mother always wants to throw his younger brother off on us which is like 14 He is so annoying and I cant say anything about it because me and my boyfriend always fight and almost break up. His brother is so sneaky he never speaks to me when he is over, and my freakin boyfriend ignores me and plays the game. I get so pissed off. I think my boyfriend is just trying to act like his father instead of a brother. My boyfriend puts his family in front of me all the time when i am the one who supports his broke ***. This **** is driving me haywire!!! Someone please respond and let me know what to do
2006-10-27 10:06:59 · 15 answers · asked by kvjacks1 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
do your thing when the brother is over. You have choices too. You allow yourself to be put in this situation and then play the victim. Next time he tells you that his brother is coming over tell him you are going out with your friends and will be back after junior has gone to bed.
2006-10-27 10:10:35 · answer #1 · answered by naughtybabyjesus 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are living with someone you fight with all the time, and you are angry and ignored, you need to move on.
His family comes first. If he felt like YOU were part of his family, YOU would come first. He doesn't. You can't make him.
It is kind of confusing. Are you living with him in his mother's house? Why do they want the kid hanging around with you? He needs role models who aren't fighting. He needs his dad.
Your boyfriend needs to grow a spine. You can't do that for him. You can grow your OWN spine, and kick his sorry a$$ to the curb.
You should be spending your energy studying, and getting into college-life. Join a club, or work on the yearbook or try out for chess. Anything, to get your time jammed up with unboyfriend things. Then you will learn, and enjoy your college-time, and not be sucked into some DRAMA.
If your boyfriend works out his situation, truly misses you , and loves you, he'll figure out how to find you. If not, maybe that cute guy in biology class (you haven't met yet) will be your new honey.
good luck!
2006-10-27 10:21:49 · answer #2 · answered by Lottie W 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to say it, but family does come first. I wouldn't want to be treated like this, especially in my own home. The facts speak for themselves here. If you can't talk about the issue with out almost breaking up, therefore, hold your tongue about it...hmmm. I think you should tell your boyfriend that "We're going to have a conversation that neither of us want to have, BUT we're going to act like adults and try to come to a reasonable solution (not saying you all don't act like adults)!" If he isn't willing to have the convo, the you do all the talking. Tell him what you said, in a less harsh kind of way. Use your pitiful voice, act, woman! But at the same time, stand your ground and be serious. If you have to, move out. That may be the only way to save the relationship, and not have to put up with his younger bro! Good luck!
2006-10-27 10:15:23 · answer #3 · answered by shondak 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well my dear friend... HOLY ****....you should not even be asking this question.....there are 6 billion people and 300 million in US alone and probaly 40,000 men of your liking in your city....get a life...i dont want to sound rude...but he is a big mooch..you get no respect...you pay for him, and you are going to school too (if i understand it corectly) and you are concerned about some a**hole who is actually a hinderence in your future...i mean honestly get out....dont break it..but move out and live with another girlfromschoolor somethinglike that....yeah companionship you will miss, that is hard, but you first got to makesomething of your life...becomea banker or a teacher or watever, then see where he is heading in life and decide for yourself what is best foryou...
the fact is if you cant satisfy yourself and be sucessfull you cant satisfy any body else..sofirst see what you want and then see where he fits in the pic...and for gods sake...kick himout!
2006-10-27 10:16:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all dump the stupid boy friend you have, send him of any where and have a good life don't ever let a stupid *** boy be between your life it's just confusing sometimes, when you are dealing with school and a boy friendwho is the stupidest thing in the world. Keep going to school (college) and you will find a guy sooner or later. come on theres a lot of smart, HOT boys in college. Toodles
2006-10-27 10:13:28 · answer #5 · answered by squeeks 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like you need a new boyfriend. If he does not respect your wishes enough to make the 14 year old respect you then the boyfriend does not have enough respect for you. I know, its you not me so this is easy for me to say, but the boyfriends attitude toward you is a symptom of the problem. This problem is best solved by finding another boyfriend.
2006-10-27 10:12:43 · answer #6 · answered by loufedalis 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dump the looser. And next time......just know that family is the most important thing there is. Don't expect some guy to drop his family for you. Learn to get along with the family and do what everyone wants to do....not just you.
2006-10-27 10:09:50 · answer #7 · answered by Amanda SSS 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I knew i'd stumble along a person like you some day. Mabe just mabe you could talk to your boyfriend and talk things out. I hope things go well for you!
2006-10-27 10:09:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-03 00:54:58 · answer #9 · answered by fritch 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Blood IS thicker than water, and if you can't handle it, it is as simple as finding a new boyfriend. They will NOT change for you, so it is futile to try and get them to. This is your only option as far as I see. You sound selfish, anyways.
2006-10-27 10:09:49 · answer #10 · answered by TheOneVersion2.0 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋