I can't know for sure that my fiance is cheating on me he has exbited some behavior that is out of the ordinary for him. He tells me that I am twisting things and that I have trust issues but I just cant shake the feeling something is wrong I dont have the money to hire an investigor but I don't know what to do. We do not live together so I can' track he where abouts. He has suddenly become more affectionate and attentive and wants to spend more time with me after a two long period of time where I hardly hear from him. I don't want to marry a cheater please help me with ideas to catch him so I can save money on the wedding and save my heart.
2006-10-27 07:23:51 · 14 answers · asked by Queen459789 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
let's start with a potential explanation. Could he be organizing a surprise for your wedding/honeymoon? So he's trying to find out more about you, get some ideas/hints about what he can do as surprise. When he didn't spend much time with you was he just having a think; sitting back and really thinking about what he wants, with the marriage coming up it made him really review your relationship and to do that he needed to just have time out?
Now he's fully decided it's you and marriage he wants he's become more secure and happy to show his affection.
Could be being more attentive because he wants approval for some dodgy stag nite? To be honest you really shouldn't marry someone when you've got such integral doubts about if you can trust him! Therefore you gotta resolve this. Ultimately just ask him, you should be able to tell if he's lying or hiding something, ask him the very same questions, why he was so distant previously and don;t make suggestions for him (easily done in awkward silence) just see what his response is. You never know he may want to have some of his own fears laid to rest as well...hope it all turns out well for you.
2006-10-27 07:38:16 · answer #1 · answered by lost 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If You Feel Something Is Wrong...There Probably Is! You Can Look At His Cell Phone Records Every Month...Follow Him (Don't Be Obvious). BUT, If You Have To Resort To These Things, Then You Shouldn't Be In This Relationship...Wait! Are You Just Getting Cold Feet? LOL
2006-10-27 07:30:00 · answer #2 · answered by Lexy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, I hate to tell you this but if your wedding is in one week, you've lost most of the money already. If you think there is a problem, do not marry him. If you are right, you shouldn't be putting yourself in that position. If you are wrong, you shouldn't be putting him in that position. Either way, something needs to be done. Call the wedding off - postpone it - whatever but don't go through with it if you are not sure. Talking about saving money - you'll save the money it costs to pay for your divorce in 8 months or something if you go through with it when you are unsure. Good luck.
2006-10-27 07:29:24 · answer #3 · answered by hbennett76 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How are you about to marry him, yet you can't even trust him? Postponing the wedding until issues are dealt with is easier than sorting through a divorce later down the road. The problem isn't that he may be cheating. The problem is that you can't trust him. How do you enter into a life-long commitment with someone you can't trust?
2006-10-27 07:31:55 · answer #4 · answered by Dasher 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do not want to marry a cheater. That is good Save your money do not marry this Guy be sure then you can make plans again. If you suspect him now what will happen after you are married THINK???
2006-10-27 07:31:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
what a bastard. affectionate before a wedding. I'd just dump the guy at the altar. you do seem to have trust issues, in that you didn't state if you knew if he had ever cheated on you before. I'm thinking, you have pre-wedding jitters. So go on and marry the big lug. 50% of all first marriages end in divorce, and you seem like you're a statistic in the making.
2006-10-27 07:28:54 · answer #6 · answered by no_wait_hes_spartacus 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Stress can cause many complications with a pregnancy and I would highly recommend doing anything possible to try to avoid getting stressed out. I would definately avoid the wedding due to the fact that it will stress you out. Stress can cause preterm labor and yes I do believe the baby can sense when you are stressed. I am sure your partner will understand that you are not wanting to stress your self and your baby out. I hope this answer helped out. You can always search the affects that stress has on a pregnancy and an unborn child.
2016-05-22 01:11:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have ANY doubts then do not marry him. You should be 100% sure that the person you are going to marry is faithful. There should be only trust in marriage if you dont have that then the marriage will fail, so what would the point of marrying someone when you know its only going to fail later on?
2006-10-27 07:29:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you have trust issues? is it from previous relationships? if it is, then you should not be bring all of this baggage in this relationship. You may need some help, and you should get it before you get married. Talk to your boyfriend, air your feelings once and for all. Ask him if you have any thing to be worried about. and that you need to get this straightened out before you get married, because you want a marriage that is secure, and that you do not want to have to be looking over your shoulders!
2006-10-27 07:33:31 · answer #9 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hard to know waht's going on, but it doesn't seem that your situation is typical of that of a cheater. Most cheaters want to spend LESS time with their partners and are LESS affectionate. I think you're just getting pre-wedding jitters. Don't ruin your life and his, just because you are nervous!
2006-10-27 07:29:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋