My husband is ruff with our daughters especialy our oldset whose 2 and a half. a couple examples he shoved her in the door and as a resilt she busted her lip open all becasue the phnoe was ringing and she was hanging on his leg. Another example she accidently bumped him in the month when they were playing around and he shoved her on the floor knocking her head. I do not no what to do? Does he need help with his temper and anger? He verbaly hurts me as well. Calls me really hurtful names. Hes extremly over worked 70-80 hours per week. But is this just an excuse? I thought about leaving until he gets his anger under control but im scared of him and what he may do or say. Im looking out for my daughters well being. some help and input would be appreciated thanks
2006-10-27 10:44:33 · 12 answers · asked by babycbears 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
My husband is "extremely overworked" also. He's gone from home about 14 hours a day 6 & 7 days a week. But he is STILL the kindest sweetest man in the world who would NEVER harm our baby! Don't use his being tired as an excuse. No matter how tired a man is he's not going to hurt a child unless he is just mean. You need to get your girls away from him!
2006-10-27 10:48:38 · answer #1 · answered by Michelle *The Truth Hurts 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like an abusive man that is uncontrollable and I would suggest you leave with your daughters before it is too late. 2 1/2 year olds need not get bloody lips or shoved to the ground by their father no matter how tired he is. If you are scared of somebody that is the most intimate person in your life than that is a sign that you need to leave.
I went through this from 1990 to 1997, and my ex-husband never got better, even after counseling.
2006-10-27 18:49:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to someone who deals with these sort of situations on a daily basis, without him knowing. Call a crisis line and ask for help. Perhaps there is a local number in your area...that would be a good start. It is not normal to shove your child around like that...or you. Just think, it could get worse in the future if you don't act now and talk about your options with a professional.
2006-10-27 17:49:31 · answer #3 · answered by Kim H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here are some words someone once wrote to me in an email.
"if he threatens you, if he bullies you, if he
makes you submit to his domination, you alone can stop it. If, and I
mean if (because I have almost no knowledge of your reality nor his),
what you say is true, he must change for the better, and now (unlikely),
or you must pack your **** and go. Take your kids, go somewhere safe,
get the meanest, most determined lawyer you can find, and get it over
with. He can't hurt you, he can't do a damned thing, but go get himself
a lawyer and see you in court. Now, you won't do that, so here ends my
advice on the subject. The vast majority of women in abusive situations
stay in them until they are seriously hurt or dead. In many cases, the
children end up the same way. In almost all cases, the children carry
on that behavior to the next generation. Only you can stop it, but you,
according to statistics, almost certainly won't stop it. There's not a
damned thing I or anyone else can do to help you, but pray."
2006-10-27 18:06:55 · answer #4 · answered by angelica 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah you need to get him into anger management. This is still considered abuse. Just talk to him about taking some time off work and taking some anger classes, that should help. He just needs to think before he reacts.
2006-10-27 17:50:54 · answer #5 · answered by mistalina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs help. You need to distance yourself and your daughters before it gets worse. I understand the stress of working that many hours in a week but that is no excuse to be abusing anyone.
2006-10-27 17:47:26 · answer #6 · answered by cfalways 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Leave and never go back. Your children are being harmed and never ever tolerate that from anyone. If a man did that to my children I'd have a cop there so fast and be telling that cop you better come and get him right now!
2006-10-27 17:57:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't take any sh** from him. u have to be strong for ur girls. being overworked is not an excuse. try talking to him. if he doesn't listen call the coppers on him. as a mum u have a duty to ur daughters. they'll grow up distrubed if u allow ur bad excuse for a husband to do all that crap to ur daughters. next time he puts a hand on ur girls take some action. be strong.
2006-10-27 19:18:28 · answer #8 · answered by WHO ARE You? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seek help. Next step is getting your children taking away. When they start school "the accidents" will all be investigated, get him help or get out. It sounds like you showed call your local woman's shelter.
2006-10-27 17:50:41 · answer #9 · answered by live4logan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's having a hard time at work, probably. But he shouldn't be all rough like that!
2006-10-27 17:46:51 · answer #10 · answered by ♥ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋