The way I see it is that the first time a guy sees a girl, he just sees her as an object. I refuse to let guys in as I think they will just use me and mess me about. What do I do?
2006-10-27 11:03:27 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
your wrong. and you may have lost servreal good guys because of the way you think. time to start chaging your thinking.
thats like me saying I think all chicks are gold diggers. and dumping them all.
pretty stupid way to think huh?
2006-10-27 11:05:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cherry, It seems that you seem to be attracting the wrong type of guys, or maybe subconsciously you are drawn towards them. Not knowing what you look like, I can only assume. Not all of us guys are into this dating thing for what we can get, but what we can get out of it in the long run. And no, we don't all see women as an object, unless of course you are showing yourself as that sort of woman. I don't think that you are. You are just having a string of bad luck. Don't give up just yet and look around and see what other guys are out there. You might also look into the signs. Try Tauruses, Cancers and Capricorn men. Who knows. It might just work!!!! Good Luck!!
2006-10-27 18:12:55 · answer #2 · answered by Al s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a guy and I know most guys have a one track mind. It all depends on the person, their beliefs, age and personality. There are some nice guys out there too. You just have to be patient. If you are pretty young ( like under 20), wait until you are 25. I would stick with guys within 5 years of your age. Hold off until you meet someone that wants you for more than just ***. You will know when you have found him. Good luck!
2006-10-27 18:10:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be friends. For the most part, youre right, they do want one thing in particular. ;) But, what else do they look for right away? That you can cook? Produce perfect little humans?
Scrub floors, do laundry? nahhh. They want fun, happy, calm companionship and se*. Once you start doing all the other stuff, you dont look so much like a girlfriend anymore. You dont have to go all the way with a guy, just kiss and stuff and get to know each others goals, likes and dislikes and enjoy experiences together.
Pick someone you'd pick for your daughter say...then, you might just pick a great guy to hang with forever.
2006-10-27 18:09:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're right. Keep doing what you do. My long term relationship was only 3 years. I notice that's like the main objective, to get into the pants. You can make them wait, though. Don't make any self sacrifices to please any of these punk a** dudes.
2006-10-27 18:15:46 · answer #5 · answered by me 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you do not want boys and it a girl you are looking for. But in all seriousness guys categorize girls when they first see them, it is natural. Guys make their decisions after getting to know them.
2006-10-27 18:07:56 · answer #6 · answered by Christine M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's not true, but keep avoiding the dodgy ones and a nice one will appear.
2006-10-27 18:05:35 · answer #7 · answered by 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes all men want r there own porn star
2006-10-27 18:06:47 · answer #8 · answered by kimmie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You live by yourself.
2006-10-27 18:33:00 · answer #9 · answered by DelK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋