After me and my boyfreind had an argument i decided to take sometime to think things thru.and reflect on the relationship.he thot id wanted to break up so he got another girl but when i told him i wanted to talk and sort things out before we continue he told me he had another girl and explained he was too heart to cope with the pain so he rushed to get (rebound)someone to ease the pain ..since he thought it was the end of us after the attempts to talk to me failed. i love this guy but now the problem is he is in a dilemma.he texted me and said he would have wanted us to continue but because of the girl involved.its proving difficult as he is scared of breaking her heart.so thing is what should i do i love this guy to bits please advise
2006-10-27 10:19:26 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
How long was his rebound? "One night stand", he can leave if he wants to. If he's been with someone for over a month, I'd say he's established a new relationship, definitely likes the new person, and it's time to move on. Next time you argue you don't take time to think things through you talk things through, otherwise you aren't arguing you are quarrelling and one doesn't want to be with someone one can't have a reasonable argument with.
2006-10-27 10:26:31 · answer #1 · answered by tyreanpurple 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump him - he's a loser.
First of all - if he was that heart broken over you in the first place you do not just go out and get yourself a new girlfriend. A one night stand maybe because you're feeling low, your drunk, and you have the 'well screw her if she doesn't want to be with me' attitude.
Second of all - He's scared of breaking her heart? Give me a break. How long have they been together? Your post makes it sound very recent. Is the girl that in love with him already? What an inflated ego.
Third - If he really loved you he wouldn't be with her. Period. He wouldn't have started up with her in the first place and he certainly would not still be continuing to see her if there was even a remote chance that you two could work things out. He should be doing whatever he can to get you back - not the other way around.
This guy is a dog and thinks he can play the two of you. And you, dear, are letting him.
What he is doing is NOT love.
2006-10-27 10:25:36 · answer #2 · answered by betsymaemae 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he's playing mind games with you. I also think that he's "messing with your head" about this other girl and he's punishing you for your "time out". I would take the Zen approach. Stop chasing after him and letting him no how heart broken you are. Simply step back, stop communicating with him and see what happens. His curiosity will make him contact you and then just play it very cool. Don't demand anything, or get into conversations about the other girl friend. Talk about a million other things and be mysterious. Your "mystery" will make him want to come back. Once he's back, then you can have a heart to heart talk about your differences.
2006-10-27 10:23:14 · answer #3 · answered by cheyennetomahawk 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is not as hard as you might think....
Feelings are involved, and that is what makes it seem difficult..
Men think differently than women and process things differently.
The one thing that you must discover is whether Love really does exist between you and your fella... or if he does not want to be with you.. Remember the old saying..."If you love something - set it free - if it comes back to you - it is yours - if it does not - it never was." ?
Remember that?
There is truth in that sentence... it may be hard but let go... don't call, don't look for him.. let go... If he truely loves you... he will come back and not try to have his cake(you), and eat it too(the other girl). It would be sad if he played you like that.. and you, feeling guilty, or that is your fault, or lonely, let him play you..
Be prepared to have him not come back... but either way, now is the time to give him the space to make his own choice..
Wish you much love girl...
2006-10-27 10:30:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if it hasn't been that long, and his heart is still with you, it would probably be a better idea to end it with that chick now. I mean, rather then later, when her heart is more into it, ya know? She'll just have to understand. He should tell her what he feels in his heart, and how he doesn't want to break hers, but thought it only fair to let her know whats up. Because I, myself, would rather know if my guy was still taking to his ex, and I was only a rebound chick!
2006-10-27 10:25:21 · answer #5 · answered by shondak 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you love someone (really love someone) you need time to start dating another person. Why he start dating? Anyway...we can forgive people mistakes but don't let him to give you more excuses...how thats he doen't want to hurt the other girls heart? What about your heart? He is gonna spend the rest of his life with someone he doen't love because he doesn't want to broke her heart?. Thats bull&*^%^ excuses and more excuses. I can see your a young woman so go and have fun, meet people and take him out of your mind. If you want him back be strong and don't talk to him, ignore him and he will be back in a jiffy hahaha!
2006-10-27 10:28:01 · answer #6 · answered by Vero 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
with life experiences may happen. this could actually help your relationship you can see if you really want to wait to be with him, if it is worth it, you can see if you really loved him or if it was just convient and easy. this gives him a chance to realize how special you are. dating is good. there are soooo many men out there. if this is the end of this relationship, it will help you move on the next time you need to. you can use this as a guide of what to do, you can reflect upon this experience later in life.
2006-10-27 10:23:52 · answer #7 · answered by porsha226 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand that you love him, but it sounds like he doesn't love you the way you deserved to be loved. If he can't choose between you and someone he just hooked up with I think it's probably for the best if you don't get back together. I believe these things happen for a reason and you will find someone who treats you better.
2006-10-27 10:22:31 · answer #8 · answered by freecounselingrocks 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-25 23:49:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand that you love him, but it sounds to me like you need to get over him. Why would you want to be with someone who uses sex as a bandaid that quickly and then puts her feelings before yours (especially after having been in a relationship with you!) Let him have the stupid tramp and find someone worthy of your itme. You sound like a sweet girl and I'm positive you can do better.
2006-10-27 10:23:50 · answer #10 · answered by court 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋