2006-10-27 07:40:44 · 29 answers · asked by Psycho 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
my definition of a "good guy" is a guy who treats a woman with respect and also enjoys spending time with her. A "good guy" treats a woman like she's the only thing in the world that matters to him.
2006-10-27 07:49:20 · update #1
A "good guy" treats a woman with respect. He doesn't lie to her, cheat on her, or abuse her. He's not clingy, but he's not a pompous jerk either. He respects that a woman has her own mind. He's the kind of person that everybody likes.
2006-10-27 08:07:55 · update #2
Don't confuse "good guy" with "doormat"
Women like good guys, but these doormat type let anyone walk all over them...can't respect a guy who gets walked on.
2006-10-27 07:42:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I can tell you from experience that they only say that because if they told the truth they would feel bad and guilty but you are right. They do not want a good guy. It is a subconsience decision that women want the alpha male. It is how we and most primates are made. Get over it and dont be such a nice guy. This is scientifically proven. They want a cocky good looking guy who kinda treats them like crap. And to all you women out there who post something different, you are lying. However, as women get older and realize they dont have time for that anymore, they tend to like the good guys a little more. It just takes women longer then men to appreciate a good honest person. This did not used to be the case and in fact has been reversed in the recent decades.
2006-10-27 15:03:44 · answer #2 · answered by Daycare Answers 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not always!
If your definition of "good guy" is one who doesn't cheat/backstab/badmouth, but also doesn't decide on anything and generally just clings- she'll dump him. As a girl- I certainly don't want a leech of a boyfriend. I hate clingy, needy guys.
The opposite extreme of "bad guy" has the stereotype of the guy that girls fall for- everything is spontaneous and decided on by the guy. However, there's the cheating and the (possible) anger issues there.
The best guy out there is a combo between the two. Non clingy, willing to take charge, but definately willing to let the girl take the lead once in a while.
Are you giving her enough space, or are you being clingy? Are you never taking charge or taking too much?
There's a happy medium... but there's also someone out there who will fall for you the way you are. Don't dwell on it, just get out and meet more people!
2006-10-27 14:54:52 · answer #3 · answered by kiwi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No luck eh?
Ask them to define "good guy".
Most likely its not what you are thinking.
To them a good guy is "cute", "funny" and has money.
He also has to be kind of an azzhole to them.
Females are pretty much useless except we need them for one thing.
(alot of the aswers below prove my point)
If you live in the USA, use them and get rid of them.
With your definition, you SHOULD be getting what you seek but you wont. Reason being these chicks SAY one thing but do another. Go to a mall and observe how many attractive girls are with Pompous, Arrogant, Loudmouthed or just plain pricks.
Then observe that the meek 'good guys' are usually accompanied by an overweight chick pushing a baby carriage.
2006-10-27 14:42:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is such a thing as being TOO nice. Women want a man that is good to them, treats them with respect and does nice things for them, but is still a MAN!! I dated a guy once who I pursued because OMG he was sooooooooooo HOT!!! Then he opened his mouth and the fantasy was over. Think about a deflating baloon, that was my hopes. He was just too nice, in an a**-kissy kind of way. He just went waaaaay overboard trying to be romantic and gentlemanly. OVERKILL!!!! I kind of felt like a lesbian dating him. I mean, I'm a girly, makeupy, perfumy kind of woman and I still felt like I had more balls than him. lol
p.s. oh, Kiwi, you r sooo right! Clingy and needy......ick!!!
2006-10-27 15:05:21 · answer #5 · answered by luvbabysky 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whimpster alert!!!!
He is a man who has perfected his male insecurity as a way of manipulating the very expectations women have come to have. He is a man who uses self-deprecation and vulnerability to prey upon a woman's need to nurture to sate his own massive ego. While he seems to reject a terrible macho-ness, he's constructing a careful persona designed to reel in unsuspecting targets. Initially, these guys can seem super sensitive, super "deep." You'll probably receive a mix tape or quoted song lyrics during the initial courting session. He'll spend a lot of time talking about how he relates to some sort of super-sensitive movie character or musician, or mention how much he enjoys those reruns of My So Called Life.
2006-10-27 14:46:36 · answer #6 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Because you are meeting immature women who do not know what they want in a man. You need to talk and discover exactly what kind of woman you are with, just hang in there, the right one will come along soon enough.
Good Luck
2006-10-27 14:46:27 · answer #7 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Historically, girls were raised to expect a guy who would control them. While younger girls today are getting past that when they finally settle down, it takes a couple of generations to undue that expected standard.
My wife is wonderful, but she did not come to me until she was so badly abused that she had two black eyes and almost lost her life in one night.
After a few of the girls that you are dating now have been through their bad experiences with controlling men, they will come back around and you will have a great relationship.
Take care,
Troy
2006-10-27 14:50:59 · answer #8 · answered by tiuliucci 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They do want a good guy...but he has to be what she wants. Women tend to like fantasy..romance ..passion....and if a guy is a good guy...sometimes in a woman's world that may mean boring...OR doesn't stand up to her or is a pushover...or just plain chases her or is always there when she needs him to a fault...a woman tends to like a bit of a little challenge...and likes a man who is a man ...
So...those are my two cents....
Don't change for a woman unless it's of course a good change LOL....be yourself...you want to be loved for who you are not who she wants you to be ...good luck
2006-10-27 14:46:05 · answer #9 · answered by YourShopGirl.com 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because good guy is code for a guy I can boss around and if he gets impatient with my line of crap, I can kick him to the curb because he's no longer a good guy. Good guys aren't normally as cute as other boys and put up with this ****. At least until they become CEO chairmen and start having 20 somethings chase them.
2006-10-27 14:46:17 · answer #10 · answered by no_wait_hes_spartacus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's the nature of the Game. Woman will say one thing and do the complete opposite.
2006-10-27 14:44:21 · answer #11 · answered by fijisun 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋