My son needs a major additude change i dont know where he learned this but one day when I told him to go stand in the corner he said "i don't love you anymore mommy" and I have never said that to him so where has he learned this from?
2006-10-27 10:52:50 · 19 answers · asked by capri_corn2005 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
well, depending on his age and what other children he's around he could have picked it up from anywhere. Small children don't understand the concept of unconditional, never ending love.
I would alk to him about what he means. Next time he says that just ask him what he means and why. Challenge his thinking. Don't disregard what he says and move on. This is a good teaching moment to help him learn about his feeling and how important they are!
P.S. He does still love you.
2006-10-27 10:58:25 · answer #1 · answered by Annie Hightower 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could be anywhere...TV, another child, overheard someone at the grocery store.
My son started to do this too (he's almost 3)...this is how we stopped it:
1) pout and say you are sad
2) tell the child you are sad because they said they didn't love you
3) explain that it hurts mommy/daddy in the heart when they say that (point to the heart)
4) ask them why they said that...you may have to pry but you will find out why the child got upset in the first place. (didn't want to goto bed, have a bath, couldn't find a favorite toy)
5) if the child is really upset leave them be for awhile to calm down...kids at this age are easily distracted but when the mood has lightened make sure they understand that you were sad by that comment.
Don't get mad, kids respond to what they know. My boy is really good with manners so he always apologizes if he knows he is wrong. Make sure you tell the child that you love them no matter what and make up with a great big hug!!
2006-10-27 18:08:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Kids go through a phase where they don't understand the difference between being angry at someone and hating someone.
It's really common for kids to say, "I hate you" when they just mean they're angry with you - I bet this is the same thing.
You should reply with something like, "I will always love you, even though sometimes I get angry with you" and not make too big of a deal out of what he's saying (even though it must be really hard).
2006-10-27 19:32:00 · answer #3 · answered by eli_star 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is learning how to maniplate. Itis a sign of brain growth, but of course it is your job to ignore the behavior so it will not have a pay off. When kids are little they are not sophisticated enough to know an dunderstand what they are saying, so don't take it to heart. Manipulation is normal. Just make sure there is no pay off. Good luck.
2006-10-27 18:51:29 · answer #4 · answered by Valerie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably picked it up from another child he witnessed. Don't worry too much about it. The important thing to remember here is to assert your athority. Assure the child that "regardless..., I still love you...., now go stand in the corner, until I let you....."
Remain constant. Love isn't about a bunch of words. This is a time to teach this lesson.
2006-10-27 18:16:18 · answer #5 · answered by emberstoashes_04 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are many different ways for him to have learned this but thats not important he is testing you to see how you will react. The best thing you can do is to tell him thats ok I still love you and i will always love you.
2006-10-31 00:41:28 · answer #6 · answered by rozepetal23 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kids test you in all ways. He was probably trying to see what your response would be. He could have picked it up from a number of different sources. If you don't react to it or sit down and explain to him what he said and how that makes you feel (depending on his age) it should go away.
2006-10-27 17:59:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
They don't have to learn it from anywhere. They just lash out and when they are mad or hurt they say the first thing that pops into their heads. It's very common for kids to say this, and that won't be the last time. Just look at him next time and say, "Well, I still love you."
2006-10-27 18:52:20 · answer #8 · answered by nimo22 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tv, father, someone at school. Don't stress out about it, they have a developed short term memory but their long term memory still is not well developed. Also children say things to gage a reaction from you to see how you respond not that they really mean it.
2006-10-27 18:18:00 · answer #9 · answered by tiff-so-fierce 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hes trying to push your buttons like i say. i have a 1 and a half year old and a 2 and a half year old. just ignore him if you ignore negative behavior( what he said) then hell eventually stop. dont stop putting him in the corner thats just giving him his way.
2006-10-27 18:01:11 · answer #10 · answered by babycbears 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋