I need advice. I am a proud mother of a two (almost three) year old little boy. I am currently engaged to a wonderful (who is not my son's father) man. we have been together for two years and have been engaged for about four months. Well...I'm pregnant! I'm so happy but yet so scared for two reasons. one reason being my son. the other being a single mother again if things don't work out. I've been here before. But the second reason doesnt concern me as much because I trust that we can work through these things because we communicate so well now. So i guess my main concern and question is will my son adjust ok to a new baby?? Will he feel left out?? Or am i over reacting? He is so clingy and wants to be under me all the time and i give in so easily because i love him so much and we enjoy letting him know that he is loved.
HELP!!!
2006-10-27 10:18:55 · 10 answers · asked by cutiepie 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
When my son was 18 months I found out I was pregnant again and I bought him a baby doll to play with. He learned how to hold the doll, and he would give it kisses. Unfortunately I lost my baby girl at 21 weeks so I don't know how it would have worked out.
2006-10-27 10:21:48 · answer #1 · answered by Ryan's mom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you're over reacting. Your son is two! He could be clingy for a number of reasons and a new baby should be celebrated. I would wait until you start showing to try and explain the new baby to him.
If you didn't want to be a single mom...well, there are ways you could have stopped that but I think you need to live in the present. Don't worry about impending doom! That's just a waste of time. If this baby's daddy is your fiance I'm gonna assume that you love him and you're getting married so enjoy life!
You may think he's clingy now but when he's a teenager and running around with his friends and might not even acknowledge you in public, you'll look back on the moments he was clingy and cheerish them!
Just take a deep breath and enjoy life!
2006-10-27 10:26:05 · answer #2 · answered by Annie Hightower 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When the new baby comes in order to teach him to adjust to the changes let him hold the baby with you supporting the two of them. Let him hug the baby tell him this is your sister/brother watch out for him you are the big brother now and I will need your help to watch after him! I personally, have seen that work several times!
2006-10-27 10:22:51 · answer #3 · answered by random_thought 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This takes me back to 15 years ago when i was a single mom with a 4 year old clinging little boy and pregnant. Things worked out with lots of love and patients out the butt. My son adored his little sister and then another one. One big happy family. poor but happy. When it comes time to explain things just give him enough to handle things do not over whelm him. good luck
2006-10-27 10:33:53 · answer #4 · answered by picture 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
when i was having my 2nd child(a boy) my 1st son was also 2 1/2...i must say that my 1st son was very spoiled but it was because he was the only child in our world for almost 3yrs so everything centered around him....fortunately..he adjusted very well to his little brothers arrival, he was a smart little biy & he understood that another baby was coming...he is now 9 and my 2nd son is 6...they are very close and are the best of friends ...dont worry about if you will have enough love for a 2nd because the love that a mother have for her children is unexplainable, its unconditional, and is constantly growing.. even if she have 15 of them...
2006-10-27 12:07:26 · answer #5 · answered by huneygrl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Im sure it will all work out fine, me and my husband were together 5 years and I wsa still scared of being a single mom. Im pregnant with my 2nd one and im still worried, about other reasons this time, how can i afford another! what aout this what about that....Seems pregnant women always have something to worry about, its in our nature!
Good Luck and try to enjoy the miracle growing inside you! and I will try and take my own advice....ha ha
God Luck!
2006-10-27 10:23:08 · answer #6 · answered by crystald 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He will adjust totally fine. My son was about his age when I had my daughter...he thought he was so grown up because he was the big brother...we just told him that the entire time (well, from when we told him we were having a baby) and he was so proud of his little sister...and such a big help at that age!
CONGRATS
2006-10-27 10:22:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
kids ajust if you as a parent help by teaching him how to be a big brother. like sharing (which he should be learning anyhow) how as a big boy he gets to do big boy things. get a doll and show him how to treat a baby. He needs to learn just like nmew parents need to learn
2006-10-27 10:24:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It will all pan out, you are obviously a wonderful parent, good luck. Be patient. Share the love.
2006-10-27 10:23:14 · answer #9 · answered by forrestgumpjnr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It can be hard giving up the "Baby". He will be sad but as long as you include him in everything about the new baby, be sure to equalize attention and love...it will all work out. :)
CONGRATS & GOOD LUCK!
2006-10-27 11:09:55 · answer #10 · answered by too_damned_kute 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋