
If you don't think abortion is right, tell her what you think. However, your mom will ultimately make this decision for herself and what you say might not make a difference. I would just tell her you just had a baby and see how beautiful this new life is and you don't want your sibling dead. I can't guarantee she will keep this child, so be prepared to be disappointed. Also ask her next time she is in this type of situation that she not bring you into it or let you know. I feel really bad, but just enjoy your baby and don't let this eat you up. Maybe you should consider keeping some distance from her in the future, just for your own sake and sanity. Good luck!!!
2006-10-27 11:37:33 · answer #1 · answered by Michaela 4120 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How selfish of your mother to ask you a question like that. She is wrong to involve you in a decision that should be between herself and the father of the baby.
Abortion is a personal choice, and although I agree with the choice, I personally don't agree with abortion.
It's not up to you to decide whether or not you have "another brother or sister", that decision should be made by your mother and ?
There are alternatives to abortion. If your mother doesn't want another child, she can always give the child up for adoption.
Whatever she decides, you should make it clear that it is "her" decision. If you don't agree with abortion than tell her that. If your mother decides to have an abortion, let her live with the guilt. That isn't something that you need to live with also.
My heart goes out to you and the unborn child, my prayers are with all of you. Best of luck.
2006-10-27 11:56:18 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why in the hell is she asking YOU? Who cares if you don't want another Brother or sister.... Do you know how many people would love to have a brother or sister?! That is just ridiculous. I would tell her that if she wants to get an abortion to talk to the baby's father! He should be the one she's talking to! OMG.... how could you be thinking of telling your mother to kill her baby.... especially after you just had one!
I pray for that poor unborn child.
2006-10-27 11:37:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your mom seems slightly immature. How does a mom look asking her child if they should get an abortion. SHe needs to be a woman and have the baby. If she does not want the baby, then she needs to give it to someone who does. There are millions of people who would love to adopt.
2006-10-27 12:54:55 · answer #4 · answered by ShacklesOff.com 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you should tell your mother anything. Just because your mother has asked a question it doesn't necessarily mean she's looking for an answer. She may just be using you as a 'sounding board' or a way to safely vent frustrations.
I've made the mistake of 'telling' my mom what to do when she's asked me questions like this before....it always led to trouble.
Are you the oldest of the children? If so, you may very well be the only 'safe' adult female around to have these types of conversation with. Just do your best to remember that your mom isn't just a mom...she's a woman with fears just like anyone else.
Just be there for her.
2006-10-27 12:47:27 · answer #5 · answered by lilplynrs 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should never make a decision of someone else having a baby or not. She is trying to please you by asking how you feel about it. It will be very selfish of you to say you don't want another brother/sister. That is one of God's blessings in your mom's growing belly. Just read your own question & imagine it being asked by someone other than your self. Doesn't it seem like you are being selfish to even "think" about telling your mom you don't want another sibling. Imagine your mom giving one of your other sis/bros that choice when she was pregnant with you... Or better yet... imagine someone telling you they didn't want your 9 month old to be born. Wouldn't that hurt you. I can't understand why your mom is leaving this up to you to deside, but please allow this unborn child the same opportunities you've had in life... PLEASE... Thanks!!!
2006-10-27 11:42:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't feel it's right to kill the baby then their shouldn't be a problem with her having it. I know if my mom was to get pregnant I would be more worried about the health factor due to her age then me being bothered by another brother or sister.
2006-10-27 11:34:03 · answer #7 · answered by kelly_frogs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is her decision, not yours and she is very wrong by asking you and putting you in the middle of this issue. She needs to do be responsible in this situation you have a child to raise yourself......hey has she ever heard of adoption? There are so many loving people that cannot have children and would love to have a baby to love. She needs to be more mature when it comes to sex and protect herself so this doesn't happen again. You are not the one to make this decision, she is.
2006-10-27 12:43:08 · answer #8 · answered by NolaDawn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that it is not a decision for you to make since you will not be raising the child. I am sorry to ask but what kind of a mother would ask such a question to her daughter?
2006-10-27 11:34:53 · answer #9 · answered by bluedawn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not up to you at all.. That is your mother choice.. she will be the one raising your new sister or brother regardless of how you might feel its your mother's call.. The only thing you can give is unconditional love no matter what road she takes.. good support..
2006-10-27 11:48:19 · answer #10 · answered by M M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋