Me and my boyfriend have been dating for over 6 months now. We lived in another city together after I graduated. Now that we are back home, I'm working for my father's company as a taper. There are a couple of boarders who I've made friends with and today I found screws in my mud that I was using. I thought this was weird and knew who it most likely was and shrugged it off as a funny joke. Then I went to my car after work, and on a piece of tape off my tape roll was a note from the boarder that I have been innocently crushing on. He asked me to dinner and told me to call him, and I have been thinking of this since I got off work. I don't know what to do. My boyfriend has never told me he loved me, and we are slightly on the rocks. I really like this other guy but at the same time I don't want to ruin things with my bf because.. well.. he's part of the family and EVERYONE likes him... I don't know. I'm so lost..
2006-10-27 11:23:55 · 15 answers · asked by spiceywolfe 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
First of all you should be fair and upright in character. It sounds like you want to start dating other people and theres nothing wrong with this if you are not in love. If you were content and happy you would'nt even consider saying yes, unless you were a whorish two timing tramp. Just because your boyfriend has'nt told you he loves you is insignificant. You have to love each other and besides a wise man may fall in love in a second, but it could be years before he disclosed it. If your boyfriend has been a good guy he does'nt deserve anything less then your respect and honesty. Any other choice besides honesty is the wrong choice. One question-does the guy that asked you out know that you have a boyfriend? Because if he knows he's a dirtbag thief and i would stay away from him. Be good, the lord is watching. good luck
2006-10-27 11:42:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hello,
Be honest with yourself first you said your self that you liked this guy you also said that you are on the rocks it sounds to me that when you say everyone likes him your saying that you are afraid of what other people in your family think of your relationship more than yourself. I think that the most important thing is to say to yourself honestly I am not happy in my current relationship and cut it off and start seeing the other guy after wards. Or at least give it a chance but don't cheat on your bf be honest its much more honorable and you will learn to have more self respect and the other guy will respect you more if you don't see both of them at the same time.
2006-10-27 11:33:07 · answer #2 · answered by shawn_mauldin 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you're really thinking of going out w/ this other guy then things must not be going well w/ your bf. To even think about dating another man is just one step closer to cheating.
See if things get any better with your boyfriend and if they continue on this way then just leave. You can't stay in a broken relationship forever. And if you're already having these problems only 6 months in - then it might not be meant to be.
2006-10-27 11:32:38 · answer #3 · answered by Niko 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do anything you will regret. If you must go out with this other guy end it with the boyfriend. Have enough love and respect for your relationship and your boy friend to do things right. Think about if the situation was flipped what would you want him to do?????? You shouldn't continue in a relationship for the sake of your family but be sure of what you are doing before you do it! You certainly don't want to discover that you ditched your true love.
2006-10-27 11:30:49 · answer #4 · answered by spirit filled 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The fact that you are even interested by the other guy bespeaks a lot about your cruuent realtionship.
Its great that everyone likes you bf, but if he doesn't tell you that he loves you after 6 months - its time to move on (in my opinion) Sometimes we try to make bf out of guys that are really just Friends. If it were me I would have to give the other guy a chance, there is obviously some chemistry!
2006-10-27 11:34:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tidy up one room before moving to the next.
Don't be that girl who needs to secure one before dumping the other.
It's hard on everybody.
Sounds like it's time for a new BF. Get rid of the old one first, though. Otherwise you look really bad.
2006-10-27 11:26:29 · answer #6 · answered by kristi 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to grow up! Your probably slightly on the rocks as you put it because a man can tell when something isnt passing the smell test just like a women can. If you go out with this guy before you break up with your boy friend, guess what that makes you..............and then you will get what you deserve. Curbed!
2006-10-27 11:27:11 · answer #7 · answered by airgame12 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You have to be honest.
With yourself as well as your boyfriend and your crush. When youre with someone, the thought of being with anyone else, is supposed to disappear; but they won't if you really don't want them to.
Are you more afraid of losing what you have with your current boyfriend, or is it more of you don't want to upset him, and have to answer the questions that your family will definately be asking?
Honesty is the key here... all around.
2006-10-27 11:29:49 · answer #8 · answered by llsoinlovell 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it extremely is stressful for you, yet your mom is merely protecting you and would not choose for something to happen to you. Age distinction would not count she will consistently assume a guy is to previous for you on account which you're her daughter. And particular your mom might have met your father a similar time you met yours and your mom probable made some errors that she merely would not choose for repeated to you. merely pay attention to her using fact interior the top if something does happen to you, you will sense undesirable for no longer listening and you will sense sorry relating to the result.
2016-11-25 23:57:15 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think about it. Is this other guy nice sweet smart...Everything you've wanted?....OR is this the other one the mr.right? Just because your family likes him doesnt mean you should be forced to stay with him. I hope this works out!
2006-10-27 11:26:54 · answer #10 · answered by jerrell'sz_bOO. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋