my and this guy have been dating for three years and i think hes cheating on me what should i do?

Answer 1

Well, some guys aren't stupid enough to erase phone numbers from their history on their home or cell phones, so you might want to check that when he's not around. Tell him your going to be somewhere for hours and follow him in a friends car. You shouldn't to spend time in a relationship worrying if their cheating on you. You can be unhappy by yourself. Tell him that someone you know just found out that they've been cheated on and ask him what he would do. Don't tell him what you would do because then he won't know what hit him if it turns out that he is cheating. Never let you enemy know what you're thinking.

Answer 2

If you have been dating for 3 years you should be able to talk to him about this. Tell him about your fears of him cheating and see what he says. If he really is cheating you need to dump him and move on with your life.

Answer 3

If you don't want to ask your boyfriend straight up because if he is he will most likely lie to you. Ask one of his friends they know just about everything about his current life if they have any respect they wont tell him you asked. And you'll probably get a pretty fair answer from them. Hope you find out.

Answer 4

I would be sly & suss him out. If you asked him straight up then if you think he's cheating then why would you think he will be telling the truth. Cheating = lieing in my books

Answer 5

If you suspect he is ask him ouright with the knowledge you have (don't accusse him) and if he says he isn't then trust that he isn't. I know that this doesn't feel like the thing you want to do right now, but the worst thing you could do, is to make him think that you do not trust him and until you have concrete evidence, then it is not advisable to point to the gun at him.

Don't snoop into anything of his, as remember this is a trust thing and he would distrust you from that point onwards if you handed him any evidence that you got out of snooping you may even be wrong about. If your evidence is that he is spending too much time away from you such as working too long hours, then demand that he spends more time with you and having quality time together doing special stuff because you are feeling neglected right?.

If your evidence is other such as phone messages on the phone that you both use, then yes, do confront him as this is concrete evidence. His mobile phone is his personal property so it wouldn't be wise to snoop on that or anything that is his personally. Your evidence needs to come from things that are far more evident and not private of his stuff because if he finds that you have been snooping, this will automatically push him miles away from you (not what you want) and I do understand how tempting it is and have done it myself in the past, but can tell you, is not the right way of going about it and would definitely destroy your relationship as he will not be able to trust you.

If he is a flirtascious kind of man and has lots of female admirers, then again, this is not enough evidence unless he you catch him out with someone else. If he has changed in his behaviours and is acting out of character from his usual self, this is usually the first indication and may be more sexually adventerous with you than usual?. Suspecting and knowing are two entirely different things and usually when a woman suspects, she is usually right so I am not saying that you are wrong at all, but that look out for the signs more closely and anything unusual in his behaviour.

If you feel that you have both grown apart and the romance has died a bit, then get him back into you again by making yourself more enticing again. This doesn't mean dressing up and stuff, but to be romantic with him and playful with him intimately. Bring back some romance that may have gotten lost in the time you have been together. Plan with him some time out and or take a small vacation somewhere nice where you can be together.

If your efforts come to no avail and he is disinterested then you may just have to be straight with him and tell him how you are feeling and that you feel that he has become distant with you and you want to make this relationship work, but that he has to help you get it back to the way that it was. Having as much independance of your own is also a good thing in a relationship because this will help him to see that you are a person in your own right too and this will make him appreciate and recognise you much more too.

Three years is a long time to be together and is worth making it work. If he admits to having an affair, then unless he is prepared to finnish it, get out of there with him and find someone worthy of your love. I went through a similar thing and my boyfriend really did love me, but I was the one who pushed him away but was very young then and had some of my own personal issues to sort out, he turned out to be gay anyway and so it was okay and we remained very good friends.

But my advice to you, is to allow the evidence to present itself to you rather than seek it out yourself because you want him to be the one that trips himself up. Do what you can to spice things back up and look after yourself and your needs too and see what transpires from there. If he is cheating, there is only so long he will be able to keep it a secret anyway and the evidence will come out in the wash as it were. But this is a horrid place to be in when you think you may be cheated on (you do not deserve this for sure) but wait for him to come up with the goods himself as sooner or later he will leave some signs around for you to see.

Good luck and really keep my fingers crossed for you.

Answer 6

Get the proof and kick hid butt to the curb if he is.

Answer 7

Snoop Around. Then if that don't work ask him. Trust me, you will know if he lies!! Trust me I'm A cheater!!:-)

Answer 8

do the same

Answer 9

tell him how you feel.