Is it possible to get someone who is my physical opposite, to find me attractive?

Question

I feel terrible for asking this, but I only find my physical opposite attractive.

I'm black with milk chocolate coloured skin and dark, almost black eyes. I'm quite slim (size 10 - 12) and around 5'6". I can't help it but I love guys with clear coloured eyes and fair hair.

Blue eyes, blond hair and 5'11" upwards is perfect for me. The trouble is, that guys of that description don't seem to be attracted to me. I get a lot of attention from black guys but I have never ever been attracted to any. I've always put it down to the fact that I have three brothers and mainly male cousins- attraction to a black guys feels really wrong for me- is that weird?

Are tall, blond-haired, blue-eyed guys aged 28 to 35 attracted to 33 year old black girls who look a bit like Jamelia? And if so, are they all already spoken for- where's a good place to find one, do I have to go from Tooting Bec to Sweden??

Answer 1

theres nothing wrong with that sweetheart not in todays world.granted there are some who believe you should stick with ya own but thats just racist sh*t.

And as for where the guys are ive got a funny feeling theres gonna but loads coming your way soon after asking this q!!!lol
you sound sexy as hell.

good luk.

Answer 2

Congratulations, you're discovering the difference between love and lust. When you're in love, you realize that physical attractiveness isn't everything...or hardly anything. If your object of affection is ugly, you get used to it and learn to see their inner beauty. If they're physically attractive, you know (or come to learn) that good looks don't last forever, and so once again, it's what's on the inside that counts. I just have two pieces of advice to give you. First, do NOT start a physical relationship with him until you're finished with his class and the grades are in. Second, make absolutely sure he isn't already married (some people don't wear rings to work); if he is, do NOT get involved.

Answer 3

Are you attracted to fat white guys? Really?

It is a hard truth, but the physical outside is really and truly less important than the mind's inside. And this is you we're talking about, not some abstract dark coloured woman. Maybe your best bet is to settle down some evening, alone, and work out what you really want from a man. It may be that you are very lucky to be so picky - it gives you time to evaluate the inner man before you go vaulting over the edge about physical attributes. And you may be simply avoiding people who remind you of your family - and sometimes there is nothing wrong with that.

I get the feeling, though, that you are feeling pretty risque, and that is okay, as long as you recognise it and just want to have fun. If you recognise this, you'll probably have half the nation falling over themselves to date you.

Answer 4

I gotta say not only do you sound damn fine but I'm exactly the same! and your physical opposite... :-)

I am a white guy 6"2 blue eyes darkish brown hair and I am attracted to non-white girls including black girls..

I'm 29 by the way so if you wanna hit me up why not send me an email and take it from there..

Answer 5

Your question is perfecly rational. When it comes to inter racial relationships in the U.K, traditionally it has been for black guys to date white girls. But thats changing now, with a lot of white guys dating black girls. Everybody has a 'type' physically. Yours just happens to be blue eyed blokes , like me. My type just happens to be Jamelia lookalikes in their 30's. By the way, I'll be in o'neals , muswell hill at the weekend. Ask for Shayno x x

Answer 6

Lots of people are only attracted to thier opposites. Let friends know your type. Tell them if come across one, to introduce you. You might also try a dating service that only shows you the kind of man your looking for. Lots of pale skin, light eyes fellows , find chocolate girls exotic & exciting. There is one out there now just looking for you, but alas men are not as smart as women, so your going to have to help him find you! Good luck. He does exist

Answer 7

I believe it is possible for physical, mental, and even spiritual opposites to be attracted to each other, but how attached to your physical checklist are you? I understand you only want a white man and I have no problem with that, but how do you know you're not missing other guys that are perfect for you only because they don't match your wants. I don't believe in settling and you shouldn't, but what happens when you meet this 6'2" blue eyed and blond haired prince and he says you're too short? It won't hurt to be a little flexible with your wants and then you might find your needs will be met.

Answer 8

I have a best friend and she is black 5'2 and very cute. Her husband is 6'6 blond and blue eyes. She is a Brit and grew up in Kent. She said growing up she had a hard time dating. She moved to London and things changed. Maybe hang out in a larger city

Answer 9

Wat you feel is lust or infatuation not attraction. Attraction is not a physical thing and it vary from one individaul to another.thats why you find in any where you go different people from every works of life attract themselves individually eg disaple person attracted to a physically complete person or black attracted to white person.you can only be attracted to one white guy at a time not all white guys u meet anywhere.Lust and infatuation is good but a little bit too negative but Attraction is beautiful and when u feel it one day dont wait for him to make the move you can too

Answer 10

Hey they say opposites attract, me and my bf dnt exactly have that much in common and weve been 2gether 4 2 years, we r interested in sum stuff, which we neva get bored of and we love each other thats all that matters