I was dating this guy for a few months and things were going great. We even moved in together for a while. Then out of the blue, he decided he wanted to go back to ex. While he and I were together, they became friends again and apparently the spark rekindled. He wants to stay friends with me, but it is so hard because I want him back so bad. I don't want to lose him from my life, but talking to him hurts so much. What do I do?
Unfortunately, I've kinda lost my mind and have done some harrassing things to try to break them up, anonymously. He thinks it is his sister-in-law doing it. She thinks it is me, but won't say anything to him about him because she doesn't want to fight with him about it. I would like to confess, but to be honest, am scared of the consequences.
2006-10-27 10:51:55 · 13 answers · asked by dobies_mum 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you are exactly in my shoes...exactly..the same situation just that i ama guy and i was going through this about 8 months ago...
The fact is...we dont want to be alone..noone...especially women..men can get a PS2 but women its hard..you thinka lot from your heart.. well yeah you like him and he likes you that is raw emotion...nothing else..i mean its comfortable..you knoweach other..have dated..its easy to overlook the problems and start allover..but my dear friend..people dont change...not beyond a certain age..itwillbe a effort throughout your life...trying to keep up....do you honestly love him..or just love the idea of being in love..just think it through....dont you think you can do better..but might takemore effort. He has baggage..yeah dont say no..stay friends startdating..meet moremen..see how you feel...god knows you might like find someone better..fornow stopplaying games...stop seeiung him too..that is what i did..we had our phases where we wanted to get backbut we made a deal and said we will not...if i feel lonely she will tlakto me but never meet me and i willdo the same...i have spent sleepless nights for almost 8 months now...think about her every day and sec but never called her...she has called meat 3 AM and cried to and answering machine but again called up after few hrs and bring normal...we both know where the other lives but we just control our selves..cause weknow the pain we put each other thtough...we had no reason to break up but we werent happy..so the main point of realtionship is to be happy ..
you should look for happiness and not decieve someone to get that happiness...and honestly let him go to his Ex...wat an as*hole who just jumpedships...
Best of lUCK!!! :)
2006-10-27 11:02:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say it is time for you to get on with your life, sweetie. He's not your ex, he was a bf, who went back to his wife. Find guys that are available.... and there are lots on Yahoo. If you're an attractive lady, you will have no problems. If you aren't, then get that way with a little mini makeover -- get your teeth to be a killer smile (yup, it will cost you some buckos--find the best cosmetic dentist in your area....) some great clothes, loose some weight, get your hair done by a real pro, have some super photos taken, put up a profile on Yahoo, or Match.com, and get out there. Don't spend nice years pining over someone that does not love you, hon. It will just make you miserable. And, sweetie, the purpose of life is to be happy. You're not. Change it.
2006-10-27 11:00:15 · answer #2 · answered by April 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am going to be honest here...the longer you continue the friendship with him while you have feelings for him, the crazier you will feel. You deserve somebody you doesn't keep all of his ex girlfriends around just in case something happens with his current girlfriends...he will never break the cycle with all of his back-up women around. You deserve 100% of the attention from someone who cares about you and loves you. Heartbreak takes time, but you haven't given yourself the time you need. Drop the antics and start to heal so you can find true happiness.
2006-10-27 11:32:04 · answer #3 · answered by Kim H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No don't stay friends,
He is getting you with out the commitment.
He has to miss you in order to want you back
and he needs to see you out there having a good time without worrring about him ,
This is what attracted him to you in the first place
Who wants to be with a moping sad sucker.
NOT ME
So cheer up and go out and have a good ole time ok
Either way you'll be having fun.
2006-10-27 10:57:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to move on with your life. Why would you want any one who does not want you. face facts, doing harassing things is childish, it is going to take time, but you will eventually get him out of your mind. Don't tell any one what you did, because that will only open a can of worms! Work on you, do things to make yourself happy, at this point of your life, you are what is important!
2006-10-27 11:09:51 · answer #5 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hate to say this biut I'd leave well alone. Go looking somewhere else you will be more happier in the long run. Remember if he can do this now then probably will do this in the future. You can mail me if you wanna chat further
2006-10-27 10:56:28 · answer #6 · answered by Tim S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a grip, girl. Harrassing him won't make things better. You'll heal in time.
2006-10-27 10:57:18 · answer #7 · answered by Whatever 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing for you to do is to not be friends with your former boyfriend for now until you have completely gotten over him..
2006-10-27 10:57:03 · answer #8 · answered by Thomas 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
run don't walk !!!!!!
don't text ,email or call him no more just let it go
he will manipulate your feelings he'll play games cause h knows you very well all your emotions body language etc. just let it go move on the more u linger as friend the harder it is to let go.
2006-10-27 11:00:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
your ex doesn't want to stay friends with you. what he asked you is if you can be on the back burner as a booty call.
and why would you let your status be dropped from g/f to booty call? don't let him do that to you.
2006-10-27 10:56:16 · answer #10 · answered by Bella 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋