I have not dated for a long time, was in an abusive relationship, I am in therapy. I meet this guy on line, we have talked for over 6 months now, 20 hours this week alone, exchanged pics. We talk about everything, I am apprehensive, but I think I have found my soul mate. I am thinking of going to Holland to meet him, is there anything in particular I should ask him about himself before I make a decision? I am 33....serious answers only please.
2006-10-27 07:43:21 · 19 answers · asked by ? 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Make sure that you have where to stay OTHER than his place, If you guys don;t connect or have no chemistry, then you can go to your hotel and enjoy a vacation in Amsterdam anyway.
You should ask:
_-Who do you live with?
-Do you have any diseases?
-Do you have a criminal record?
-Where we will be going in case I go there.
-Would you take off from work if I come?
-Do you have the financial means to entretain me while I'm there?
Be careful. Tell people where you are going and where they can reach you at. Do not give him any money or offer financial support of any kind, specially if he had ask about needing money for his sick mother, or a failed bussiness or a once in a life time investment oportunity, etc.
There are many scam artist that pry on lonely women. Be careful and google him first, verify his employment status, have an emergency way out please!
You are an adult and if you can afford it go for it. Be careful to fall for someone so far away, LDR ar diffucult to endure and you can get badly hurt when the distance and the impossibility of you guys to be together permantly maes the relationship frizzle.
Enjoy Holland, and good luck
2006-10-27 07:49:08 · answer #1 · answered by Blunt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sister be real. Don't go to a foreign country and be taken advantage of. There are too many scam artist and predator's out here both men and women. If you still insist on meeting do it on your turf not his. If he is all that he will be willing to come to where you are. Not worth all the crazy things that can happen going to meet someone for the first time in a foreign country.
2006-10-27 07:50:25 · answer #2 · answered by fijisun 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, you're not crazy. no one wants to be alone in this life, and you're spending a lot of time with someone in a very intimate medium. I'd go to Holland. Cool country, and they dig Americans. Besides, if you show up and there is really nothing there for you with this guy, you'll figure that out soon enough. Plus, you went to Holland!
2006-10-27 07:49:37 · answer #3 · answered by no_wait_hes_spartacus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I met someone online who seemed wonderful. After 3 months I was going to meet him (I live in one state him in another) but got cold feet and cancelled. He visited two weeks later and turned out to be a creep. I felt better about it from the point of view that I was on my own turf with friends around should things get difficult. Mine contacted me via cellphone periodically throughout the weekend.
Bottom line - let him come here and make sure your friends know what you are doing. Be safe.
2006-10-27 07:53:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds a little fishy to me. Every guy can sound like a soul mate online. It is always easier to lie on paper or online that it is to actually do it face to face. My suggestion to you would be to offer him to meet you near your home ( Not your Home ). Another question you have to ask yourself is, if this guy is right for you are you willing to move to Holland? Would he be willing to move to where you are. Online things are sort of goofy because you never know what your going to get. For your sake, hopefully your right and this guy is for you. But I don't think it is worth you traveling. And wherever you meet make sure one of your friends knows where your going.
2006-10-27 07:49:03 · answer #5 · answered by UT FAN 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-03 00:48:35 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He might be trying to take advantage of you. Going to Holland by yourself might be a bad idea. If he's so into you, have him come here. I'm guessing that he speaks English, but you don't speak Dutch.
You're still in therapy also, this guy might be using that.
2006-10-27 07:46:11 · answer #7 · answered by Jason D 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Can't you meet him halfway and see if he's willing to at least make half the trip that you are making as well?
That's only fair. You can be crazy in love, but not too crazy!
2006-10-27 07:48:10 · answer #8 · answered by wanie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hell no, girl, you're not crazy.
Go for it.. but to see if he is serious, let him pay for the ticket.
I am sure you know him quite well by now. You can tell alot about people when you spend that much time with them, especially if you are aware.
Have fun! Enjoy! You don't want to wonder "what if"
Go for it.
2006-10-27 07:46:43 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know- you should take someone with you. It's not impossible that you have found the "one", but proceed with caution. You cannot really know about someone long-distance over the internet. Be careful and smart. Good luck.
2006-10-27 07:46:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋