My grandmother married a man when I was arround 10, he is a mormon and she converted to his church. I have been to the church when I was younger and as I have gotten older learned a little more about their beliefs, which I dont agree with. I like the people, for the most part they are very kind. My grandmother is very overbearing, the type that wants you to do what they say when they say it, I love her very much, but I dont want my small children 8 and 6 to attend her church. I find every excuse in the world to not let them go, but she is persistant in finding out why they cant go and where we will be, etc. If I tell her that I think her religion is very off base in what I believe in (christian) then it will be a fight and I feel like I will hurt her feelings. She also watches my children after school for free for about two and a half hours. Can you help me find a way to tell her that I dont want them going, without a fight and hurt feelings?
2006-10-27 09:39:39 · 10 answers · asked by mudd_grip 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
I am LDS and think that being honest with her is the only way that you can truly deal with this issue.
Try to see it from her point of view as well. She has found what she considers the truth. She has found something that has made her happy. She has faith that one day she can be with her family forever. It is only natural that she wants to share this with you. She is your grandmother afterall, and we can assume that she loves you.
That said, if you haven't been to her church in a while, you may not remember correctly things that you learned there. You say that you have learned more about the LDS church now that you are older. It is not my intention to offend, but if you haven't been to the church or to one of the official websites, www.lds.org or www.mormon.org, then chances are you have been told things that may not be entirely true. So, before you tell her that her beliefs are off base from Christianity, I would highly recommend that you be sure that it is really something that we believe.
If you have any questions about the church, I would be more than happy to answer them. Good luck.
2006-10-28 02:14:20 · answer #1 · answered by whapingmon 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
This is so difficult. Free baby sitting is a real bonus and it must be hard to tell her say no to anything she asks. Because she is a relative she must know that you aren't going to any other "church." Does she know and understand your spiritual beliefs and why you wouldn't want your kids to go to that church?
Perhaps if you went with the kids you could explain things to them afterwards. If you aren't willing to bend at all and she is soooo persistant, you may have to find another babysitter and make her upset with you too. She obviously takes this religion very seriously and it is the one and only way for her.
2006-10-27 09:50:42 · answer #2 · answered by LongAgo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit down and have a heart to heart with her. Let her know how much you love and care about her, but you want to raise YOUR kids in a different belief system. Probley sounds easier said than done, but you need to do it. Sounds like you NEED her to help you with your kids, but if she has a hissy fit over this, then the ball is in her court and you will find someone else to watch your kids. For your kids sake, you're going to have to get gutsy.
2006-10-27 09:44:49 · answer #3 · answered by Red neck 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I appreciate your thinking. Science is the best relegion . you should sent your children just to school. In this whole world there is ne better place than a school. No doubt, Jesus is regarded as a founder of Christianity, but in reality he was more scientific than a relegious.
2006-10-27 09:47:25 · answer #4 · answered by Live & Let Live! 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why don't you try going with your children one week...go to their classes and see what they are learning. It is the gospel of love, peace, family...how can that be "off base"? See what they are being taught...maybe you could use a refresher course.
2006-10-27 10:24:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope - feelings will be hurt.
Just be nice and respectful.
"While I respect you decision on the religion you have chosen - I, myself, choose not to be Mormon. I also choose for my own children not to be raised Mormon. I'd rather you not take them to church with you. I hope you respect my decision as I respect yours."
2006-10-27 09:45:51 · answer #6 · answered by betsymaemae 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is Christmas and Easter. often times you do issues for those you adore notwithstanding in case you do no longer like it. Are you going to allow your observed toddler to be uncovered to different recommendations than your very own or will you be illiberal and demand that he/she believes precisely as you do. in case you rigidity your toddler to be an atheist such as you he/she could sense the way in direction of atheism which you do in direction of Christianity.
2016-10-16 11:37:10 · answer #7 · answered by pachter 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be gentle, yet firm. Explain to her that you are raising your kids in whatever Christian tradition that you have, and that you don't want them to become confused by a different doctrine.
2006-10-27 09:43:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be honest with her. if she is a religious person, then she will understand where you come and why and she won't judge you or your beliefs.
2006-10-27 09:44:27 · answer #9 · answered by geminiblue26 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honesty is always the best policy
2006-10-27 09:42:45 · answer #10 · answered by williamzo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋