I am 14 and I really want a girlfriend. I think I'm obssesed with girls, but I sort of have a hard time starting conversations with them, although I have started quite a bit of conversations with girls before. It seems like every girl I am friends with is already going out with someone, and all of those people are not the type of people who will break up easily. I have absolutely no intention of causing breakups, but I don't know what to do. Should I pay more attention to girls outside of school or not? I am pretty attractive, although I'm not a pretty boy. The problem is I'm kinda shy.
2006-10-27 10:47:55 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Most boys your age are obsessed with girls. Before you start looking outside of your school (because it would be hard to continue a relationship with someone you don't see often) just try talking to girls at school. Just smile & say hello, open doors for them... Just put yourself out there as a nice guy willing to help them out & treat them with respect and they will start coming to you.
2006-10-27 10:51:22 · answer #1 · answered by Michelle *The Truth Hurts 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, I would say just be yourself. You don't want to come off as being pushy because you will scare the girls away. BUT, maybe consider looking outside of school for girls your age. Unless there is anyone in particular you are interested at school that doesnt have a bf then go for it. You dont want to try to jump into a relationship right after the bat after meeting someone BUT maybe instead ask her out take her to starbucks, jamba juice, a movie, dinner or something just to let her know you are interested. BUT most of all just be yourself when you are with a girl.
2006-10-27 10:59:20 · answer #2 · answered by herbie36f 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why is it that when your looking for something you never find it, but the second you stop you find it and perhaps even more than you bargained for. The most important thing is that you be yourself. Alot of girls like shy guys.. They're so cute :). Maybe for right now you should try to focus on good friendships and schoolwork; the girls will come... Just be patient my dear
2006-10-27 10:54:09 · answer #3 · answered by . 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be yourself.
Girls like that.
We also like neat clean guys.( most do)
Girls likes respect, show her that.
Start as being a good friend.
All meaningful relations should start as friends,
and remain friends through what ever happens.
Seems you are at an early age for a serious relationship,
but you are at a perfect age to start a good friendship
and let it grow into whatever is meant to be.
Good Luck, Don't try to rush things. OK?
2006-10-27 11:01:46 · answer #4 · answered by eviechatter 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm shy too. Sometimes I feel like it's hard for me to talk to the person without thinking i'm going to say something wrong. but the thing is, nobody's perfect and most likely the girl you are talking to will like having a convo with you! Just be yourself, talk to her about things that you both like to do, or just ask her about herself. Also, girls like to be complimented and recognized. Saying just a simple hi in the hallway makes a girl feel like she is known. good luck and remember, even if you don't get a gf right now, you have plenty of time!
2006-10-27 10:53:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, you should absolutely look outside of your school too.
What you need to do when you meet a girl is get into 'character'. Like, you should act like you are this really confident guy like you are in a movie. Acting like you are confident will help you in the future to become more confident. Everyone's got their own good thing, like humor, smile, whatever, just know what you like most about yourself and use it to your advantage.
Good luck!
2006-10-27 11:08:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to grow more confident of yourself. We like a dude who carries himself like he is happy with himself. I am shy too, but you have a good feeling when you do something that is not like you. Strike up a random conversation. Not too random, but look around and observe first. An easy thing to do is to give a comment. And a genuine comment, not something about her booty or something. But don't forget to be you! Don't go outside yourself to try to get attention.
Good luck cutie!!
2006-10-27 10:54:49 · answer #7 · answered by me 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like a pretty great guy to me............but this isn't about me.........isn't it?
What I'm trying to say is that don't try to change yourself. Your shy, and, so what? Alot of girls like shy guys, believe it or not. The only thing you might have to do is to step out of the shyness box sometimes. But don't change yourself.
Take it from pro! ^_^
2006-10-27 11:06:36 · answer #8 · answered by krazy_deviltry 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girls love shy guys. If there are some you like, find out if they have boyfriends and if they don't then don't be afraid. Girls like shy guys but not to the point they don't make any effort toward them. Don't forget, girls are scared too.
2006-10-27 10:52:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about girls ... Just be yourself and have fun in school and life and it will happen .. Ive found that when Ive wanted to have a boyfriend really bad I have picked out ones that werent good for me and in the long run I am more unhappy so please be patient ... It will happen
2006-10-27 10:53:36 · answer #10 · answered by Missy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋