Does God control who you do and do not fall in love with or is that part of free will?

Question

How does his plan fit in to the concept of free will too? If he has a plan doesn't that mean it has to happen according to his plan? If it happens according to his plan isn't that HIS will taking control?

Answer 1

I, of course don't believe in any gods, but I do believe in fate and genetics. Somehow, someway 2 people tend to become "drawn" to each other without too much explanation. Maybe it happens very quickly for some. Maybe most of us have to go through a lot of trial and error, before we find that right person, but mostly it relies on a "gut-level attraction". (When 2 partners feel deep down in their heart, mind, and yes, their gut that they belong together)

Answer 2

God has His determined will, which means things that are going to happen, and His desired will, which means things that He wants to happen. By this i mean the ways in your life that He wants to work. Yes, you do have your own free will, but i think that is very small. My reasoning behind that is because if we were left alone to ourselves, we could not survive without Him! For the other part, there is no "one" person for you. In fact, there are many. But they come according to your level of spirituality. For instance, or you were a recent believer, and you met a girl and after a while broke up, you decided to continue to grow with the Lord, there would come along someone who was equivalent to you or in other words, a match. If you have any further questions, feel free to e-mail me! May the Lord Bless You Abundantly!!!

Answer 3

Proverbs 30:18-19 (New International Version)

18 "There are three things that are too amazing for me,
four that I do not understand:

19 the way of an eagle in the sky,
the way of a snake on a rock,
the way of a ship on the high seas,
and the way of a man with a maiden.

Answer 4

I don't believe God takes control, but I do believe he tries to influence. Now this may seem silly how I say this, but understand the point I'm getting across. I believe he whispers to people to read certain verses, to be somewhere at a certain time, to walk up to someone and say, "hi!", to smile at someone in particular. We, who have free will can choose to ignore those feelings, those whispers. That's why it's so important to pray, to read the Bible, to listen to your conscience, so to speak. Yes, he has a plan, but I believe his plan was molded according to the choices he knew we would make, not molded so that we would make those choices.

Answer 5

No, His plan goes into effect when you submit yourself to His will. But the thing is, you CHOOSE to sumbit yourself, and His plan is always in your best interests. And you fall in love with whoever you fall in love with. Let me see... let's say I am a Christian who has submitted herself to the Lord's will, and I am 20 years old and unmarried (I'm really 30 and married). So here I am, unattached, and then I meet someone who I like, but he is a bad guy - just not right for me, even though he is fun and handsome. If I was submitting to the Lord, this guy would not be in God's plan for my life, and He would let me know to break it off. And that would most definitely be good for me in the long run. Eventually I would meet someone who God approved of, and we'd get married and... I hate to break it to you, if you aren't already married... but nobody lives happily ever after. Marriage is really hard sometimes. But I'd much rather be married to someone who God approves of than anyone else.

Answer 6

We don't get to pick who we love.

We do get to pick who we spend our time with.

That is, to illustrate, there are people I love who I keep my distance from because they are living in deception and delusion. I didn't choose to love them. If you have ever loved, you know that it is a stirring in the soul that cannot be fought. But I do choose to disengage from their hopeless pursuits and endeavors, all the while hoping that they will begin to see the futility of their thoughts and actions. I sit waiting in hope. And, yes, this is after having attempted to persuade them that they are getting what they get because they're repeatedly doing what they're doing. That is, I only disengage after I have carried the message of salvation through Jesus as best I am presently able. If the message is unwanted or unheard, I have done all I can do for now. I await with hope their realization and transformation. Another way of putting this is that I maintain hope in God but lose interest in vain human enterprises.

This is all many acts of freewill coexisting.

So, yes, God picks who you love. Why, only he knows. He has his good purposes.

And if you are talking about if God picks your spouse, I don't think so. He may place the person in your life to whom your marriage would please him, but the choice to marry that person or not is up to you. Sometimes people choose not to marry people they love.

It is all very mysterious. Our choices are never cancelled out or negated by God, although his urgings are never cancelled out or negated by us. That is, we may choose not to marry the person whom God has selected for us, but we will always feel that mysterious pull, forever. God does plant things within the human soul that the human cannot deny knowledge of...but the human can deny acting on that knowledge one way or another.

Answer 7

Predestination and foreordination are two entirely different doctrines. Predestination, as you intimated, is illogical and contrary to the gospel. However, Foreordination fits perfectly into God's plan in that it allows us to utilize our free will to achieve our inherently divine potential.

Answer 8

You fall in love with whoever you choose to (as long as they return the emotion). Otherwise if God controlled everything like what people do he'd be a dictator, not so?

Answer 9

Nobody controls who you fall in love with. AND it is definitely not part of free will. You cannot voluntarily decide you're (not) going to fall in love with a particular person.

Answer 10

Free will.