would someone that really knows what they are atlking about tell me how old you have to be to choose whether you dont want to visit one of your parents if they are divorced.
2006-10-27 11:26:18 · 22 answers · asked by LIL Shady 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
It depends by the state, but in general the judge will talk to any child about their concerns, in chambers with a child advocate (also known as a "guardian ad litem" prior to the divorce to make a decision.
Generally 10 and above is the age break where a judge will listen to the child's concerns, and by 14 most judges will give a huge amount of credence to the child's concerns if they aren't based on some immature reason like "avoiding the rules at YYY house", but are "I am not as safe at YYY house because ___________".
After the divorce it is a bit harder, but you can still contact the same "guardian at litem" who was appointed in the divorce if there was one and request a new hearing. If there was not one appointed and you feel unsafe at one house, you can always call the local version of "child protective services" and request information on how to contact an advocate to go to court with you.
Good luck in what must be a tough situation.
2006-10-27 14:01:01 · answer #1 · answered by HeartSpeaker 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mate if you don't want to visit then put your foot down and make them listen to you.
When my parents got divorced I hated having to go and see my dad and his "new family" it made me feel like total crap, so I had to stop going for a while cause it was just too upsetting. You have to let your parents know that this concerns you and no matter how old you are you have the right to choose. Being young is tough enough without being forced to do things you don't want.
Talk to them, try not to get upset, but just tell them what you want.
It's YOUR life
good luck
2006-10-27 11:31:54 · answer #2 · answered by holmegirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should ask the judge. It is different in each state, so any advice would not be correct. If you are sure that is what you want to do, then I definetly would contact the court and file a petition. You have to do it the right way, and the courthouse will be able to guide you through the steps.
2006-10-27 11:29:57 · answer #3 · answered by TotallylovesTodd! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess that all depends on what kind of divorce agreement your parents had with visitation with you. but i would say if you are at least 12 or so it may be old enough not to see the other one.
my parents divorce but can't remember the age now.
2006-10-27 11:29:48 · answer #4 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lot of states have different ages for this in West Virginia it is at the age of12 and some could be lower. When my daughter didn't want to see father she was eight and the courts held let her decide and he was never there for her since birth so she didn't really know him.
2006-10-27 12:29:14 · answer #5 · answered by fonda b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The choice in deciding if a person does not want to visit one of their parent should be at any age. The child should express this to their other parent and if they do not want to go, then they should not be forced. Depending on what happened int eh dovirce and how the kids feel about it or were affected, there are time they may not want to visit and they should not be forced to see them by the other parent.
2006-10-27 11:32:49 · answer #6 · answered by kevin T 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
any age really, it's always the child's best interest at stake and if they tell the courts they don't want to see the parent anymore, and why they feel that way, they can be granted that request no matter what the age. I never had to see my father, and i chose that at 4
2006-10-27 11:29:29 · answer #7 · answered by innocentkitty214 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to be an age.
You have to be able to say, "I want to go here." and "I don't want to go there." The courts listen to children when they have an opinion.
You can ask the parent you want to live with to see if the court will appoint you a guardian ad litem. A guardian ad litem is an attorney who volunteers a number of hours to represent children. The guardian ad litem determines whether or not you really understand what you
are asking. Then you can ask to have visitation modified.
2006-10-27 11:34:40 · answer #8 · answered by Sunbaby 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Depends on where you live... In the state of Illinois the legal age is 13.
2006-10-28 05:16:29 · answer #9 · answered by Bella 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i was 12 and was able to not only chose who i would rather live with...i was able to chose neither. they had been divorced for years and my dad was the custodial parent. the laws vary in diff states but i would talk to an attorney. first consultation is free with most.
2006-10-27 11:29:02 · answer #10 · answered by too_damned_kute 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋