2006-10-27 08:51:42 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
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2006-10-27 09:39:57 · update #1
The old fashioned way is to as the dads permission first. Most people do not do this any longer. It will be very considerate if you did. (Score brownie points also). It is really up to you.
2006-10-27 08:54:07 · answer #1 · answered by Keith Perry 6 · 2⤊ 2⤋
You can ask the dad first no matter what century you live in. I know my dad is a little old fashioned and he had a lot more respect for my fiance when he asked him first. And I really loved that he knew to do that. But he asked my mom too so she could help him plan the proposal so there ya go-BONUS!
2006-10-27 11:01:32 · answer #2 · answered by Sugar Junkie 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Good question.
There are some women (and their dads) who would be touched by a gesture like asking for permission to ask first. There are some women who would be highly offended.
Start by telling your girlfriend a story of a "friend" who went to the father first, then ask her what she thinks about that. Her answer should make it clear if that's a gesture she'd appreciate or hate.
After all, you're not trying to impress us, you're trying to impress her, right? : )
Good Luck!
2006-10-28 08:10:40 · answer #3 · answered by Kya Rose 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You don't have to, but its appropriate. It will definitely help when he and her mom has to start paying for wedding (if you do that traditionally). I believe it is a very nice tradition and it shows that you respect and love her enough to show respect to her family. With that said many people don't do so these days but if you know he's going to say yes definitely do it.
I'm assuming she already knows that you are going to eventually ask her. If you guys haven't been talking about marriage together then ask her first then her dad if she says yes.
2006-10-27 10:00:28 · answer #4 · answered by Almack 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
DEpends on how ole she is, But yes, you should show a little respect and ask her dad. After all, they will be part of your family. And dont be too hastey, The girl might not want get married. You both need to make a commitment to each other. and know what you are about to do. Dont rush in to something that you both will regret later down the road. Make sure it is real love.
2006-10-27 08:59:52 · answer #5 · answered by mswildman2005 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋
I would ask her first - just out of respect and also you need to know if she wants to marry you before you make the big move to ask her dad.
If she says yes I think asking the Dad is very romantic in and old-fashioned way. Ask your girlfriend what she thinks - she will either dig it or not.
communicating not before making major decisions is good practice for a happy marriage.
Good Luck!
2006-10-27 09:32:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
You dont need to ask the dad. But it would be a sweet gesture of old fashioned romance. Absolutely beautiful. Thats if you are more than 50% sure she will say yes.
2006-10-27 09:24:32 · answer #7 · answered by Carrie 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Only if your girlfriend lives in the 1800's.
It is not her Dad's business, she is her own person, not his property. It doesn't matter if he approves or not, it is her life.
Some men think that asking a girls father is cute or romantic, most women I know think it is a creepy and patronizing leftover from times that cannot be past fast enough.
2006-10-27 09:19:53 · answer #8 · answered by dani_kin 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Ask her if she would marry you if asked and then ask her father's permission. Nice to know that someone still consider's the in-laws to be of some importance in the marriage. I could only hope that my sons would have the same decency. good luck romeo.
2006-10-27 08:56:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You should ask her dad for his blessing as a sign of respect. He would feel more appreciative and he knows that you really care about his daughter. You will end up having a closer conenction with her family members.
2006-10-27 13:55:53 · answer #10 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋