She has fibromyalgia and although she isn't in a wheelchair she does need a walking stick and lots of rests.
She does a lot around the house like all mums but just recently she has been looking even tireder than usual and being really cross a lot more than normal.
I don't know if it is something I have done or not, I do try to help around the house, with my brother etc but I can't do everything I'm only 14 years old and she is 35 so she isn't very old so she wouldn't be getting worse or anything would she? I don't know what to do and everything is going wrong. :, (
2006-10-27 10:47:52 · 26 answers · asked by trust_amy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Thank you so much to everyone who has answered, I can't choose a best answer so can everyone else vote on one please.
2006-10-31 05:24:37 · update #1
This is your chance to shine and show your mom what a lovely young woman you are. Help out around the house by cleaning up and cooking, giving your brother baths, doing the laundry, etc. and tell her how much you love her and want to be a good daughter!
2006-10-27 11:10:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your mum my might just be cross because she is in pain rather than something you have done directly, other than keeping your bedroom tidy and trying to be helpful around the house there isn't much you can do... are there any extended family members who live near by that could lend a hand? Try not to let it get you down and maybe encourage your mum to go to doctors again.
Email if you want a listening ear
chin up chick
Just thought of something else as well, you may be able to get in contact with other kids your age that have ill parents for a bit of support x
2006-10-27 12:29:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry. Your Mum will have better and worse days, but it's all treatable. And sometimes she can be all tired and feeling pain in the morning but could be alright a few hours later. If she's cross, it's probably because of the pain makes it hard for her to concentrate on anything else. Also fibromyalgia disturbs sleep, so she'll be tired as well. I hope your Mum gets to try all the treatments available and hopefully she'll get to terms with her condition so it'll get easier for all of you. You stay strong, it's not your fault and you have done nothing wrong. It's great that you're helping her and I'm sure she appreciates the help.
2006-10-27 10:56:18 · answer #3 · answered by Cold Bird 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well know that she loves you. Her condition is very taxing on her and even though you may not have done anything wrong she is probably feeling so terrible that it tends to leak out in places - like yelling at you or your brother for no good reason.
You need to talk to another adult. Is your dad around? What about a close relative like an Aunt or Grandma? If not, try talking to one of your teachers or a school counselor.
Don't just let this go though. Life at home is going to be hard for a while. Talk to someone you trust to give you some ideas and help you out. It's ok to ask for help - and really it'll be the best thing you can do for you, your brother, and even your mom.
Take time for yourself too. Be a kid. It's okay and not selfish to do things for yourself or with your friends too.
2006-10-27 10:52:23 · answer #4 · answered by betsymaemae 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
If she is on Disability, then they can give her a number to where
she can get someone to go to your house and work for her. I'm
pretty sure you can do some light cooking to get everyone through dinner. As for your brothers, I don't know how old they are
but by the age 3 they can start picking up their toys, if they are
older then that, then they can clean their own room. So your mom
or yourself doesn't have to do all the work. Take turns throwing
out the trash. This way when help does arrive all she has to do
is help your mom out. Snacks you can do that, just whip something will quick.
2006-10-27 10:58:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Amy, sweetie I am so very sorry that you are going through this. Being 14 should be some of best times of your life, but I am very proud of you helping your mother so much. You are a very good daughter.
Fibromyalgia is very very painful. Your Mother should be on some kind of medicine, and I am hoping that she is seeing a counsler to help deal with the fact that she is only 35 with a 85 years old body. She's hurting, she's depressed. Your mother, bless her heart would never ever pictured her daughter having to take care of her. She's heart broken that this is happening to you and your family.
Please talk to your Mom, tell her that you are doing the best you can, and could you help her in any way special. She might need someone to talk to. Does she have friends that drop by? Does she have family that can help. This is a serious illness that she has, it can get better, but honey it can get worse. Your mother needs to realize that she needs to discuss her health with you to a certain degree. Please ask her if she goes to a Pain management doctor. That is a special dr that deals with this all the time. It would benefit her if she would go to one. My husband, goes to one, and it's great for all of us.
Amy this hard to deal with. My husband has something similar to your Mom's. He can't work either, and it upsets him terribly that he can't. He can't run and play with our kids too, and this hurts him. Please ask your Mum if there is something that you could do to help her. Also ask her about the Pain Management dr, tell her someone asked you about her and ask who she is seeing.
Amy I will be praying for your family, and I hope that your Mum's health improves.
God bless us all.....................
2006-10-27 12:12:53 · answer #6 · answered by totallylost 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Aww sweetie.you are dealing with a lot for your age.im sure your mum knows her limits and will ask for help when she needs it.Try to get on and remember you are a teenager and do things like just hang out with your friends.talk to your mum if you can and tell her how worried you are,she may be ill but shes still your mum.You sound like a lovely person and if you were my daughter,mine is 10! I would be very proud of you.Be happy :o) why dont you look on the net for more info on your mum condition,it might help. take care
2006-10-27 10:59:08 · answer #7 · answered by Lucy A 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hiya amy, firstly thank u ever so much for those kind words regarding me looking after my dad. ok i go out every night once my dad is in bed. he`s soundo wen his head hits the pillow! i go around and i see my mate. he has fibromyalgia just like ur mum. now fibromyalgia isn`t a life threatening disease but also it wont get any better. my mate takes amytriptoline tablets for his condition which really helps him. his doctor has also reffered him to accupuncture which helps him enormously. ur mum gets cross because fibromyalgia really tires her out and i should think she just gets irritable. it can also bring on depression. my mate gets irritable too and sometimes this can last days. wen ur mum is in a good mood next time try chatting wiv her about her mood swings and tell her it worries u. thats wot i did wiv my mate because i was wondering if it was me that was irritating him. ur mum will more than likely say the same thing. as i said, fibromyalgia in ur mum wont get any better but don`t worry because it will only very very very slowly get worse and the liklehood is she will live to be a ripe old age. in other words don`t worry too much. get ur mum to ask her doctor about accupuncture. i see for myself wiv my mate the difference it makes. i wish u the very best of luck amy. if i get any more info on fibromyalgia i will email it to u ok. keep smiling
2006-10-29 06:13:24 · answer #8 · answered by graham f 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Mention it to a person at school or a teacher and ask them if they can look in to getting you some help with regards to your home life and say to them that you are finding it hard looking after your mum and your brother and you don't have enough time to do things yourself then go from there and if need be see a counsellor and talk to them about what is going on at home about this.
2006-10-28 06:27:50 · answer #9 · answered by liz 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well when my mom went through cancer I tried to help as much as possible. I would do everything that you can and sit down with her and have a nice talk...ask her to go see a Doctor and have them do more tests to put your mind at ease. If you have a friend down the road have her come over after school and you can do your home work together and watch you brother so that you dont have so much stress...I hope everything gets better.
2006-10-27 11:24:46 · answer #10 · answered by Cha-Cha 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋