how does one control a toodler we she throuws a tantram.?

Question

like throughing toy, slamming doors,shouting and screaming for now reason and the list just goes on.

Answer 1

Ignore them.

Children throw tantrums for one reason--to get attention. Most of the time they don't even care about the thing that made them upset in the first place---they just want mom or dad's attention.

Any attention you give to them is letting them win and showing them it's acceptable to throw tantrums. Even if the attention you are giving them is punishment--you are letting them win and showing them it's okay.

You need to just walk away and not say anything when they throw a tantrum. When they stop throwing their fit, then say to them "I'm glad you're feeling better. Now what is it you wanted to tell me?"

Answer 2

I would say wrong behaviors like throwing things and screaming back at you are different than the all out tantrum. If it is a tantrum where they are laying on the floor screaming and crying, usually because they did not get their way, walk over them and leave the room. If you give them any attention for it, they have won.
Other behaviors like throwing toys and slamming doors just have to addressed for what they are....we do not throw toys because....and if you do the consequence is.....and then follow through. 90% of discipline problems are from inconsistent parenting.

Answer 3

First of all, it depends on WHY the toddler is throwing the tantrum. Tantrums are a toddler's only way to express overwhelming behavior. The idea that they do it to merely get attention is overly simplistic.

It also depends on how old your toddler is. A 20-month-old cannot understand that throwing toys or screaming is wrong. He has no words to express his feelings therefore this is his only outlet. It's healthy and normal. An older toddler can begin to learn how to properly express himself but this isn't a skill they really obtain until later in life.

First, rest assured that tempter tantrum are normal and natural. They are part of growing up and learning boundaries. When you get angry and frustrated think about it this way, would you really want a child that put up with anything and everything and never feel the need to express themselves? Of course not!

Second, you need to learn to pick your battles. If you are going to do something that will send your child into a tantrum, ask yourself if what you want is really that important. For example, if your toddler is jumping on his bed and you don't want him to, you have to decide if it's REALLY that important for him not to be jumping on the bed. If it's a rule you have in your home you of course must enforce it, but make sure the rules you set are realistic.

Your job as a parent when dealing with the temper tantrum is not the punish the child, it's to TEACH the child how to properly express himself. When you take something away from your child allow your child to scream. How do you feel when someone takes something away from you? You don't need to respond to him but give him a chance to say what he wants. The most important thing for you to do is stay calm. It will be easier for your child to calm down if you stay calm. Tell your child that you understand that he's angry but unfortunately, he can't get his way. Don't make it sound as if he's being punished, just explain that he can't have what he wants because it's fragile, it's not good for him, it's dangerous, etc. Then encourage him to use words to describe how he's feeling. If he says he's mad tell him you understand and that it's okay to be mad, but there are other ways to express anger and explain to him what he can do when he's mad (talk to you about it, take deep breathes, take some time alone, etc.) You can then use humor or love (hugs, kisses) to cheer him up and allow him to move onto the next project).

That said, the best way to control tantrums is PREVENTION!!!

Answer 4

She is looking for attention. Even negative attention just so that she can be the center of it all. Just make sure that she can not harm herself and just leave her be. She will realize that you are not going to jump everytime she starts her trantrums and she will settle down. I told my neighbor lady this because her son would wake me up in the middle of the night screaming because he didn't want to go to bed. It took about a week of her ignoring his bad behavior to where he finally stopped screaming and going to bed when he was supposed to.

Answer 5

By ignoring it. Make sure you keep an eye out to make sure that they are not hurting themselves. When the kid realizes that she isn't getting the attention, she'll find you... and you take that time to look her eye-to-eye and explain that you are not going to give in no matter what she does or that you can't figure out what she wants unless she calmly tells you. She''ll soon realize that she has to do it your way. It worked for me. Also whatever toys they throw confiscate and return only in exchange for good behavior.

Answer 6

Ignore the behavior and respond positively when she isn't throwing and screaming. SO normal - hang in there!

ps: This is tougher in public places. Mean what you say - if you say, "We going to leave if you don't calm down" then be prepared to act on it if she keeps it up. Just calmly explain that you're leaving now and do it.

Answer 7

you ignore the toddler and walk away. eventually the tantrums will end. My brother used to throw tantrums, he threw one in the grocery store, my mom looked at him, said you know better than to act that way, and walked off, left him lying in the aisle kicking and screaming because mom told him he couldn't have a certain kind of junk food. mom was 2 aisles over when he realized it wasn't doing any good and other people were staring at him and got up and hunted down mom. its the last tantrum he threw in the grocery store.

Answer 8

What is a toodler?

Throuws? Tantram? Throughing? Now reason?

Answer 9

Tantrums are built in ways to get attention and to show feelings. Ignore these tantrums and definatly do not reward them and they will eventually go away. The bible states" Spare the rod and spoil the child"

Answer 10

IGNORE HER!!

The only reason she is doing it is because she gets attention, if you just ignore her and go about your business, eventually she'll get the point that throwing a tantrum will not resolve anything.

Or you could send her to her room until she stops.