there is this halloween party thrown every year and the host is more my ex's friend than mine,but im still invited.I caught my ex cheating on me so i left him.he still is trying to get me back.I ran into one of the guys he is friends with one night a while back and we really hit it off,i was still bitter about catching my ex cheating on me,he listened and understood,he drove me home that night and i invited him to stay,i asked him to sleep in the bed with me,he did,i asked him to put his arm around me,he did till i slept,he was a complete gentleman,the next morning things were awkward when he left,a mutual friend told me he liked me but is freaked about my ex.i saw him once since that night and he came to me and said"your killing me"my ex was there so we had to keep quiet.I have thought of him since,its been 6 months.So at the party both my ex(which i dont mind seeing)and this other guy will be there(i want to talk to this guy again)although he rsvp'd for himself plus a guest.
2006-10-27 10:40:29 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I dont think you should go you are going to get a reputation as an easy lay because of the way you are acting..find friends that have nothing to do with your ex.
2006-10-27 10:44:26 · answer #1 · answered by fajita 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. Your ex cheated on you. He has no rights anymore. Its been 6 moths, he can stew about it or get over it, but that is HIS choice. you have your own life to live. Go to the party, see whats up with this other guy if you are interested. Just don't play any games, be yourself, and all should be good. If this new guy has moved on since he spent the night with you, then so be it. But at least you will know the truth.
2006-10-27 17:45:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK.
good move breaking up with your b/f when you found out he was cheating..
i dont know about this other guy cuz thers a few things. first of all, he may not respect you b/c his friend already dated you. Guys who date their friends g/fs often have issues b/c theyre jealous of their buddy already or they will think of you as a ho b/c its okay to, b/c their buddy might do that. also, if he is friends with your ex and your ex cheated on you, he may be the same way as your ex, i mean they ARE friends!
if i were you i would give it a chance but play it casual and safe. dont kiss him and dont let him touch you. keep your distance and see what hes like before it goes anywhre.
you have to make him respect you b/c he may not considering his best friend cheated on you. that is, his friend! he associates himself with that guy you call your ex and may have the same values.
be his friend. keep it at that for a while to be safe. friendships are truly invaluable over love, i have found.
2006-10-27 17:48:26 · answer #3 · answered by california gurlie poo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes you should... regardless of who'll be attending. this halloween party comes only once a year, and you deserve to have a blast. just make sure you've got some friends over there too so that you won't be aloof with your ex's crowd. and as for the new guy, well... your presence there is like hitting two birds with one stone. you attended because you wanted to PARTEHHH! he's just icing to the cake. he sees you, he likes you, he talks to you, you two hit it off again, party fever moves up a notch! :)
2006-10-27 17:46:14 · answer #4 · answered by Ricky the Kid 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure, you could go to the party, but then you're stuck worrying about your ex again. Instead, call this guy up that you like and ask him out. If the two of you hit it off, thats whats important. Not your ex's feelings.
2006-10-27 17:44:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
GO! what are you waiting for? your ex is an ex for a reason! don't let him have ANY control over what decisions you make in your life from now on! do your thing honey! make it work between you and this new guy! who cares what your ex thinks.
PS are you sure the "guest" is you? well if so then you know he is planning on being with you too!
2006-10-27 17:44:22 · answer #6 · answered by Stacey 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I wouldn't put myself in that position, especially if your ex is there and the other guy is bringing a guest. Just call the guy and get your own date.
2006-10-27 17:42:41 · answer #7 · answered by Tamara D 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you should still go and at least try to talk to him. if it will make you feel uncomfortable, try and avoid your ex, but not in an obvious way, its probably okay if you run into him though. if it doesn't work out between you and him, you can still try and have a great time at the part, i am sure there will be other guys there.
2006-10-27 17:44:26 · answer #8 · answered by sg 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i dont think you should go because it cud turn out rly bad. It could end up with fighting and u in a tough situation. Idk it just sounds lik it wouldnt be too good of an idea unless u r tryin 2 stir things up a lot
2006-10-27 17:44:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should just go. Never let any man control your life. If anything, go for yourself and just see what happens. Whatever is supposed to happen will happen. Everything happens for a reason, sometimes good, sometimes bad. I would say definitely go.
2006-10-27 17:43:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋