I love my girlfriend and trust her and we have been in a great relationship. But later I found out that when she talk to her ex on the phone (which is not very often) they still call each other "honey" (the guy lives in another city). I was furious and mad, of course, and she argued that she and her ex have been using that word all the time (they had been together for quite some time and they broke up around a couple of years ago) and they never mean honey like in a lovingly manner, just friends, but I was still mad. Then she cried because she worried that I was going to leave her because of that. I forgave her and life went on but at some point she still call him "honey" again and I got mad and that cycle goes around again and again.
We continue to have great relationship but this thing makes me think sometimes.
Any clues?
2006-10-27 09:09:52 · 12 answers · asked by Whatta 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Look, kid:
If there was anything going on between your girlfriend and her ex, don't you think they would have made the mutual agreement to stay together in the first place? You're overreacting. After all, YOU'RE the one with the girlfriend; not him. So chill out. And YOU should be the one asking for forgiveness; not your girlfriend. I suggest an apology to her for your freaking out. Good luck, dude.
2006-10-27 09:14:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
ya know I'm in the similar situation except I'm married. I call my ex boyfriend the pet names we did while dating and he does vice versa.
I think the reason for this is b/c even though we are no longer together we still care VERY much for eachother, but also know on the other side of that, that we broke up b/c we feel we are better off as friends.
Don't get mad about it, b/c there is nothing to worry about. Just relax and love your girlfriend as this is not happening.
2006-10-27 09:14:26 · answer #2 · answered by Mandi B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok yes, get this. Me and my ex husband, in the beginning when we were first dating, had an older couple as friends and she had this trashy trailer park way of calling her husband "hu nay", it was hunay this and hunay that. We started calling eachother hunay alllllll the time. Now it's 10 years later, and we're divorced but best friends. I still call him hon(ay) and he calls me dear or yes dear, just out of old habit. I swear half the time I don't remember his first name, he's always just been honey to me. I've called him that in front of my current guy and it didn't seem to phase him. He knows I adore my ex as a best friend and its just an old nickname that stuck. When we try to call eachother by our real names it feels weird as hell LOL
If your gf is a good woman and this is the worst thing she does, try to overlook it. Now that she knows you don't like it, maybe she'll cool it. But if she does it once in a while, I'd overlook it. I don't think it means a thing.
2006-10-27 09:21:49 · answer #3 · answered by Ade 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girls often use "Honey" when refering to boys. It's like "Dude" for males. Your reaction to her using it towards and ex or any guy for that matter- says more about you than her. You should ask yourself why it bothers you. Are you insecure? Maybe you just don't like it and feel it should be reserved for you only. You should communicate how it makes you feel to your girl when she uses that word to refer to others. Otherwise chill out and be glad the girl is with you in the first place.
2006-10-27 09:17:45 · answer #4 · answered by newnatedog 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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This is probably the most important part. With texting, you can stop and think about what you want to say to your ex at each step of the way. Instead of reacting emotionally, you can take your time, figure out the right thing to say (I’ll give you most of it), and be strategic with your ex without saying something that you’ll regret.
2016-04-23 09:32:32 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her the benefit of the doubt that nothing is going on between them, until evidence prove otherwise. Maybe this is the way she naturally talks, calling people honey, darling, etc.
2006-10-27 09:14:05 · answer #6 · answered by WC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes i hear my dad call my friends that are girls 'honey' when hes conversing with them, but in a casual respectful way. hopefully your girlfriend is right on the same page. let her know that it makes you made, if she already knows then that's good, but don't show it and have outbursts, tell her. Besides shes your girl , and honey is just a condiment.
2006-10-27 09:20:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like the ex is not completely out of the picture. I have never called my ex "honey" Would not even consider it. Sorry for your luck. Get out while you still can.
2006-10-27 09:14:33 · answer #8 · answered by Lost in Maryland 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
WATCH OUT!
but again out weight the good times with her and the bad times in the realtionship before you make any move and ruin your life
2006-10-27 09:17:08 · answer #9 · answered by sweet cherry78 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats a little too flirtateous to me.....then again i would not have none of that...i trust my man but i'd b damned if he talkin to ex on the phone.....dont act like u never have them late nights talkin bout the sex they used to have.....watch out!
2006-10-27 09:13:21 · answer #10 · answered by AUDREY H 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋