been raped? I was and I really do not know what to do about it. I am still mad at him, but I also am trying to forgive and forget. It is a hard subject.
2006-10-27 09:07:43 · 12 answers · asked by hugsnotdrugs3333 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Wow I'm so caught of guard by this question. No i have never been raped, but just seeing this question I think wow. I'm so sorry! I do know that in this situation girl you got every right to be mad at him. You do have to forgive him, but you DO NOT have to forget. I hate to hear that this has been done to you. I also want you to know, even though you didn't ask this, that it was not your fault remember that! My mom was raped @ the age of 14 and it has always been hard! She often thinks about it but since she started going to church and really depending on Jesus she's been able to let a lot of her anger go! Try to focus on other things (GOOD THINGS ONLY) it will help you a lot! No means no regardless of what he thinks! Also remember just because he has done this to you, doesn't mean that all men are like him because their not. My mom was still able to find a loving man to marry later in life. leave him alone too! I'll be praying for you!
God Bless You, shorti241!
2006-10-27 09:24:24 · answer #1 · answered by shorti241 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes by somebody I knew . It was many years ago (30 something).I thought it was my fault some how.
Anyway, there is a Sexual Assault Hot line listed in every phone book I think. Call them~ they will talk to you and that will help. Tell them anything and everything you need to say. It is easier when you don't know the person you are telling about the rape and it really will help to say it out loud. The more I accepted what happened the better I felt. I would never want to see the person who did this to me. I have nothing to say to him. I want peace with it and seeing him is not peaceful.The anger you feel is normal and is part of the healing process.....you just need to make sure you channel it in a productive way. You may need help with that. On line help is nice but IT IS NOT PROFESSIONAL>>>>CALL the HOT LINE Forgiving and forgetting may happen with time but for now just take care of yourself and don't worry about him.
2006-10-27 16:25:05 · answer #2 · answered by PRISSY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have never been raped but I've had a couple of friends who were.
I think being mad is a very healthy feeling. In fact, I think even rage handled in the correct way would be a normal feeling. Let yourself be mad as long as you need to be. If you feel like you are not dealing with your feelings appropriately or are frustrated with the way you feel, talk to someone: a counselor, a priest, a doctor.
Hang in there!
2006-10-27 16:14:39 · answer #3 · answered by The It Girl ∆☻乐 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I have and you don't really forgive & forget .. it's been 11 years and I have gotten over the fear of it but there are sometimes that I get a little depressed.
I tried to press charges but my situation was one that was a huge mess (thanks to so called friends) ... you need to do what's right for you ... did you report it? Are you pressing charges???
Please remember this was not your fault and that you need to see a doctor to make sure you aren't carrying a disease or pregnant ...
There are many support groups but stay away from the men hater clubs ... not all men are rapists ... and he should be brought to justice.
Good luck.
2006-10-27 16:11:19 · answer #4 · answered by emnari 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
AWE IM SO SORRY FOR YOU! no however my friend just went though sometihng like that but she got away and she ran and got cut on her hand and stuff but now shes goign into therapy becuase well i think it is the best thing to do is talk about it. wow you know the person? i would have a very very hard time forgiving the person!!
good luck
2006-10-27 16:11:20 · answer #5 · answered by sofitch420 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i wasnt but one of my very good friends was. try talking to someone close to you, it helps getting it out of your body, have you tried calling any services? like the police or ne one? don't worry hun you have a right to be mad at him you can dislike him for the rest of your life for what he did to you, you can forgive him also but because it is such a tough subject it'll probly take you a while to forget. you might not over forget.
2006-10-27 16:13:13 · answer #6 · answered by Megan28 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I never have been, but I really think you should tell someone. No matter how scared you are you need to tell someone so you can do something about it. You shouldn't just let him get away with raping you, it's just not right.
2006-10-27 16:10:26 · answer #7 · answered by uhd0rableo8 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
imsorry to hear what happen to you
and i could say is keep ur head and allow ur self to be stronger
dont allow this mishap crush u as a person and dont let take away ur soul like it has done to many women
u always have someone to talk too in me
email me whenever peterfl999@yahoo.com
sorry to hear that
good luck
2006-10-27 16:10:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
nah im a dude but for real u dont have ANY respect for yourself - your still trying 2 forgive him? think about it if u have no respect for yourself, nobody else will - this is why things like this happen in the 1st place
2006-10-27 16:10:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Report it if you haven't already, get to a doctor and seek counseling. It also sounds like you know this person, which will make your recovery even harder (esp. if you see them alot).
2006-10-27 16:19:56 · answer #10 · answered by goaliegirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋