my sister is i think an alcholic . her 2 children have gone 2 live with their dad .the place is a mess like she dont care.she has got a boyfriend who tells us that she drinks. she sleeps alot and drinks through the afternoon 2 night .she wont listen 2 her boyfriend.should my mum dad or i talk 2 her
2006-10-27 08:34:01 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Stage an open intervention. Sites like Alcoholics Anonymous can help you with ideas.
2006-10-27 08:35:34 · answer #1 · answered by pdkflyguy 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If your sister is an alcoholic, there's not much you can do to help her until she's ready to do something about it.
About the only way you can help is to get her to realize that she needs help. If you and your parents and her boyfriend got together with her (when she's sober) and told her how she's hurting you with her behavior, it might get her to realize how far things have gone, and that she's losing everything. You'd all need to list out all the things she's messed up, even though it would be hard to do. Have a list of AA meetings ready, and offer to go with her, immediately.
If she's in bad enough shape that she needs rehab, then do your research in advance, and find a facility that can take her immediately. Don't let things wait... don't let her give excuses about why she can't get sober right away. Anticipate her excuses, and have an answer for them.
Also, find some help for yourself, through groups such as Al-Anon. They can help you realize the small ways that you and the family may have contributed to the problem, such as making excuses for your sister, or things like that. For her to get better, it might need to involve the whole family taking part.
Best of luck.
2006-10-27 15:41:02 · answer #2 · answered by Susie Q 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely get the whole family involved. She need sto be told that she has a problem and she needs to accept and agree that she has a problem. Until a person acknowledges this it will be extremely difficult to get her the help she needs.
If you can get her to acknowledge that she has a problem and is willing to seekk help from others then half the battle is won. Then you can get some counselling from AA or just some reall good support from friends and family. Maybe you know of someone else who is a recovering Alcoholic? They could definitely be a good source of advice.
2006-10-27 15:39:10 · answer #3 · answered by Wibble 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, if SHE doesn't want to help herself, she won't be interested in any intervention. The sad part is she will eventually die of liver damange or, who knows what. The only thing one can even think about doing is everyone in the family gather and suggest she go to an AA meeting in your area and that one or more will go with her. If you can get her through the door of an AA meeting, it is the first step towards help. Again, the problem is, is or will she be willing to go? Big question. It is a horrible disease.
2006-10-27 15:42:52 · answer #4 · answered by Nancy S 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would be a good idea for your mom and dad and you to all go and talk to her. See if she will go for help. since they took her children, she may feel like she has no one. Let her know that you love her, and that you are their for her. But she has to want help. That is the only way this is going to work. But give it a try. Tell her she has to keep her self going for her children sake.
2006-10-27 15:40:12 · answer #5 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can talk to her but please dont pressure her it will not work go to some al-anon meetings or get some books for al-anons until she is ready to give it up and change her life for herself it wont happen if she didnt get it when her children left then she hasnt reached her bottom sometimes it takes a tragedy for a person to wake up and see what they are doing to themselves pray for her and be there when you can but it is all up to her she is the only one that can make it stop my prayers are with you and all your family have a good weekend
2006-10-28 13:35:40 · answer #6 · answered by angel afraid and sad 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She has to be the one wanting help and if that isn't the case then no amount of talking or trying to help her is going to do any good. Until she is ready to want help and admit that she has a problem.
2006-10-27 15:51:20 · answer #7 · answered by tiny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, you can't help them until they first help themselves. They must come to a realization that they have a problem and they hit rock bottom. It's a great thing that you care so much. Good luck!!!
2006-10-27 15:39:11 · answer #8 · answered by Jamima29 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can't make an alcoholic get help, they have to want to get help, you can try and stage an intervention with your family and loved ones, but until she's ready she won't be doing it for the right reasons and will constantly relapse and despise the people who love & care for her.
2006-10-27 15:58:06 · answer #9 · answered by emnari 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure your mom and dad should try talking to her but unfortuneatly until she realizes she has a problem then she probably isnt going to change.
2006-10-27 15:37:00 · answer #10 · answered by Allinwiththenuts 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋