2006-10-27 08:01:56 · 23 answers · asked by 4everheartache 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Either she couldnt afford what she stole or for the thrill of stealing.
2006-10-27 08:03:26 · answer #1 · answered by JC 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
my little sister is getting into this. I cant understand why.
We did come from a screwed up parent, so this might have something to do with it, because I went through a phase of this, I just wanted what I couldnt have and didnt want to waste all my $$ on buying it, mostly clothes.
What is she stealing? Does she feel she is doing without? Is she a follower, meaning does she have a friend who was into this and she felt compelled to do the same, ie peer pressure?
There are so many different reasons, have you tried reallly talking to her about this? Maybe you can make her talk with a counselor at school, this helped me when I was having trouble, now im a normal law obiding citizen...ha ha I only had a 15 year old stage i guess.
good luck to you and your daughter!
2006-10-27 08:13:38 · answer #2 · answered by crystald 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to do that. When I was 12-13 I was in the 7th grade and got mixed up with a group of girls who did those things. I wanted to be ''cool'' like them. I didnt even want half the stuff I stole.
We used to find ways to steal. I always felt guilty and always knew it was wrong.
One night..we got caught. If you knew what I took you would laugh your head off. A pair of those springy google eyes glasses. The lady made me empty my pockets a whole bunch of dumb things like erasers, pencil leads and those darn glasses that gave me away. Thank goodness they never called the police on us. My parents never found out. That was the last time I ever took a thing. Now I feel guilty even if I use a coupon!
I dont know why your daughter stole but I guess she got caught and thats a blessing in disguise.
Keep the lines of communication open. Was it peer pressure? Did she feel she deserved the things she stole and didnt have enough money for? Does she get an allowance?
2006-10-27 08:12:32 · answer #3 · answered by chiara 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just ask your daughter why she did it, but It could be for more than one reason, maybe you don't give her enough pocket money, or maybe she was under the influence of her friends. But you have to understand, even if you can't offord something, YOU have to TALK to her about this, no one can offord "everything" & stealing is not the answer. you really have to talk to her about this more than trying to figure out why she did it, ask her "why", then tell her isn't wrong, tell her a good girl like herself shouldn't do such a thing. make her feel like she's above all that bad behaviour. If you get that though the way she thinks of herself, she'll never do anything like that, tell her "you are a good person", & stealing only comes from people who were'nt raised well by thier mama. Trust me on this, If you make her feel she's a perfect little girl, whom everything she does is nice & whom other little girls look up to, she won't do it again, Also, reply with a good & understanding answer to the reason she'll tell you. whatever reason it may be, tell her to come ask you for it, I'm sure there's always another way, like saving up money, doing more chours. something from that pattern.
I really wish you the best , you & your daughter ... :)
2006-10-27 08:28:06 · answer #4 · answered by CupCake 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm questioning regardless of if the IBS isn't the expression of her being under pressure whilst she is removed from homestead. At this point she for sure desires the shelter that residences represents and she or he will flow later by that "exploring the international" point. i might choose for to pay interest on sorting out the IBS first. that's clearly very difficult for her to handle the smart factors of it, and might desire to be scaring whilst removed from homestead. there is a few mechanical (foodstuff intolerances etc) subjects as much as psychological subjects. and that i might furnish as lots help and reassurance as i ought to. My daughter, 14 too, has consistently been on the very shy component whilst removed from homestead. She blossomed this year, probable helped via the undeniable fact that her classmates are curiously very friendly. yet issues take time and my daughter nonetheless heavily isn't the main outgoing in communities. i think that's super which you're close to her, which you maintain a watch and are conscious some issues won't be perfect. evaluate a counselor to furnish her a raffle to particular some concerns or different issues. in keeping with possibility seem for exterior activities that motivate her lots? good luck
2016-11-25 23:36:53 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does it matter why? Are you going to feel differently if she whines and says all her friends had the item but she couldn't afford it or some other bad excuse. I hope not. The real question is what are you going to do about it so she won't have the opportunity to do it again. Tough Love. Good Luck
2006-10-27 10:26:43 · answer #6 · answered by smile4u 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Spend more time with your daughter. A parent needs to be home for the kid at all times. Kids need lots of love and attention. There is no reason a kid should be a latch key kid!
2006-10-27 08:08:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to shoplift when I was a teenager. It was usually for the thrill. I remember I used to even give away what I shoplifted. I once shoplifted baby clothes and toys, wrapped it up and donated it to a charity for it to go to needy children at Christmas.
2006-10-27 08:07:28 · answer #8 · answered by who-wants-to-know 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There could be several different reasons. peer pressure, drugs, want and can`t afford etc. One thing for sure I would keep my eyes and ears open and find out for myself. Pray Hard!
2006-10-27 08:06:38 · answer #9 · answered by leeandaundrea1978 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either she couldn't afford it or her friends are a bad influence on her. If they are you should get rid of them because worse things may be in store for the future.
2006-10-27 08:06:26 · answer #10 · answered by barbie2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her.
Peer pressure, trying to impress "bad crowd" friends? Hazing? Too embarrassed to "buy" the item? No money?
2006-10-27 08:05:32 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋