She's two, will be three on Thanksgiving and she's all of a sudden started throwing tempertantrums and saying no, these are so not like her! She has been going through a lot, I know a two year old under stress, but seriously, she has spastic cerebral palsy, she's developmentally affect, but not mentally, she's smart as a whip. Because of her "disability" (I hate this word) I think her day care baby's her. She's about to go through serial casting for her legs in an effort to help her walk like you and I, how can I help her through this phase without losing my mind and her getting worse?
2006-10-27 09:49:06 · 12 answers · asked by justwondering 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Her vocabulary is just as good as my 5 year olds! lol Is it possible to hit the terrible two's so late? If so, how can I make what's going to happen next week more tolerable for her and I both?
2006-10-27 09:53:52 · update #1
Book - Come to think of it she did get prescribed a new muscle relaxer, I hadn't thought of that causing behavioral issues, but I guess it's completely possible. Thanks!
2006-10-27 10:03:56 · update #2
That's tough. You're going to have to draw the line somewhere when it comes to tantrums, but its going to be different than alot of other 2 yr olds. Her tantrums are most likely out of frustration--and I don't really see a need to punish for that kind. Just use your best judgement to determine between frustration tantrums, and tantrums because she's just being a pain in the butt (like all 2 yr. olds do!)
Her frustration will be even worse next week. Mind you I've never been in that situation or know anyone else who has, but my guess is having those casts will be frustrating to her.
When she throws a tantrum out of frustration, try to calm her down and talk it out with her. She shouldn't be punished just because she can't express how she's feeling. Sometimes she won't even know how she's feeling, and she'll be frustrated because of that. Set her on your lap and calm her down, talk to her and try to guess what her problem is. It's not going to help to ask her what it is because if she knew she would tell you.
If you see that her tantrum is just a regular 2 yr. old tantrum, then ignore it. Just walk away and don't say anything. You need to deal normally with her as much as possible. If if doesn't have to do with her disability (I hate that word too), then treat her like you would treat a regular 2 yr. old.
God bless on everything..I'll keep her in my prayers as she goes through this journey :-)
2006-10-27 09:54:13 · answer #1 · answered by CelebrateMeHome 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Tell the people at the day care all of them not to baby her. That is no way going to help her. They are in fact hurting her by not treating the same as every other child there. You can not allow her to through tempertantrums, next time she does this you can take some really cold water a small cup a pore the water on her. It will get her attention real quick and maybe calm things down. It worked for my kids sometimes they got a swat on the behind too.
2006-10-27 16:57:23 · answer #2 · answered by picture 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A very wise person (my mom and daycare provider and my mother in law) told me that the terrible twos do not start when your child is two, rather, they start at two and a half to three and last two years.
From the sounds of it, your child is smarter than most kids her age and she is figuring out how to get her way.... my three year old is doing the same thing! She is really smart..... recognizes her abc's and 123's and can write and holds conversations with adults..... but, she has terrible fits when she doesn't get her way! Her grandmother babies the mess out of her. I tell my daughter that when we get home, we are not going to have a bad attitude like we do at grandma's house because mommy does not allow the same things at her home that grandma does. When she starts throwing a fit, I ask her POLITELY to stop and I give her a chance to explain herself like a big girl. I tell her if the fit continues, she will get to sit in the quiet chair (time out) until she can talk to me in a civilized manner. She usually shapes up, if not, I put her in the quiet chair and ignore her until she stops crying. She hates that life continues even though she is having a fit. She stops crying, tells me what's wrong or what she wants, I give her my answer (that I never sway on) and ask her if she understands. Fits are few and far between anymore because she knows what the reprecussions are.
Good luck with her, kids are a handful, especially girls (I know!).
:-)
2006-10-27 17:07:11 · answer #3 · answered by Summer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be patient. Talk to her doctor about things you can try. Also talk to the director of her daycare about making her do things for herself. My best friend has Cerbral Palsy and she was not babied by her parents. She is recently divorced, but she has a 11 year-old daughter and lives on her own, has an Associates Degree from a University. She does not let anything stand in her way.
2006-10-27 17:01:27 · answer #4 · answered by Ryan's mom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My son is going to be 3 on Nov. 19. He does the same thing. I usually sit him in time out but that usually makes him more mad and scream louder. Sometimes I tell him that it makes mommy sad for him to yell at me and say no. That isn't a nice word. Mommy wants you to be a nice boy. That kind of thing and it usually works. Hang in there it will get better. It is just a phase (I hope) I am right there with you though.
2006-10-27 17:00:41 · answer #5 · answered by Ask Me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some of it could be frustration. Mind you, most two year olds are like that. I think they go through a stage where they know what they want, but don't have the vocabulary to express it. She still needs discipline though.
2006-10-27 16:52:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ohhhhh the wonderful 2's, eh? She is testing your reactions. The best way to handle temper tantrums is to ignore the tantrum. Teach her that you will respond to her needs when she communicates properly. Screaming and kicking is not the appropriate way and you are not going to respond to that behavior.
As for her saying "no"...that is her way of communicating that she doesn't like something and you will need to find out why she says "no" and see if you can calm her fears to the "no" answer when you indeed want her to say "yes". Enjoy them while you can.....life goes by too darn fast!! Good luck with the braces and her therapy...my best to you all.
2006-10-27 16:56:00 · answer #7 · answered by lykes2win 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many answers were good advice. I would only add this...when my son was on Dimetap (cough/congestion) his behavior went beserk. Turns out he was adversely affected by the drug. So, if your daughter is taking anything new, check the interactions, etc., with your doctor. Once I took my son off that medicine his behavior corrected.
2006-10-27 17:00:55 · answer #8 · answered by Book0602 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like she's hit the terrible twos a little late. my daughter was the same way. it was like she woke up one day and was a different child. she's just testing the boundries and seeing what she can get away with. stay strong and keep your ground. good luck!!
2006-10-27 16:53:15 · answer #9 · answered by atruddie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let her know that she cannot get everything she wants set limitations. you can maybe talk to her and occupy her with something else to do. hope this helps.
2006-10-27 17:42:36 · answer #10 · answered by tonib1989 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋