I usually date girls and just have fun. However, I recently went out with a girl that I really connected with and she did too. I usually don't do this but on our second date I asked her to be my girlfriend. She said yes without hesitation. The following week she told me that she had to talk about us. She broke up with me 'cause she broke up with her ex-boyfriend three months ago and she needed time and didn't want to hurt me or use me. I was heart broken and she was sad and crying. I really like this girl. How long should I wait? Should I move on? Need advice please. Thanks.
2006-10-27 09:23:07 · 18 answers · asked by smooth 321 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
wait until either something happens or you're ready to move on. whatever you do -- don't start calling and emailing and being overly pushy about it -- that'll scare her off faster than anything. call every other week or so and see how she's doing and let her know you'd like to take her to dinner when she's ready.... then see what happens...and if someone else comes along --- her loss.
2006-10-27 09:28:14 · answer #1 · answered by Ducky S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know its hard but you need to move on. This girl is obviously still confused and she doesnt want to hurt you becasue she feelings are lost in her ex. Start dating other girls and still look around, but keep this girl as a friend. When the time is right and she is totally over her ex she will come back to you. I know the same thing happened to me.
I was dating this one guy who wanted to be in a serious relationship but I still had feelings for my ex. I went back with my ex and realized he wasnt the one. When this happened I ended up with the other guy cause I realized I liked him more.
Just give it time-trust me!
2006-10-27 16:30:35 · answer #2 · answered by TroubleRose 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she went out with her ex for less than 6 months then wait no more than 10 days. If she went out with him 6 months to a year then wait 14 days. If they went out for 1 - 2 years wait 30 days. If more than 2 years then wait 6 months. All of the days mentioned above are calendar days, holidays count as two days since you are not in school.
2006-10-27 16:27:00 · answer #3 · answered by Allinwiththenuts 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm glad to hear you found someone after just having fun with females, but sorry that you feel so sad. It's hard for the situation you're in because she's got unresolved issues with her ex, and she's right to not want to get serious with you until she figures out what she wants. You really don't want someone to be with you while they've still got feelings for someone else. As for waiting time? Well, you'll have to answer that one for yourself. But you definetly don't want to wait years you know what I mean??! It's the old saying:"If it's meant to be, it will be"
Good Luck
2006-10-27 16:41:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should look for other people the same as you would as a single man. But, if she comes back, then it was meant to be and go with it. You could ask her if she wanted to be friends, that way you could stay close and help her through this time. Once she has recovered and is ready to move on you'll be there ready for her.
2006-10-27 16:25:40 · answer #5 · answered by Fran Y 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really like her give her time but let her know that it's an open relationship. If she is not willing to commit then you are fair game. Never let anyone keep you dangling from a puppet string. She sounds nice enough but you are young so live your life.
Keep remeinding her how special she is to you......that way she knows that you are serious and are not just out for the conquer and quest.
2006-10-27 16:27:47 · answer #6 · answered by Wife~and~Mom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She should have definitely waited until she was 100% over her ex to jump in a relationship with you. Sorry to hear you're hurting but you should move on. You may still think about her but just be glad it didn't last very long, otherwise you'd have it worse.
2006-10-27 16:28:30 · answer #7 · answered by bri 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont move on! If you made a connection just dont let it go like it was nothing. Give her some time... just keep some space maybe hang out as FRIENDS then when you feel its good timing just ask her again. Explain that you really like her and want her back. Good luck! :)
2006-10-27 16:27:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't wait at all. Live your life and have a good time. If one day she decides she's over him and wants you, she can call you and see if you're available. Don't wait for people to sort out their baggage- enjoy life.
It was dumb of you to expect her to be your girlfriend on the second date anyway.
2006-10-27 16:25:48 · answer #9 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait for what? Why wait for anything? Get your emotions back together and then move on. If she's wants to try again at some point, and you are available, then you can address that at that time.
2006-10-27 16:25:51 · answer #10 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋