Maybe I'm old fashioned -- but does anyone else think it's weird to meet guys on somewhere like myspace? I get guys wanting to be my friend and asking for my phone number. And I guess I'm REALLY old-fashioned (as-in I wouldn't even consider doing online dating like match or eharmony). Do people meet through places like myspace and friendster all the time? I start e-mail conversations with a few people but then I shut it off when they want my number or want to me. Why am I so weirded out?
***By the way... I'm 30 (so it's not a teen issue).
2006-10-27 07:24:55 · 44 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hey, you're right to be careful. I'd never give my phone number out to someone I just met online. However, if you take the time to develop some sort of realtionship, there's no reason you can't take that relationship into the "real" world.
2006-10-27 07:27:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I met my wife on Match.com. The whole event was unintentional but we met and everything clicked none the less. We have been married 5 years now, have 2 children together and a third by marriage. I dont consider you old fashioned. I would say your are cautious. After all, you are socializing via an electronic medium where many things can be easily falsified. Dont give your full name, address, phone numbers to poeple online. Thats just foolish. If you have carried on a conversation long enough and you feel confortable have HIM give his phone number to you. Call from a cell where you can disable caller ID. If you choose to meet after that do so with a friend and choose a popular public place. Be smart, be safe and have fun. Life is too short for nonsense ;)
2006-10-27 07:32:25 · answer #2 · answered by Digging for answers 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not weird by not wanting to start anything with people online. There are some crazy people out there and we hear stories all the time about young people turning up missing from meeting people online. But you are doing the right thing by shutting the conversations down when the person asks for your number.
2006-10-27 07:30:35 · answer #3 · answered by Tina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have met tons of people online, guys and girls. I don't see any different in giving someone online you number and giving someone you meet on the street. Anyone can lie to ya, the only difference I know of is that you really know what the person you met on the street really looks like. If you talk to the people for awhile and feel they are trustworthy, then give them you number. If you have a cell, it is best to always give that out, course that is true with anyone, until you really get to know them. Then if you talk to them and want to me, make sure you do it somewhere public. It is not that bad, I am 30 and have been meeting people online for about 6 yrs now. Just relax and have fun, but just be careful and you should be fine. Good luck to ya.
2006-10-27 07:29:08 · answer #4 · answered by la_southern_femme 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You're not old fashioned, you're listening to that inner voice in you that is telling you to watch yourself. If you wouldn't give your number to a random guy in a bar, then why give it to a stranger on the internet who you've never seen.
If you want to meet one of these guys then meet some place public, not at your house or his and some place where you know all of the exits, all of the ways home and tell someone where you are going. If you don't want to meet someone that's your choice. Internet isn't for everyone, especially not dating/meeting strangers. You have to trust your instincts.
I met my best friend over the net, this girl would literally go to hell and back for me, but I've also met some real nutters. The net is the same as real life and you just have to trust yourself that you know what you are doing.
I applaud your attitude because you're safe and sophisticated. Stay with what you think is right!
2006-10-27 07:28:35 · answer #5 · answered by Jez 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't think it's weird... it's just a sign of the times. so if you are old-fashioned, then you would think it's inappropriate. my best friend, i met on an online chat board over ten years ago, so it's not like meeting people online is something new. when you start chatting up guys in email and they ask for your phone number, that's actually the next step in getting to know someone if you're going to meet people online... if you're interested in them, that is. and after you feel comfortable enough, the next step would be meeting in a public place. you may be weirded out because you're not used to meeting people like that. maybe you prefer looking someone in the eye when you're talking to them. perhaps it's the frigidity of the internet that makes you uncomfortable. either way, it's perfectly harmless if you be careful.
2006-10-27 07:37:19 · answer #6 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm old fashioned too in prefering to meet people in reality rather than on the net. However, a friend of mine met someone on the net, started dating, and plan to marry. Although her boyfriend is boring, a mooch, and freeloader, she's happy with the engagement. I think finding people on the net can be scary because there's so many stories about people getting raped, killed, and molested, yet that happens when meeting people off the internet as well. Different strokes for different folks.
2006-10-27 07:28:12 · answer #7 · answered by catch22 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I met my G/F on line. There are things you do to protect yourself.
lets say Your chatting on line with a guy, you know what he looks like, he knows what you look like. Get more than one photo from him! This is a deal breaker, no photo, not going out period! You don't need to give out your phone number yet. Your talking with him already. Make a neutral date. Go meet him for coffee or soda (First date, No Alcohol) in a public place! You drive there even if it is just a block away. Have a G/F sit away from you as a look out if you want. Any case If the guy that shows up is not the one in the photo. leave!
2006-10-27 07:40:16 · answer #8 · answered by jadamgrd 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's no more odd than meeting someone in a bar. Either way, you really don't "know" the person. At least online you can choose to ignore them, and you can take time to get to know them via online before agreeing to a first date.
It may be "weirding" you out because it's not something you have done before. There have been people that have met online that do carry on to successful non-online relationships.
2006-10-27 07:34:40 · answer #9 · answered by M.A.X. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are definitely a lot of weirdos out there and 90% of them only want one thing. It is definitely hard to find someone who just wants to chat. However, I did you a web dating site and met some nice guys. If you talk on the phone first and meet in a public place it can be safe. I actually met my boyfriend on there and we have been together over 2 years and I am around your age.
2006-10-27 07:29:12 · answer #10 · answered by briandjoesmom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I mean as long as you are an adult I guess it is your decision to where you want to meet someone. Personally I think you should always keep and open mind. I don't know that I am 100% for online dating but if I talked to someone for a long time and felt safe enough with the situation I would maybe start talking to them on the phone and see where it went from there.
2006-10-27 07:28:05 · answer #11 · answered by Leah * 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋