I just don't know what to do to keep my self-esteem up...
2006-10-27 08:26:27 · 39 answers · asked by James 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Act confident, confidence always makes a person look more attractive than they are.
2006-10-27 08:29:16 · answer #1 · answered by Deleted 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your self-esteem is low because you think you are unattractive.
Here's a good article that'll help you understand self-esteem a little better - http://spiritize.blogspot.com/2006/10/self-esteem.html
Coming back, why are you worried about your looks? Probable answer - socializing with the opposite sex. The truth is, looks actually don't matter much to be popular and have a successful relationship. If looks were the only thing that mattered in a relation do you think successful and beautiful movie stars would have such messy divorces and breakup?
So your problem ain't really looks. What you need to work on is your attitude and skill. And by skill I mean your social skills lilke learning to make small talk and flirting.
For flirting, I suggest you download and read this guide (has some great tips and advice) - http://www.sirc.org/publik/flirt.pdf
On the looks front, personal hygiene and physique matter THE MOST because they also effect our moods, and they are easy stuff to do - Brush your teeth 2 times, have a bath daily, wear clean clothes, keep your surrounding clean and start exercising.
2006-10-28 05:29:44 · answer #2 · answered by Sam 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it will never work if you keep calling yourself " Ugly" or anything else negative. You have to get off the self deprecating bandwagon 1st before you can boost your self-esteem.
There are make-overs for guys too. Try that!
2006-10-27 08:29:11 · answer #3 · answered by No More 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start by not thinking of yourself as ugly. Think of the things about you that are beautiful. Are you generous? Kind? Thoughtful? Outgoing? Have a great sense of humour? Do you have great knees? Is your pinky finger cute?
I hate my pointy little vampire pinky toe, but I love the freckle on the inside of my left arm. I may not have the best tummy, but the colour of my eyes is great. My skin might be dry, but my hair is fantastic. My tush may be bigger than I'd like but I sing like an angel. Maybe I'm a little shy, but I keep my fingernails pretty.
And so I'm a confident happy woman.
Check out the film at: http://www.campaignforrealbeauty.com/
It was a real eye opener for me when I first saw it.
Take care.
2006-10-29 05:54:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hang around people less attractive than you.
Honestly, just joking.
I mean you obviously have very low self-esteem since you've deemed yourself ugly, maybe you're not as unattractive as you think. Maybe you should tell yourself everyday that you are handsome, and carry yourself as if you know it to be true.
Either that, or get some plastic surgery.
2006-10-27 08:34:52 · answer #5 · answered by Nipivy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who says you're ugly? If that's what you think, then your self-esteem is already waaaayyyy low. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. If you don't think you are ugly, then others won't either. Who knows?... There is probably someone who already thinks you're cute... Stop degrading yourself, hold your head up, and love yourself like no one else can!
2006-10-27 08:29:57 · answer #6 · answered by Sherbert 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't call yourself ugly because no one is ugly, and besides like someone else said beauty is in the eye of the beholder. As far as keeping yourself esteem up, think positively about all of the things that you do have, inside and out as well as all of your skills and attributions.
2006-10-27 08:30:36 · answer #7 · answered by Marie L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My therapist always tells me that being ugly is no reason for lack of self esteem...
The worst part is for dating, but you can be great on many things ;-) plus you dont have to date lots just enough to find the special one.
2006-10-27 08:29:48 · answer #8 · answered by Graça 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you want the honest answer? Or the one that will help your self esteem?....LOL j/k...Think positive about yourself and life...Always take a negative and turn it into a positive...and if that doesnt work...Come on here and answer a few questions cause lawd knows there is someone out there that is more messed up then you!...Good Luck
2006-10-27 08:30:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find something that you know you're good at and keep up with it. If you're able to tell people, "Well I'm really good at this or that" and actually prove it to them, it will make you feel better. And don't tell yourself that you're ugly. That will only make you feel worse and then when you're trying to hide yourself no one will want to be around you. I usually try to be invisible, because I'm not exactly gorgeous and I don't like being noticed, but my boyfriend is making me feel better about it and says that people will like someone more who is confident and actually talks to people than someone who is shy and keeps to themselves, even if they are'nt exactly the most attractive person in the world. Try to keep yourself well groomed, but don't worry so much about it.
Amelia
2006-10-27 08:31:40 · answer #10 · answered by stratocaster lover 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that the first thing that you need to do is stop looking at yourself as ugly.
Next you must focus on fixing things about yourself that can be fixed. For example: develop a good looking body, wear good looking clothes.
Finally: you need to try to develop your look so that you are distinctive, unique. The lead singer from Garbage says that she is the self proclaimed ugliest woman on earth, but I would happily spend a night with her.
2006-10-27 08:33:37 · answer #11 · answered by Best Answer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋