my b/f and i have been together for 4 yrs now and we were together every day..now i've moved out of the country for 3 months, i was so self-conscious about what the girls back there could be trying to do so i would constantly call him and ask where he is and who he's with and what he's doing. BIG MISTAKE because i trust him with all my heart..it's just that i miss him so much that i'm going crazy and saying all this bullshit..WELL now he's really mad at me for callin so much and his mom heard him yelling so she comes in his room and is like what's going on? and he's like "i'm mad and i'm talking to (me) and i'm yelling at her because i don't want to talk to her" and he gives the phone to his mom..well she says "i'm not saying this, he's saying these things i'm just repeating them..and i'm sorry you have to hear it from me it's not right but he says to not call him for two weeks so he can think about what he wants to do" WHAT'S GOING ON? what do i do?
2006-10-27 10:10:06 · 11 answers · asked by seventy seven 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i'm not planning on staying here alone forever..i'm moving back there in 2 months, 1 has passed..and i'm not coming back here until he comes with me this summer...those were our plans..we wanted to get married this summer and move here together..but now he's just like you call too much...
2006-10-27 10:19:18 · update #1
sorry i'm adding so many details, but it's a complicated case..he gets mad that i check up on him so much..he says that i should just trust him and it embarrasses him when i ask who he's with and he has to say everyones name in front of them...which he's totally right about..but i don't wanna wait two weeks. i wish he would just call now.
2006-10-27 10:21:14 · update #2
Maybe you should not call him for awhile then he will wonder whats happened and start calling you , you got to be hard to get or else he'll leave you especially if you are all paranoid like that.
2006-10-27 10:13:44 · answer #1 · answered by calieyecandy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he probably wants out and now that you've moved he probably has enough people telling him it won't work out since it will be a long distance relationship thing. Are you gonna stay out there for good?? if you are why don't you have him move in with you? if you're coming back- why can't he wait? Don't call him too much anymore. If he really loves you and misses you- he will call you. Don't make him feel like you don't trust him. THat's what he's probably thinking. Godd luck and i suggest you move on. Who knows- you might find someone new out there and that's probably what's scaring him off- he doesn't know what you're doing either.
2006-10-27 17:14:23 · answer #2 · answered by Ms.Budonkadonk 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's sounds like your boyfriend feels guilty about something. Also it sounds like you need to have a higher self estem. You must know how wonderful you are. If he can't see that then his lost. You must all ways remmber any realtionship goes 2 ways. Go do something that you enjoy doing leave him a lone for a few weeks, but not sit and cry go out and discover all the things that you can do to make yourself happy. Even if you feel that life is over.
2006-10-27 17:15:21 · answer #3 · answered by jm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he may have someone else on the sideline - in most (NOT ALL) guys eyes their theory is the closest gets the mostest,if I were you I would give him those two weeks and see if HE calls YOU,if he does then work it out but if he doesn't then cut him loose,don't waste your time calling him...move on-there's someone out there who will love and respect you and treat you like you deserve to be treated ! Good Luck.
2006-10-27 17:16:19 · answer #4 · answered by pammi_b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like you should just leave him alone for a while. I wouldn't call him at all. I would wait until he decided to call me. But then, I am not the type to chase after a guy. He has to chase after me.
2006-10-27 17:15:43 · answer #5 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh sweetie....I can read how lonely you are..how much you are missing your boy friend...
but imagine how frustrating the distance must be to him as well, not sure if that is the total reason for his meltdown...but to give him time to MISS you is the idea here...
and you also have to find things to do .. for you....that make you happy, smile, and feel good......with or without anyone else around...
2006-10-27 17:13:22 · answer #6 · answered by dollady 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why would you move out of the country and continue a relationship....long distance never works my friend.
2006-10-27 17:12:53 · answer #7 · answered by metalicgirl69 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You were together for every day for 4 years and now you are hounding him. You both need some space.
2006-10-27 17:12:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
u dont call him
TRUST me if u just leave him alone, he will want u back. TRUST me on this one...ive had two serious relationships, i did that both times after we broke up and it worked BOTH times!
2006-10-27 17:13:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well werent you just a big dope? You were worried about what the girls were gonna do? What did you think they were gonna rape him? It takes two to tango baby.
2006-10-27 17:12:34 · answer #10 · answered by Got2seeit 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋