I've noticed lately that my boyfriend of a year is still very interested in me, but earlier in our relationship when he would come over to see me on the weekend he would come over early in the day... now that we're deeper into our relationship he stays at his dorm until 3 or 4 and then has me come to pick him up. Sometimes I feel like I'm not as important to him or that he doesn't get as excited to see me? Does this happen a lot as a relationship progresses?
2006-10-27 08:02:52 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Without knowing each of your situation, it's hard to say. But generally the excitement is less as the relationship progresses. How does he treat you as a girlfriend and as a person? There must be other signs. And what are your plans? Do you plan to get to the next stage? marriage? live together?(don't), or what are you going to do after college?
2006-10-27 08:07:46 · answer #1 · answered by Jason D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It does. All relationships when they first start go through the "honeymoon stage" when we're trying to empress and get to know the other person. I don't believe he's getting tired of you or that you're not as important as you use to be, I think he's "comfortable". He knows he has you, he knows you love him and vice versa so he comes over later. Maybe he gets up later, or has plans in the mornings. This is normal, don't worry!!!! You should talk to him about it if it hurts your feelings though. Tell him how you feel, more than likely he'll reassure you that it's nothing and maybe he will start coming over earlier again to make you happy. What he doesn't know...he can't fix.
2006-10-27 15:14:42 · answer #2 · answered by ladystarrchild107 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, this is something that is all to common in modern relations. I wouldn't give it to much concern unless you have reasonable doubt that he's using someone else to occupy his time which, from how it sounds, seems unlikely.
I would suggest that you occupy yourself with something (i.e. family, hobbies, or even friends). You also must understand that he is still a student. There are several factors that could dictate how much of his "free" time is consumed. Papers, organizations(fraternity), studying, or even "campus" associates. These are just a few of the possible time "eaters."
So, don't get suspicious yet, esspecially if there isn't a need to. You must keep this in mind: "Nothing that is worth it comes easy." This is a temporary situation, try and stick it out. Besides, at least you do get to see him. Things could be alot worse. After all, he won't be in school forever.
2006-10-27 15:36:49 · answer #3 · answered by Leo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relationships get relaxed as they progress. You start to feel comfortable with each other and feel you can ease up on the formalities. I would offer a compromise. Let him come over to your home on his own, a few times you can pick him up. Don't ever do all the giving, it never works out. You can tell when someones feelings are fading, they don't call as often and they make up excuses as to why they can't come over. Relationships take alot of give and take, just make sure it's a fair balance.
2006-10-27 15:13:08 · answer #4 · answered by june clever 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The newness of the relationship has gone. There is always the excitement and thrill when you first start seeing someone. He is just getting comfortable. If all else is good, dont sweat it.
2006-10-27 15:06:25 · answer #5 · answered by JC 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
thats perfectly normal. after a year, passion wanes, but commitment and intamicy grow. U need to realize that he will be more of a friend now, and u would both have to work hard to stay attracted to each other
2006-10-27 15:07:42 · answer #6 · answered by Lady Macbeth 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HE MIGHT FEELING DOWN. OR HES JUST NOT THAT INTO YOU ANYMORE(SORRY IF THAT SOUNDS HARSH). MOST GUYS IN COLLEGE ARE GOING THROUGH A PERIOD IN THEIR LIVES WHEN THEY ARE LOOKING FOR THEIR IDEAL MATE. MAYBE YOUR GUY (NO OFFENSE) DOESN'T THINK YOU ARE AND IS SLOWLY AVOIDING YOU IN HOPE THAT YOU MOVE ON. TRY NOT TO TAKE IT PERSONALLY COLLEGE GUYS TEND TO BE REALLY PICKY. BRING UP THE ISSUE CASUALLY JSUT TO SEE HOW HE REACTS. HE MAYBE GOING THROUGH A ROUGH TIME AND BE KINDA AVOIDANT WITH YOU, YOU SHOULD TRY AND FIND OUT.
2006-10-27 15:12:16 · answer #7 · answered by ponypuffgirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kinda but not after 1 year only.
2006-10-27 15:08:44 · answer #8 · answered by mermaid 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes. that does happen. at it's normal. you are for sure very important to him, but he has also other important things in his life. give him some space. and take your space too....he's important, but you too must have some other important things in your life.
2006-10-27 15:06:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's normal. Be less available to him ... you know the old saying, "absence makes the heart grow fonder." (So true!)
2006-10-27 15:07:12 · answer #10 · answered by MyPreshus 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋