with. there is one guy but we just started dating and its to soon to tell if we will last or not and im not gonna jump into bed with him just cause i want a kid... what should i do?
2006-10-27 09:03:35 · 17 answers · asked by sweet_girl_snglnlokn2006 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
You must be kidding?
First, remember that whoever you choose YOU WILL BE ASSOCIATED WITH FOR THE REST OF YOUR LIFE regardless. This is the child's father you are talking about.
Example:
My parents were together and divorced when I was fairly young. Neither one can really stand the other. But I'll be damned if I will either exclude one or hold a separate function so both can attend. They had to pull it together and behave like adults at my wedding, or any family event they want to be included in.
I'm not talking about you. I'm not talking about him. I'm talking about this 'child' you 'want' so 'desparately'.
Think about it, this is someone you are choosing for this little kid to call 'Daddy'. THAT's what you have to consider.
Everyone assumes that in today's society women can have it all and that the end. Well YES sure we can... but if we want to give a thought to our kids for one second, the kids (hello!) still WANT a Dad they can trust and count on, no matter how successfull, self sufficient, or maternal Mom is. Our kids still want a solid paternal figure. The least you can do is try find a good one for them.
Is he at least someone your child could count on? be proud of? lean on? go to? trust? learn from? would you want him as a father? - anything?
LOOK AT THE MAN from the CHILD's perspective!
C'mon ladies! It's time we took a stand and started choosing better father's for our kids! We have that power but we sure don't seem to use it anymore! Step it up!
oh, I'm sorry, I got a little carried away... but I still mean every word.
Be Smart. Have Fun & Good Luck.
2006-10-27 09:25:00 · answer #1 · answered by Oh, I see 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It isn't so much the right guy as the right attitude. Are you ready to give up the night life, the unencumbered shopping, the unsupervised going from here to there? Are you ready to be responsible for another human 24/7? You go nowhere without protection for this child or you take the child with everywhere, everyday. Now say you have the right guy? Is he ready for all of the above? Marriage is one thing, having a kid is another. When both of you feel you can give up your privacy and alot of personal freedom, you will know you have the right guy.
2006-10-27 09:09:58 · answer #2 · answered by juncogirl3 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Stay away from the bed and the question to him whether he wants children. Take your time and whats the rush? Next week you may not want kids. It is better to have both parents when raising a child and the right man will come along if you are patient.
2006-10-27 09:08:28 · answer #3 · answered by Chuck C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, I seriously don't know why you're asking this question but, NO, you should NOT just jump in bed with him because you want a child.
Go find a man.
Get married.
And THEN get pregnant.
Please, use common sense. There is nothing you can do unless you want a man to impregnate you and leave you and screw up your child's life.
2006-10-27 09:09:23 · answer #4 · answered by These Fights 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk with God!
If you give Him your life, he will send the man (who should be looking for you - see the book of Proverbs 18:22 22 The man who finds a wife finds a treasure, and he receives favor from the Lord.
New Living Translation (NLT))
Let God give you the man HE wants you to have and the two of you will be blessed. But do it on your own...it'll be a guaranteed mess!
2006-10-27 09:16:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
WAIT and give it time.. A child NEEDS a dad in there lifes and having a child is a BIG chore.. I would wait it out with this guy see what his morals are if he wants kids, how he acts with other peoples kids, etc.. Let him know you want kids and see what happens.
2006-10-27 09:07:08 · answer #6 · answered by Alexis221 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be patient. I know this is hard, but the right man will come along. You'll be happy that you waited. It's better than rushing it or pressuring the man into something he doesn't want. Good Luck.
2006-10-27 09:09:00 · answer #7 · answered by bearby02 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you seem to have two different things going on here. You want a kid but you also want to find the right man.... Well I prolly ain't the right man but I do have a lactation fetish so maybe I could help with half of the problem.... holla.
2006-10-27 09:13:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
you must have a kid with a guy who would propose marriage to you... if you are indulging in pre marital sex then better be safe than sorry! use your God -given brain one that is located above the heart, not below the navel! got it?
2006-10-27 09:09:07 · answer #9 · answered by Jeanjean 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't make something happen just because you want it to. Don't push it. Just hope for the best.
2006-10-27 09:13:23 · answer #10 · answered by Jabberwock 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋