My daughter is 8 she will be nine in January?

Question

She did not walk untill she was 19 months old, she did not speak well untill she was around three, before that she had her own langauge, She is now in the second grade after being held back in the first grade once, they threatened to fail her again but I took her out of school and am home schooling her now, Its very fustrating ,becuase I feel my daughter has a very low IQ and is on maybe a four or five year old level at the most emotionally, she has not been diagnosed with anything at all but its fustrating me so much I just wish I knew what was wrong with her. please help who should I call??? My other children at there right pace my two year old who will be three in January is even statring to notice something is not right about her.

Answer 1

has your daughter got any funny llittle obsessions or routines. reason why i am asking is it sounds familiar to my sons little ways. he has been diagnosed with aspergers syndrome, previous to knowing this i found it worrying and frustrating too. in basic things he has difficulties with but with other things that he should struggle with for his age, he is an expert! children are funny little people and sometimes we worry needlessly

Answer 2

Has the school done any testing? Have you talked to your doctor? Just because she didn't walk earlier or talk until she was three doesn't mean she has any kind of IQ problem.

She could be dyslexic...or have some other learning issue which could be defined through your doctor and school district. I agree with you about not wanting her held back, they tried to do that to my youngest in Kindergarten. She also didn't talk until she was three. (But then again she has two motor mouth older sisters lol) You need to define the problem before you can come up with a game plan! You really have to be an advocate for your child with the school district. They are obligated to provide testing and special classes if your child needs them. Call your district office and talk to them....believe it or not they are not the enemy although at times it feels like it. I know it's hard...I have one that doesn't know how to get anything but A's, one middle of the road A's & B's and my little struggler...but since she got tested and has an IEP (individual education program) she is bringing home A's & B's and did really well on the state tests last year. So there is hope!! hang in there and use everyone and everything you can find to help you figure out what is going on with your daughter and get her the right kind of teaching for her problem!!!

Answer 3

Your first step would be to take her to your family doctor. He/she will be able to refer you to a specialist who handles developmental delays. This specialist will probably be a mental health care professional, like a psychologist, and he/she can do some cognitive ability and IQ tests with your daughter to determine whether she has a specific learning disability. The doctor might also refer you to a neurologist, who can give your daughter a brain scan to make sure all areas are functioning normally on a physical level. If they don't find anything wrong with her, she may just need some special attention. Have you looked into enrolling her in a special education school? Children with special needs are much more productive in a highly-structured environment with trained professional who know how to best teach these individuals. I think your first stop should still be the doctor, though, because most special ed programs require a doctor's evaluation.

Answer 4

School districts usually have testing centers. Sounds like she needs testing soon so that they can get her the help she needs and isn't held back anymore.

You can contact your local school district main office and I'm sure they can refer you to the testing center. If they don't have one, they can refer you to an independent center.

Best of luck. The sooner you figure out what's going on, the better off your daughter will be.

It sounds sort of like one of my cousins. She did the same thing, but now she is in 7th grade and is an honor roll student. They always thought she was mildly autistic. It's apparent that she is lacking some social skills, but her mind works great. She's a special person and is a bit naive for her age.

The testing centers were a great help. Also, have you asked your doctor what he thinks?

Answer 5

You should contact the school board about having them pay for private tutoring or private special ED school services. Get you child an advocate to help you get the school to pay for these services. Put her back into the school system so they can provide these services.
Ask a doctor to have her evaluated my medical specialists trained to find and diagnose children with learning disabilities. Last but not least sign her up for Social Security once these diagnoses are made, and put her on the Easter Seals books so when she reaches adult hood there are funds there to help her. Make sure you address it now.

Answer 6

Take her to her doctor. She may have a learning disorder or dyslexia. My son was diagnosed with a learning disorder and was a few years behind in school he couldnt read at his grade level. But he got the help he needed and now is doing so much better. She needes to be tested. Talk to her teachers and suggest that they test her also. Its worth a shot. Good Luck

Answer 7

You should be discussing this with your doctor. If you are not satisfied with his lack of a "diagnosis", get a 2nd opininion. Most doctors will tell you that children develop at different paces. There could be many reasons why your daughter is having more difficulty, but only a doctor could tell you for sure.

Answer 8

This is something that should have been addressed in her yearly checkups over the past few years. I'd schedule an appointment with the pediatrician asap to see what's going on. They will check her hearing and vision too.

Answer 9

Take her to another doctor, and then another one until you find someone that will listen to you. Be strong and straightforward and DO NOT give up. I work with autistic children, and children with developmental disabilities, they system will walk on you and your daughter if you let it. Don't let it. You are the only voice for your daughter right now, and you need to raise it and keep raising it until someone listens to you. I know you will do all you can for her, just be strong and put your game face on, you will need it.

Answer 10

You need a good child psycologist. They can give an IQ test also and have her brain scanned for irregularities. She just may be where she wants to be. She may be slightly autistic....but that's not a major deal.