My 4th grade daughter has been lying about her homework. She keeps saying that she doesn't have any homework. She was doing this for 1 and half weeks without me noticing and then her teacher calls me and tells me that Kat ( my daughter) hasn't been turning in homework. I am starting to feel so sad about the whole thing. What kind of punishment should I giver her so that she stops this? How should I handle the situation?
2006-10-27 09:36:46 · 21 answers · asked by Jeannette E 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
when i was young, i had a problem along those same lines. i would do my homework and not turn it in. my mom made me this horrible necklace that was pink and frilly, i hated it. she made me wear it to school until i turned it in. i think it lasted all of about 2 days and i got the hint that i needed to turn in my homework. try that. make her wear it after school until she shows you what she has for homework. buy her a planner and have her write her assignments in it and have to teacher initial it everyday.
2006-10-27 10:00:38 · answer #1 · answered by redpeach_mi 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If this is uncommon behaviour for your child look for a trigger. Something happened that made it hard to catch back up, then it became easier to not deal with the homework then deal with it, since the consequences will be the same.
I made my son sit down for an hour after school and do his homework. If he had none, he could read a book (AR for school) or stare at the ceiling. He can be a stubborn child and might sit staring at the ceiling for a few weeks before the homework started coming out.
Next work out with your teacher a system so that you know immediately when there is homework and/or its not being done. Every school has this exact problem and I've worked in schools where I've had to send out emails to parents nightly or in some cases they have assignment pads that need your signature on them.
2006-10-27 09:58:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, find out why she was lying........does she have anxiety about doing her homework.....is she worried she might not do well....please don't punish her without finding out why? and there is always a why?.....I don't know if you are an involved parent or not, but try keeping in contact with the teacher on a regular basis ask questions about your daughter.....and how she does in class etc.....
2006-10-27 09:45:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been having this very same problem with my 4th grade son. I talked to his teacher and asked if she would be willing to start a communication notebook. The book stays in his backpack until the teacher writes in it whether or not his homework is done and what he has to do if it isn't. I in turn write in it at night to let her know I saw the work, know it is completed and should be passed in that next morn. It is working very well and he can no longer say "I don't have any"!
2006-10-27 12:39:16 · answer #4 · answered by **KELLEY** 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe the teacher could help you out. If she would send home a journal(in her writing of course) she could check to see what homework your child needs to bring home. If you don't see the journal everyday you'll know your child is hiding something. When she walk in the door check her journal and see that her homework gets done before ANYTHING!!!!!As far as punishment goes, your really the only one who knows what will work for your daughter, every kid is different.
2006-10-27 14:35:47 · answer #5 · answered by RaeLynn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
rade 3 to grade 12 although I had a very hi IQ I felt that HW was not neccessary. In fact I finished out H/S via the equivilancy exam
Try to approach your daughter cautiously
let her know that your not mad and she's not in trouble
You actually are concerned about her.
You could try the reward system
find out what she likes ALOT! and provide a bit of that when she has met or exceeded the required mark.
2006-10-27 12:50:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First I would take time to explain why homework is so important. Let her know that you are talking to her teacher about her homework. Give her a chance to improve and if she dosnt then start punishment. Extra chores, no pocket money, no treats...im sure she will get the message eventually.
I had this problem with my son. He started doing it when he had no money for comics at the end of the week.
2006-10-27 09:41:25 · answer #7 · answered by huggz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do not punish. why are parents so quick to punish? you should offer a reward like some time for just you and your daughter doing something she loves if she brings her homework home every night for a week. then choose a new reward each week.
2006-10-27 12:09:33 · answer #8 · answered by heather l 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have lived this. My daughter did this for 19 days before the school notified me, I was waiting tohear from them and whenI didnt I thought ok she really doesnt have homework. I felt like sucha fool. Now, we have a weekly report and I am in touch with teachers through e mail and i am involved in the PTO you would beshockedat what you learn there. Oh, and she has to do her homework immediately when she gets home, no phone for 19 days no PC for 19 days and she was cranky for at least 14 of the 19 days,,,,good luck and breathe.
2006-10-27 14:07:42 · answer #9 · answered by Lori M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well #1 i dont agree with homework kids spend almost all there day at school doing school work and then they give more work to do at home when you should be able to have fun and relax, #2 i know thats no the info that you wanted so heres the real info, if she is lying about other stuff lie to her about things she wants to do, and then tell her thats how you felt when her teacher called and said she isnt turning in her homework
2006-10-27 09:48:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋