i met a guy from the internet, that i really liked. we went out a few times and i thought we really hit it off.we seemed to have a lot in common. we haven't had a sexual relationship, but we both enjoyed taking it slow and gettong to know each other.my dilema is this. i was with him one week ago and we had a really good time together, and told each other so. we talked the next day and things were fine.i called him the day after that and left a message on voicemail. he usually returns my calls but hasn't. i tried talking to him on instant messenger and he seemed to brush me off. next i sent him a text message telling him that i'd like to see him. no response. my question is how can you have such a good time with someone one day and 3 days letter just blow them off.i'm realizing that i won't hear from him again and have no intention of contacting him. i am confused and just trying to understand
2006-10-27 07:49:03 · 13 answers · asked by bmmpuma 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Wow! The same exact thign happened to me. I felt the same way. We hit it off, he took me out several times, and invited me to major events. Suddenly, I dod not hear from him. I could not understand why. I have realized in life, how closure is meaningful to me. Closure in knowing why something happened, if it could have been prevented, and where did I go wrong.
Well, sometimes things don't turn out that way. And that's reality.
You could spend hours and days trying to figure out why. The most important thing is to take each part of life as a lesson. People come in your life for a season, reason, or a lifetime. I always remember this saying because it is so true.
Maybe something happened. You could make assumptions all day. Remember, that you are not the issue. If he was truly a genuine person, he could have approached you in a mature way. You have every right to feel the way you do. Some things were not meant to understand. Learn from it and move on.
2006-10-27 08:04:08 · answer #1 · answered by prettychestnuteyes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Like they say everything happens for a reason. Maybe It Paved A Better Road For You To Travel. Or Maybe It Wasnt Ment To Be Yet! Or Maybe He Lied To You About Every Thing Just To Get In Your Pants? Some People Do This, Its Wrong And Hurts. And This Is Why So Many Women Hate Men, Becasue One Or Two Bad Apples Ruin The Apple Pie. I'm Sorry You Had A Good Time, And He Just Blew You Off. But There Are Plenty Of Guys Out There That Will Treat You The Way You Want And Need To Be Treated.
2006-10-27 14:57:31 · answer #2 · answered by Nadir Phoenix 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well sonething obviously happened. It really sucks when they put you in mystery..he could at least tell you the truth whatever that may be so you can move on.
I would hate to be where you are...if it were me...I would email him or leave a message probably email and tell him exactly that short and simple ...
I had a really good time with you...I thought you did also...something has obviously happened...It would have been nice to at least hear back from you...I guess you have moved on....well thanks no hard feelings....I am moving on..
SOMETHING like that...but from you of course.
And really I would let it go as hard as that sounds...the more you chase more than likely you will push him away.
Maybe an ex came back? Or he did have fun but you are not for him relationship wise and he cannot bring himself to tell you...OR is just keeping you there for when he really wants to...OR he is making you fall for him? LOL I am just guessing...I would do what I said....
2006-10-27 14:55:16 · answer #3 · answered by YourShopGirl.com 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I hate to be the barer of bad news but there might be a chance that either: a) You were a little pushy, or b) he could have met someone else.
If you never gave him a minute of his own time he might feel uncomfortable with all the attention. If this is the case, I would give him a day or two and then call him to see whats up. If you leave a voicemail and he doesn't return it, then you might want to start looking else where.
If it is b), there is nothing you can do but keep looking for someone else to meet.
Good luck.
2006-10-27 14:53:56 · answer #4 · answered by flyboop_2000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly hun- Guys that chat online a lot have a lot of different women going on at all times...I'm thinking he either met someone, had someone already or is just a dick! A lot of men that chat online already have girlfriends so it's a safe haven to meet other women without their girl knowing. Maybe he realized he really did have feelings for you and it freaked him out? Maybe he wasn't looking for a relationship and realized you were? Maybe he just wanted something sexual...No matter what men say they usually aren't 100% honest!! I would stay away from internet men for awhile...when i was younger I used to always meet guys online- a lot of them would be really sweet at first but they ended up mostly all being players!! I would just move on and it's unfortunate but it's happened to me and im sure a lot of other women! Good Luck hun~!
2006-10-27 14:55:29 · answer #5 · answered by Alesha W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people just cannot be trusted with your feelings. He may be one of them. Maybe he is not able to handle a real relationship. He may panic when he starts to get close to someone.
2006-10-27 14:52:05 · answer #6 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Something may have come up that prevented him from contacting you. Just don't let stuff like that bother you, us guys are just sometimes like that, irrational, hard to understand and do things that don't make any sense.
Sometimes it means absolutely nothing. Don't read too much into it.
2006-10-27 14:52:49 · answer #7 · answered by Triathlete88 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yea, men suck. Just ignore him and he'll come slithering back in a month or so then you can have the pleasure of ignoring him and not responding to his texts and IM's.
2006-10-27 14:52:33 · answer #8 · answered by empress_pam 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, he found another girl on the internet.
2006-10-27 14:51:36 · answer #9 · answered by GoWhitey33 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It mite be because he found another girl or he is busy
2006-10-27 14:51:26 · answer #10 · answered by queenie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋