Seriously I would like to know if guys truely value a girl's virginity as a gift or if it's just "she can't have anything". I always thought that it was a very special part of a girl's life but when my boyfriend took my virginity he told me that guys just don't care.
2006-10-27 09:05:12 · 33 answers · asked by Ria L 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I am 20 years old. This happened two years ago and I'm still with him.
2006-10-27 13:47:53 · update #1
I'm a virgin and I certainly value a girl's virginity. I'm saving myself for marriage and I would hope that my wife would do the same.
2006-10-27 09:07:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No girl I've been with has been a virgin. I've been told by both guys and gals that a girl loosing her virginity can be quite messy at times with the blood and all, and that the first time might be rather awkward and painful for the girl.
I think the two type of guys that are interested in taking a girl's virginity are 1) the kind that cares about her first experience being as pleasurable and loving as possible, and will take the time and effort to see that this happens, and 2) the kind that wants to score some points in his mind or with his friends by being the first one to "pop her cherry".
As for all of the other guys, I believe they care more if the girl isn't or hasn't been promiscuous or overly so. So not virgins but virginal. This is basically because sex is different for a girl than for a guy physically in that it is a more intimate act on her part. The girl has the guy entering her body AND leaving a part of himself behind (if a condom isn't used). This isn't true for the guy and he is aware of it on some level. That the girl allows herself to be this intimate with several guys can give the guy she is currently with the impression that she thinks little of herself and/or that she doesn't consider him to be very special.
So guys don't care either way. They either care more about the girl than they do about what she has done before, or they care more about having sex than they care that she has had it with serval other guys before him.
2006-10-27 09:32:31 · answer #2 · answered by marklemoore 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is a girl's virginity important to a guy? In my opinion, yes and no.
'Yes' because it means a lot to a guy if a girl has her first experience with him. It's hard to explain but it has to do with trust and commitment - 9 times of out 10 a girl won't just jump on any guy, he has to be special to the girl. But this all depends on the guy. Some men (like myself) are very honest and sincere towards women and will never do anything to hurt the girl. Others, like the type you meet at a club on a late friday night - well they just want to "get some."
And 'no' because virginity isn't everything. There's a whole lot more to a girl than her virginity. I never wonder if the girl is a virgin, i just want to get to know her, spend time with her, have fun and let the rest come naturally.
I hope my opinion helps answer your question. I found it hard to explain this in writing.
boomshakalaka!
2006-10-27 09:18:34 · answer #3 · answered by Jacus 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That is not true you trusted him and what he said is not true, yes virginity is a gift and you should value it, just because you are not a virgin anymore babe doesnt mean you have to go out in the world and sleep around. Its okay, just be careful who you trust and some guys want a virgin someone who is saving themselves for marriage. It depends... sorry Im a girl but I just wanted to answer this one anyway.
2006-10-27 09:08:51 · answer #4 · answered by caysay d 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm.....I think he used that line to get into your pants. The truth is that nowdays teens are getting involved sexually at such an alarming rate, that it's very common for guys to completely disregard the romantic and invaluable gift a girl's virginity can really be. Everything is so in-your-face nowadays....and everybody feels pressured by their friends to "Just Do It", that the only reason virginity is even talked about is because there are still parents that try to teach their children about what love and sex is really all about.
To answer your question....Yes, I think there still are a few guys out there who can appreciate and value the importance of a girl having saved herself for that very special, and unforgettable guy.
Now....when you find him....keep it to yourself, because no one's going to believe you anyway.
Best of Luck!
2006-10-27 09:15:18 · answer #5 · answered by Ralph 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok I am a girl but hear me out will you? First of all, how old are you? Secondly, all I have read in the previous answers is about having "self-respect" for yourself to wait to "give" it to a guy you truly care about. Chances are, you did. You obviously cared somewhat for the guy you chose to sleep with or it wouldnt have happened. Then I hear talk about some men wanting their wives to be virgins so they can get that "gift". Spare me ok? The truth of the matter is men are lying cheating bas tards that will tell you anything they think you want to hear to get you to do what they want. Its just a way of life. Dont go around feeling sorry for your self or hanging your head in shame because some jerk-off convinced you he was in love with you and you slept with him. You are not "ruined" or "tainted" or whatever term you want to use. Consider yourself "smarter and wiser" instead. Dont think that you dont have anything to give to your husband when you finally meet him and get married, this is not the 1800's honey. You dont have to give him a dam thing. If he loves you and wants to marry you then he will, you being a virgin will have nothing to do with it. Chances are he wont be one, but it will have come by him in a totally different way. He was probably fu ck ing congratulated when he lost his virginity. You dont have to take crap of anyone because of this. Dont listen to these idiots on here who say it is a cherished thing, thats bull sh*t. The world does not work that way anymore. You stand tall and hold your head up high and stomp on anyone who attempts to look down on you because you had sex. Women have been sexually supressed for decades, and telling them that losing their virginity to someone they are not married to is one way to keep them supressed. And it obviously is still working today or you wouldnt be feeling bad about yourself. Just dont, understand what happened and move on sister. And get away from ignorant people who make up stories to get what they want.
2006-10-27 09:45:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is very special. It's just that when girls keep giving it up in JrH and HS, because you are in "love" and our yourger bros lie/trick/do anything in their power to take it from you at a young age. It becomes less and less of a big deal. Nowadays, it's a rarity, and guys have to deal with the fact that someone has had the girls before. So it's less and less important since you rarely bump into one that respects herself enough to wait...
2006-10-27 09:17:12 · answer #7 · answered by MisterO 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe that most guys have no idea of what they feel during sex.
And only if you tear the hymen and bleed. They still would have no idea.
I believe virginity it is just a religious hocus pocus thing. You can rupture the hymen just playing sports. BTW don't 75% of girls masturbate during their teens? Don't make an issue about it and relax have fun.
2006-10-27 09:20:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It:s a gift< and any guy that is giveing this gift should really feel honared. I know when I receved it, I couldn:t think of any better thing from a girl.WE became married and for 17 years I felt honared to have gotten the gift.
2006-10-27 09:14:21 · answer #9 · answered by mswildman2005 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well it does not matter if your just having sex with someone truly if you could have waited for the right guy and been in a good setting and been married to the guy yes it would matter allot that just tells me that your guy doesn't care for you the way you think he does and is not that serious about you.
Good for you for trying to wait
2006-10-27 09:12:35 · answer #10 · answered by Since birth 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋