ok heres my situation. im 18 my gf is 16 and she got pregnant with my kid. i said if she had it i would be willing to adopt or take control of the kid if she couldnt yet today she went down and got a abortion anyways. she says she loves and all that but how can i trust her now knowing she took my kid for good and it never had a chance? i told her that maybe its better we dont see eachother anymore cause i cant deal with the pain of knowing she killed my kid even though it was both our faults she got pregnant. should i continue to try and work things out knowing ill never have a kid with her agian because of this or just move on? i have a place with my sister in kansas i can move to till i get on my feet and thats what i want to do but is it right?
2006-10-27 10:02:44 · 7 answers · asked by andy s 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
that tough. But u need to understand she is just a kid, and she freaked. She is prob feeling like crap and now ur gonna make her lose u too. I'm aganist this type of thing so I understand, but she's still a kid and didn't know what to do. Just remember there is a big differnce between 18 and 16. And if you think about it her parents could have got u in a load of stuff. So maybe that's another reason she did it cause she loves u and didn't want u n trouble
2006-10-27 10:09:00 · answer #1 · answered by for_runner0 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
u did right by breaking up with her she basicly did the abortion out of parental guilt, and later she'll be angry , hurt , depressed and have bouts of suicidal issues later.. An she may not be any good for any guy later.. I h ad that issue happen to me when i was ateen got pregnant by a guy that said he loved me . only for him to leave and go to the navy ..my mother forced me to abort my child out of guilt and physical abuse dealt at the hands of my mother. So i had the proecedure in 1994 , in 1996 I started having seizures out the blue and it was due to the abortion two yrs previous. Now I am a 31 yr woman with alot of female health issues fibroids and a enlarged uterus and painful menstrual cycle issues. An a husband whom wants kids and he has been unhappy for 7 yrs because he is stuck being married to a woman whom has alot of issues . I don't think I'll ever get over what happened in 1994 and I know because of that forced abortion that's why I haven't been able to get pregnant..They say abortions are safe but i think once you kill a God's plan for u there is no second chances. I messed up and no I am now a woman walking aroud with a dead uterus and can't conceive one child for my husband. I can't get that baby back and I've creid every night for the past 12 yrs. An I am a aunt now and my lil sister got pregnant at 19 and held her ground with my mom and has a beautiful lil boy . Me I was a coward and let my mom bully me . An I will always HATE MYSELF FOR THE REST OF MY LIFE. SOME TIMES I WISH MY HUSBAND WOULD LEAVE ME AND MARRY SOMEONE ELSE WITH A WORKING UTERUS. BECAUSE I FEEL LIKE IAM A WASTE AS A WOMAN. I LOVE KIDS AND I WANT ONE BUT ITS BEEN 12 YRS AND NO LUCK AND IJUST WANT TO DIE BECAUSE I' M A MURDERER THAT ABORTION HAS MESSED ME UP.. I HAVE WASTED MY HUSBAND'S LIFE 7YRS OF MARRIAGE AND NOT ONE CHILD .AND HE IS A GOOD MAN AND HE DESERVES BETTER. JUST TRY AND FORGIVE HER OK.. AN MAYBE SHE CAN FORGIVE HERSELF. BUT I CAN'T FORGIVE MYSELF U JUST DON'T KNOW HOW MUCH I HATE ME.
2006-10-27 17:24:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow-thats a tough one ! I say that since you are so young still you should be o.k. with what she did,having a kid sounds fun and if you're REALLY ready to be a parent it IS alot of fun but there are alot of responsibilities that go with the fun part also. Enjoy your youth!!!!If you love her you can still date her but date others too. And know that your kid is with God and will stay there until you find the right mate and then He will give the gift back to you,
2006-10-27 17:10:52 · answer #3 · answered by pammi_b 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'd say get out, or at least take a vacation to your sisters for as long as you need. You and her are too young to already be dealing with problems like this.
2006-10-27 17:06:19 · answer #4 · answered by DBCrower 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I understand you pain.
You both are very young. I would go see a church counselor or school counselor or a psychologist. I am not saying you are crazy. You are just going through a lot and need some help getting through this. It sounds like there are a lot of issues going on with you both. Don't abandon her, if she has only you.
2006-10-27 17:09:12 · answer #5 · answered by The It Girl ∆☻乐 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
i think u need some time apart...its perfectly justifiable. she went behind ur back and murdered ur child. i think u need to just be apart for a little bit and think things out...then decide if u want to be back together
2006-10-27 17:10:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Say no.....
2006-10-27 17:19:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋