ihow can i convince my mom that movies is not something i always want to do on weekends. almost every weekend she says lets see this movie. i feel like i don't have freedom. on saturdays im up then i get dressed then it's always off to the movies. i want to hang out with people from high school and college.i am 21 years old.i have a boyfriend who i've been dating for 5 months. does anyone have any ideas of what i can say? i don't want to hurt her feelings.
2006-10-27 09:26:14 · 9 answers · asked by Melanie P 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
clearly ur mum wants to spend quality time with u. Just discuss things bout ur boyfriend with her n subtely tell her tht ur bf wants to hang out with u on saturday.u're not a baby n if ur mum really cares she'll understand.
p.s n try spendin more time with ur mum....to make up for these saturdays!! lol
2006-10-27 09:34:19 · answer #1 · answered by lil.princess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you open up a day for her, when your not hanging out
with your friends or your boy-friend. Your MOM will always be
their for you when you are down and she will be the one to bring you right back up. Give her a moment of your time. It's not going
to hurt you, but it will hurt her feeling. I am so glad my daughter
is not like you cause I would feel that she doesn't love me any
more. She is 22 and lives with her fiance and my 2 grandchildren
and she gives me a day to spend some time together. I hardly
go to there house because I figure I'd give them space, but it's
them calling me to go over and spend quility time, even if they
make dinner with a good movie. Try it you might like it. Not all
the time but a least once in a while. My Daughters and I are so
close I don't know what I'll do without them and they wouldn't
even know what to do without me. I know cause they tell me.
And I tell them.
2006-10-27 16:43:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What to say depends on whether you want time away from her or just don't want to go to the movies. You could suggest something different to do--"Hey Mom, I heard about this great new restaurant and I though we could check it out on Saturday instead of seeing a movie together." If you want to be with friends instead it's a bit trickier because you may hurt her feelings, but that doesn't mean you don't have the right to be elsewhere. Tell her how much you value the time you spend together but that it's also important at your age that you spend time with your boyfriend and other friends. Talk to her about this ahead of time. If you say it on Saturday morning when she already has an expectation of spending time with you it will hurt her more. Talk to her mid-week about what you would like to do for the weekend. "Mom, I love going to the movies with you but this Saturday I was hoping to go shopping with friends. Could you and I get lunch together on Sunday instead?" If she knows she'll have other time with you it will help.
Does your mom depend on you too much for socialization? If she doesn't have friends of her own maybe you can help her find other outlets. (Not a kid's job, but if she's lonely and meets other people her demands on your time will lighten up.) Encourage her to volunteer for something as a way to meet people. Volunteer with her for a bit if she's not willing to go alone and after she meets people it might help.
2006-10-27 16:35:17 · answer #3 · answered by jonahbeast 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ya know what... My mom is DEAD... and Id give anything... ANYTHING... to have her back to take me to the movies and spend time with me... So your friends and your boyfriend SURELY can understand that you spend THIS once a WEEK time with your ONLY MOM! Dont hurt her feelings... KEEP GOING. Someday she wont be around to take you anywhere anymore and you'll look back on the GREAT memories you have of all the fun times you spent with her.
2006-10-27 16:31:22 · answer #4 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your mom on Monday or Tuesday that you are so excited, because this coming Saturday you are your friends are finally going to be able to get together. Or you can just try and say, no thanks mom, not today, I already have plans with my friends for this evening, maybe next week or tomorrow.
2006-10-27 16:29:28 · answer #5 · answered by Suthern R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her you have other plans, but maybe you could see a movie with her some other time. she just likes hanging out with you so make sure you make time for her!
2006-10-27 16:29:51 · answer #6 · answered by S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move out, tell her that you need some space... talk to her. The only way she is ever going to know how you feel is if you talk to her.
2006-10-27 16:28:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lets try. NO! Mom I' a little tired of seeing movies.. Let's go XYZ....
2006-10-27 16:33:05 · answer #8 · answered by Marshall Lee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you are gonna hurt her feelings
2006-10-27 16:28:02 · answer #9 · answered by Allinwiththenuts 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋