how long should i wait?

Question

so im dating this guy for a couple of months now whose gf recently passed away :( he says he loves me and wants to move on with me but everytime we have a small fight (because of his sensitivity) he wont talk to me for like days and then he would say he's been MIA because she's haunting him and doesnt wana let go of him yet and he needs some space. he said i wont be seein him around for now and he needs to clear his mind which includes getting me out of system (he said that) but he also said he still loves me and i'm beginning to fall for him until this happened.i like him but i dont know where do i stand right now. it seems like he's some schizo with auditory hallucinations coz he said he can hear her voice or laugh or sumthin...help :(

Answer 1

Let it go. You don't stand anywhere with him. He needs to work through his grief without you and probably needs some grief counseling.
Why do you think you're "falling for" a guy who is overly sensitive, goes MIA when there's a small conflict, says he can't let go of his dead girlfriend, needs space, and says you won't see him? What part of all that is attractive or say "good catch" to you?

Answer 2

Okay...understanding the circumstances is 1/2 the battle. He just lost his girlfriend. I would give him his space and grieve over her. Still stay friends. Yes that will be hard, but if you are falling for him, then when hes ready for something like that, you will be ready. He will need someone to be there for him. I would also reccomend that he sees someone for any kind of hallucinations or psychological problems he has about loosing his girlfriend. Hope it helps

Answer 3

Get out while you still can! This guy is carrying around some serious excess bagage. I'm sorry to hear that his gf passed away but he'll have to get Way over that before you will ever see him as he really is. And only at that time can you possibly fall for him.

Answer 4

Find a new guy it's so obvious that he isn't over his girlfriend. Even though she is passed away he still feels that he may be cheating on her in some way by being with you. If you really want to be with him then talk to him and try to work it out other wise cut your losses now before it is too late.

Answer 5

I think you should let him try to accept that his girlfriend is gone and if I was you I wouldn't try to be his girlfriend, be a friend and try to help him to get over it. Don't think of him as a schizo, obviously he loved her a lot and he misses her and when you lose a person you loved you can hear her/his voice anywhere give him time to go on with his life.

Answer 6

He is not ready for a relationship yet. He has not healed from the death of the other girl. He needs to get some counseling, or at least find someone qualified to talk to. When he gets over her he will finally be ready to date. Right now he isn't fit for anyone.

Answer 7

I can see that you really like this guy but, he has control problems. Now just think, do you really want to live the rest of your life like that? Getting this all out in the open would be a good choice if you really like him that much. I think a couple of months is enough time to get to know the basics of what he is like. I think you should get out before you get hurt.

Answer 8

Honey thats BS, or He's Cookoo bird!

Please let the guy go, and don't waist another second. If he wants you let him do the chasing,

How many people are haunted by their ex-
Why would she haunt him, does he have a guity conscience or something.

I think so

Stay the heck away from the Guy.

Thats what I think

Answer 9

Then he's not ready to move on.If you care about him,give him his space to grieve and get past this,so just lay back for a while.If not,move on.

Answer 10

if you already know that he got some issues then what are you still waiting for? its actually better to compete with some girl who's alive than to compete with the memories of his girlfriend that passed away... move on with your life...