About the birds and bees with kids.? I have a 9yr boy and 8yr girl we havent ever talked about it, my son has asked how do babies get out and I told him from the womens vagina and thats all he said my daughter hasn't asked anything.. I have been told wait until they ask you, but I am not sure about that cause what if they dont and learn from someone else who gets it wrong?? My sister has kids the same age and they know everything about everything sex,periods,kissing, etc etc... I haven't even told my daughter about her getting her period...
I am a little scared as well I learned everything from reading a book or listening to my brothers cause my mom and dad NEVER talked to us about it, they said live and learn make your own mistakes..
So I am just curious when I should start and how much do I let them know?? Thank you
2006-10-27 09:15:20 · 10 answers · asked by Alexis221 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
My son has only asked one question which I answered. They haven't asked anymore.
2006-10-27 09:21:10 · update #1
My kids are home schooled so they aren't exposed to any of it at school..
2006-10-27 09:33:24 · update #2
Sometimes when parenting, a door will open and we have an opportunity to take advantage of it. My daughter asked me,
"how do babies really get here." That was my cue that the stork story was not working. It was my opportunity to sit down and discuss as much as she was ready to hear. Then there are times when this doesn't happen, as with your daughter. If she is not asking questions, then you should ask the questions but do so in a non-threatening manner. Just sit down, maybe in her room and the two of you have some mommy-daughter time.
Ask her to pick a topic and talk about it. If you are nervous then practice before you do it. Your children look up to you and you must be the adult. They will not judge you if you don't have all the answers or if you are nervous. But do something before she learns the wrong things from her friends. Best wishes.
2006-10-27 12:01:13 · answer #1 · answered by Cecelia G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should have been answering their questions as they came up, like you said you did. at about 9, I got my daughter a period/sex book that she keeps as a reference, my son is 9 and I am getting the boy version for him for his birthday coming up. You need to talk to your daughter now, because you don't want the flo to start and her not to know (some girls start at 9).
Make sure to read the book first, tell your daughter you have and then tell her you will both talk about it after she's done.
Impress upon her (both of them, actually) that sex is something that is nice but requires a lot of responsibility and that whole thing. I have drilled it into my kids heads because I don't want them to be caught with their pants down, so to speak!
2006-10-27 16:19:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should have started that discussion a long time ago. When you don't talk to children about things is when they try to find the answers on their own and you wind up with your daughter or son getting ready to be a parent at 13 or 14. Don't be scared to talk to them about sex, be scared to NOT talk to them about it.
2006-10-27 16:23:28 · answer #3 · answered by FaerieWhings 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This should normally be done approximately 1 - 2 years after they've already found everything out at school. Then they can correct you, and even tell you about new stuff like the reverse Cowgirl position.
2006-10-27 16:30:28 · answer #4 · answered by Johnson W 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm not even going to lie to you: Your kids are going to be exposed to sex with or without you telling them about it. I had "the talk" with my nephew when he was seven. The point is you want them to know how to do the right thing before they start to explore that world themselves. I'm around young teens everyday; you wont believe the ages they were when they first discovered sex. So, it's best you talk to them a.s.a.p.
2006-10-27 16:28:11 · answer #5 · answered by rox_amillion 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have an 8 yr. old boy - he's learned a bit from our dogs doing it...
They're still pretty young yet - I would wait to tell them about sex when they're around 12/13 but as far as periods go...around 10.
2006-10-27 16:18:12 · answer #6 · answered by Cari 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
we i was young we had sex education in school every year. i would do it soon. kids these days are losing their virginity younger than i ever thought possible. i personally know 3 girls that had children by 17 and i live in a small town in Kansas.
2006-10-27 17:18:31 · answer #7 · answered by redpeach_mi 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This link may have some ideas for you
http://aacap.org/page.ww?name=Talking+to+Your+Kids+About+Sex§ion=Facts+for+Families
2006-10-27 16:24:30 · answer #8 · answered by babysweetvee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think i would try for when they start noticing the opposite sex and stuff like that. or when they ask. i wouldn't force it on them.
2006-10-27 16:26:01 · answer #9 · answered by guesswhoohme 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if they hang around your sisters children then they probably already know.
but you should tell them whenever they ask you.
2006-10-27 16:17:38 · answer #10 · answered by Vicky 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋