My boyfriend and i have been together for 3 and a half years and now we're breaking up. We've been arguing for a while now and sometimes i don't even know how it starts. I love him with all my heart and feel very sad that it ended on bad terms. I recently became a little distant since being diagnosed wiith leukemia and that's when the arguments become worse. I'm only 20 and this is the first serious relationship i've ever had, so any advice on how to deal with the breakup would be appreciated.
2006-10-27 08:25:12 · 9 answers · asked by S&M 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He called a lil' while ago and said he wants nothing to do with me during my chemotherapy cause he can't stand to hear about it. I'm scared and hurt that someone i love would turn away from me because of something i have no control over.
2006-10-27 08:49:03 · update #1
first and most important: i am sorry to hear of your leukemia. i know the 'treatments' are painful and you need all the support of everyone. but it seems you dont need him. he is being selfish right when you need him the most and thats not right. you need those who love you in times like these not those who cause more pain. i wish you the best and hope your recovery is swift and painless as possible.
2006-10-27 08:47:40 · answer #1 · answered by evil Hesh 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, I want you to know that I hope however it happens you will be at peace with the outcome. A relationship is always a difficult thing because it requires you to trust another human being fully without losing yourself. After three and a half years, you know each other well enough to want one another to be happy, even if it requires a little personal pain. If it really isn't working out, my suggestion would be to have one last really fun day with each other. At the end of it, tell him you appreciate him being a part of your life. ( and if applicable...) and that you know you will both make it through, it will be hard, but people are strong. Wish him well... and if you can look back on your relationship and smile... then all was worthwhile. That may give you some comfort. I hope you will find it not absolutely devastating, and that you will eventually heal. I'm sorry for the pain you have to go through now. Only you know how hard it is, and again, no matter how you go about it, I hope it works in whatever sense you need it to.
2006-10-27 08:39:02 · answer #2 · answered by scoutredneckfluffy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry for your pain, girl. It is very hard and heart wrenching, I know. Maybe, taking a break from each other will do the relationship good. I've been in the same predicament with a man I deeply love. We fought, and fought, broke up, went throught all of the emotions of pain, anger, loss, grief. We are now best of friends even though we are not in the relationship. The worst part of it is that we have to feel the emotions of losing this particular person. IT hurts like H E double toothpicks. But you will get to the other side, I can reassure you.
2006-10-27 08:31:51 · answer #3 · answered by annie_bananie066 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats really sad, sorry to hear your being put through it at the moment. To be honest he's probably afraid and scared since your diagnoisis, feels helpless and pushed away. I'm the queen of pushing people away and have done it to alot of good people in different cicumstances. Sounds like you;ve already accepted it's over, you're not asking how to get him back. Go back to the things you love, whether thats films, food, extreme sports etc. Everyone goes through the phases of grief, anger and regret. Just make sure you;ve got the tools to go through them eg: some kleenex, a punch bag, a pile of paper to write your woes on.
2006-10-27 08:39:26 · answer #4 · answered by lost 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go for a walk and gather yourself. I am someone who enjoys being alone so perhaps you could go for a trip or to a movie or something. Keep yourself busy. Call a relative or build something. Nothing breaks down a person's spirit by heartache. Don't hate men because of your pain. I am so sorry about your illness. Try and let go of the pain. The healing process will take a while, so don't try and rush things. You are in my prayers.
2006-10-27 08:29:11 · answer #5 · answered by Obi-wan Kenobi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey sweetie deal with the leukemia first and foremost!Time heals wounds but not leukemia.Get that under control first and if he really loves you as he says he does believe me Hell be back.
2006-10-27 08:28:51 · answer #6 · answered by gibbyguys 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-16 11:33:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you are suffering from is commonly known as separation anxiety. Instead of pushing him away, try drawing strength from him. Show him that you need and love him and allow him to care.
2006-10-27 08:30:46 · answer #8 · answered by vtxrider 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just let it be. and know that one day you will meet the man of your dreams and he will love you and take care of you.
but only of that is part of your destiny.
sadly, some people are destined to be alone forever, or not meet the right person.
2006-10-27 08:30:13 · answer #9 · answered by bluepuddle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋